The secret of getting ahead is getting started.
Many people, including myself, have problems woth procrastination. One reason for procrastination is fear of getting something wrong. In some ways not getting things right is inevitable as a beginner unless we have a lot of support. There is a lot of information available to us and we need to work out what we need now. Getting the information we need and challenging our fear by taking action is the way forward, but it is easier said than done.
Sometimes you gotta meet people where they’re at. Sometimes that place is a Fred Myers Starbucks. Thankful for people who are willing to meet and help me put the puzzle pieces 🧩 of life back together.
Hi friends. I’m reaching out today to ask for a bit of help and kindness from my community. Asking for help is incredibly hard for me - I don’t like to be a bother and most likely have some deep seated fears around rejection. That is most likely why I started this campaign well over a month ago and haven’t fully put it out into the universe yet. I spend a lot of my energy helping other women with their health and am always preaching good self-care habits, including community, so I should take the advice I would give, yes? .
For over a decade I’ve been living with an autoimmune condition (hashimoto’s) that attacks my thyroid and causes systemic inflammation resulting in muscular pain, mental fogginess, lethargy and mood swings among other symptoms. I’ve seen a number of practitioners over the years, done tons of research and changed a lot in my lifestyle to try to heal and bring my quality of life up to where I think it should be. Severely restricting my diet has helped mitigate symptoms but it is extremely time intensive to keep up with a diet that only goes so far to aid in my healing. .
I’m currently seeing a practitioner that blends functional and ancestral medicines together, and she is a total nerd for the microbiome. I’m feeling really good about our treatment plan (basically a biofilm tx and then tear down my microbiome and rebuild it), but I could really use some assistance with the financial side of things. She told me about eFund Your Health, a crowdsourcing website just for medical bills that will match a portion of donations. I’ll be running some tests to pinpoint what type of latent infections and overgrowths I have, as well as a comprehensive hormone panel to address the imbalances there. I look forward to being able to share what works for me on my healing journey with others in my wellness practice someday.
Thank you if you’ve made it this far. The link to the fundraiser is in my bio. Any amount helps, or sharing with others if that feels right to you. Much love! 💗
The practice of 🔥asking for help 🔥will up-level your experience walking through this world.
When I learned that my limiting beliefs were dictating when, how often, in what circumstances, to whom I would ask for help, and that I could rewrite this script to become a more impactful leader, my mind was blown. 😳 🙌Slowly, over time, we can allow ourselves to practice asking for help, becoming better resourced, expediting and scaling projects, leaning into allies, delegating efficiently, and achieving greater outcomes than we thought possible. Plus, it's more fun 😆
Where do you hold yourself back from asking for help? What are two things you can ask for help with today?
#leadership #coaching #askingforhelp #practice #vulnerability #impact
Today has been an emotional rollercoaster, but I held on.
Yesterday I decided to start planning my 40th (mostly in denial about that) birthday party.
Today I remembered that I'm not good at organised. I had to manage my anxiety. I did that by walking @the_husky_ariel
5 miles. We watched the sunrise over Kincardine.
I then sent out the bat signal to ask for help in the organisation department. Asking for help is difficult for me; almost as difficult as realising when I need help. However, I did both!
I also got a delivery from Mindful Chef. I made a meal that was mostly salad. That reminded me that I hate salad, so I binned it.
Feeling cleansed and somewhat freer. One day at a time.
#depression #anxiety #ASD #executivedysfunction #executivedecisions #askingforhelp #helpingmyself #living #mentalhealth
As a business owner determined to succeed, it can be easy not to ask for help.
To think we can (or should) do it alone.
But in reality, when it comes to running a business, sometimes we just shouldn't try to do it all ourselves.
Sometimes we need to ask for a helping hand of someone who's been there before.
Sometimes getting to the other-side safely or with the least amount of cost means being humble enough to enlist others.
Just like a child can depend on a parent (or in this case an uncle and my amazing brother) to cross the street safely, a business owner can ask for help from other professionals who have crossed this road before and know what it takes to get to the other side.
What's the best thing you've asked for help with in your business?
I recently asked for help ... and want to give a special thanks to @silverleafoffice
for your bookkeeping wizardry 💕
Hi! This is a post to inform you that there might be a chance, big or a small, that I will start doing actual commissioning!
If you have recommendations of what I should do, please let me know under the comments. It would be a great help! I'm new to this, so I may need an extra hand.
( These are currently under my story )
#help #commission #talk #discussion #notice #plans #art #questions #askingforhelp #anyideas
چند عبارتی که ممکنه برای کمک خواستن استفاده کنیم رو یاد بگیریم!
Can you give me a hand with this?
(میشه کمکم کنی؟) .
Could you help me for a second? (میشه یک ثانیه کمکم کنی؟)
I wonder if you could help me with this? (ممکنه در این کار کمکم کنی؟)
Give me a hand with this, will you?
Lend me a hand with this, will you? (در این کار به من کمک میکنی؟)
Could you spare a moment? I need some help, please! (چند لحظه وقت داری؟ کمک لازم دارم) .
spare a moment (وقت داشتن، وقت در اختیار قرار دادن) .
lend somebody a hand/help (کمک کردن) .
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I saw a post from my lovely friend @sophiecliff
recently about her word for the year along with why she opts for using that as an approach over anything else. It completely sings to my tune and the magpie in me that loves a shiny and new approach had a think about what my word of the year will be.
Do you have a word of the year? Link in bio to a new blog on why this simple beauty is mine.
Hello friends. As many of you know times are tough in the monetary department of my life. I am working v hard to work as much as I can with Peets while I still can. (Thank u government 😒)As well as pouring my heart into working to help other people who are in need thru my internships and school courses- while trying to take care of my mental health. Like many of us, I struggle with asking for help. But I am taking this giant leap of faith, in who I am Nd in the power of asking. Anyway , while asking for help is hard - it makes it a little easier if I am offering something in return. So this is a long ass way of asking for your help- I will be holding a giant garage sale of old clothes, art pieces, Electronics, housing appliances, u name it, I will probably have it. I don’t have a set date yet because it’s going to take a lot of work to put together , but what I do have right now , is art! @wholewheathoneybren
is my art account- there are some pieces on there but not all of them. I will be working on more as I get ready for the sale - which will probably be over a couple weekends in March 🤞🏽 but in the mean time if any of y’all wanna help a homie out and go check out what I got on there - I will literally work for 5$ each if that’s what it comes down to. Lol I can paint u custom orders too. Hey u don’t like my art? That’s totally chill! Buy the canvas and paint over it ! No hard feelings at all ! But yeah this is me asking for help- thank u for anyone that read this all the way thru. I really wouldn’t be able to be where I am without knowing how supported I am. Will be posting specific dates on the sale the more progress I make. 🙏🏽🖤👽
Why should you work with YorkBridge? We answer only to our clients. Our team is focused on building collaborative and long-term relationships with our clients. Our goal is to take the stress of your finances and investing off of your shoulders. Visit the link in our bio for more info! #YorkBridge @carriemaglia
Mental health - My eldest turned 4 today. Birthdays in our family have always been THE best. But as a Mum the pressure to make that day special sometimes floors me 🎂
A year ago today I did exactly what we have done today. We had a special birthday breakfast 🥞 and then I took my son to nursery. Last year after I had dropped him off I came home sat on the sofa with my 6months old baby and cried my eyes out 😭
Even though I had made the perfect birthday for little boy, I felt nothing. I saw the joy in his face, but I didn’t feel it. I ate the delicious breakfast, but I didn’t taste it. I heard the praise from my husband that I was a wonderful Mummy, but I didn’t believe it.
That, my friends, is called being mentally ill! 🌧
I was drowning and I didn’t even realise it until I sat on that sofa and cried. What I did next changed my life..... I asked for help.
I contacted a baby sleep therapist to help with my baby who didn’t sleep more than 30min at night. 💤
I contacted a gym and started kick boxing 🥊
I contacted a doctor and got CBT therapy❤️ Reaching out and asking for help saved me. One year on and I still have anxiety, but I very much live minute to minute, enjoying each one as it comes. If you feel at all like you are drowning, or you can’t connect with things around you. If the joy has gone and you don’t look forward to anything. Ask for help! Ask a doctor. Ask a friend. Ask me! Don’t ignore it, “no one ever got better not asking for help!” @bryonygordon
❤️ @fearnecotton #happyplace #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #pnd #postnataldepression #recovery #perfectionist #askingforhelp #dontsufferinsilence #gethelp #pndrecovery #birthdays #stress #anxiety #depression
I am overwhelmed at the best of times but at the moment I am fully at risk of drowning, I am floating on a wardrobe door big enough for two people in ice cold water.
So in the interest of full disclosure as to what my life is actually like here is me sitting on the floor of my shithole room which I just can’t keep on top of it, with £10 to my name, £5000 in debt, struggling to make ends meet even with 5 job titles, my grandad in hospital about to die and just trying to get 25,000 words spread over 4 assignments written in the next 10 days.
Like I said, I’m drowning.
But the hardest part has been communicating that I need help, a lot of my tenacity and resilience has come from being my own number 1 cheerleader, but that’s not enough this time. So I’ve reached out to my tutors at uni and to friends and to my family and to people I work with and said hey I’m struggling.
All this to say that even if you have got this far off your own steam there is nothing wrong with pulling the ice cold whistle out of the dead captains mouth and blowing it to save yourself.
This is from one strong friend to any other strong friends out there, don’t wait for someone to check on you. It’s rare that people actually do despite them sharing that tweet on Mental Health Awareness Day that one time.
This is me telling all the strong friends out there to reach out if you are struggling. It’s worth it.
[image description: a selfie taken through a fisheye lens of Joeley sitting on the floor in her bedroom surround by clutter wearing an exasperated look on her face.]
#mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #resilience #askingforhelp #askforhelp #maturestudent #deadline #clutter #debt #workingclass #selfemployed #checkonyourstrongfriends #bodypositive
On Asking For Help: one of the best ways I learned the idea of asking for help was from my addictions professor. He is a wise, old man full of tales, and later became my clinical supervisor. He said when you ask someone for help, you’re giving that someone an opportunity to feel good about themselves. Certainly, he doesn’t hold the copywrite on this adage, but I’ve been able to use this with my clients. Here I am planning my week ahead and strategically asking my village for help in order to get things done. How have you asked for help lately? What hurdles do you face in asking for help?
Maybe relationships are not meant to last.
Maybe we will outdo each other.
Maybe we competed with one another.
I hate him with all my might.
For using me.
The table will turn soon. The job I did not get.
The job I will get. Will start everything for me.
Mammy give me your guidance as you will be my anchor.
LONELINESS & COMPASSION
As we live more in the cities these days, it’s easy to see many living somewhat isolated lives. Despite the many connections on social media or work colleagues, many are coming home to small high rises apartments, alone.
Far from real friends, family support and community based living. It’s a saddening thing when we see old people dying alone in apartments, disable/ old people stuck at home with no one to even know that they need food or help cleaning, young boys & girls feeling depressed- suicidal -anxious.
While I am just a small kitty, I do my best to bring joy to office people, disadvantage children, who come for environmental volunteering at the local Tree society.
I don’t know their story, I don’t know their day but what I can do is, at every encounter I have the potential to make a difference, in another’s life 😺.
Some starting tips :-
👭CONNECT; Make that phone call, send a silly message to a friend, join volunteering endeavours. Doesn’t mean you live alone, you have to be lonely ❤️
🌏NEIGHBOURHOOD KNOWS ; too busy? You only have limited time, know your neighbours you might have an elderly or disable person living close buy, that would appreciate 1 meal or help cleaning occasionally.
🐶🐱PETS; if it is within your capabilities to care for a pet, do consider adopting one. Animals are great healers and companions of the heart, unconditionally.
And last but not least,
REMEMBER that you are never too small, to make a difference in this world 🌏😸. Believe.
#littlelila #spiritualkitty #tabbycat #catsofinstagram #catvideos #compassion #loneliness #makingadifference #kindness #rescuecat #volunteering #askingforhelp #anxiety #emotionalbalance #higherpurpose #heartchakra #lifepurpose #spirituality #animalhealers #eldercare #disabled #dreambig #believeinyourself
Thanks to my family and friends who have been helping me while injured. I have had to learn through this mishap how to ask for help and let others do things. It has been a great learning.
#family #friends #injury #lessons #askingforhelp
My feelings about Instagram and its stupid, stupid algorithm. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I’m a person, not a brand, and my business is just me. Chronically physically and mentally ill me, like so many of you all out there who are so kind and generous with your time to read this. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It honestly feels completely gross to come on here and ask for likes and comments, but I’m asking for likes and comments. This account is new since I separated from my now just personal account, and in doing so I left behind all the “engagement credit” I had accumulated with @d.a.y.l.i.g.h.t.m.o.o.n
being public. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I did this knowingly, and it was the right move, but this slog back to relevancy (whatever that is 🙄) has been wearing on me. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Anyway, I’m still here and still relevant no matter what the ones and zeros are reporting. I’m very close to finishing my Introduction to Breath Work audio course, I’m stoked to share it with you. If you want first dibs to sign up, please subscribe to my mailing list, link in my profile (just make sure you check NEWS AND UPDATES while you’re filling out the subscription form) ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Thanks for being here, I think you are spectacular. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #askingforhelp #wereallinthistogether #tarotreader #writer #poet #yogateacher #breathwork #selfcare #healing #integration #embodiedhome
Strength is like the shapes and colours in this kaleidoscope: it comes in many forms and shades.
There are examples of this everywhere. Fragile babies can survive adverse conditions, beautiful flowers can find a gap in concrete and grow and there are some ants that can lift 50 times their body weight.
It is easy not to appreciate the various forms strength can take and rely on an idea of strength which is based on the British stiff upper lip: saying 'I'm okay' when we are not and forging on in the same way despite what is happening in our lives.
What if strength is about doing just the opposite? Sometimes true strength can be about pushing our comfort zone. It can be about asking for help, about saying 'actually, I'm not doing so well.’ It can be about having the strength to reach out and ask for help because for some it can be the most difficult thing.
If you are struggling and find the strength to ask for help it could turn out to be one of the best steps you ever take. It can improve your mental health and sense of wellbeing. It can improve the connection you have in your life and it can lead to conversations where important information is exchanged; it can lead to the words 'I've experienced similar too: I had no idea you felt like that!' These can be the most affirming of words to hear or say.
Asking for help and support or being honest that you are feeling vulnerable or in need of help gives other people permission to do the same. Having a culture in families, workplaces and communities where people ask for support when they need it and where people respond with compassion helps build stronger tribes and more resilient individuals.
Reaching out for counselling might be a good idea for you at the moment or maybe the support you require is different. Whatever the support you are looking for, remember that there is no shame in asking for it and often being able to do so shows strength.
#counselling #therapy #askingforhelp #selfcareisntselfish #selfcare #kaleidescope #selfcompassion #compassion #strongertogether #vulnerabilityisstrength #authenticity #strongercommunities #community #solidarity #itsokaynottobeokay #diversity #oxford
I am not really one for new years resolutions. I am however always here for personal growth. I have big plans for this year (see my recent 'kick ass' post) and realized the other day that in order to pursue them I have to make some changes. *
I am not sure why it is so hard for me to ask for help. Maybe because I am a middle child? I don't want to bother people, I don't want to impose. I'd rather just grin and bear it. *
Which is so stupid. Especially because most times people are offering a hand and still I turn it down. Why? Why is it so hard to just say yes? Why is it so hard to lean on the people that love me most? *
I don't have the answers, but now that I am asking the questions I hope I can get to the root of it and move forward. On to bigger and better in 2019, with hopefully a lil extra help if I need it.