and the ability to #ownyourshit
, make amends, learn, grow and move forward is so so important to me. I can #forgive
almost anything, and in the past I took this too far to the point of #enabling
. I now see that responsible #conflict
can be a #healing
process for all involved. It means the situation is more likely to be dealt with rather than repeated as a toxic pattern.
The past few years has been a real learning experience in healthy #boundaries
, standing my ground, saying #no
, letting people go, and being real about the effects our behaviours have on eachother.
A big part of that had been seeing and owning my part in these co-creations, and doing my part of the work.
I truely encourage accountability work, you’ll be amazed at how quickly issues can shift when you own your actions, have empathy for yourself and others, and put the energy of resistance and denial into taking responsibility.
We all fuck up, thats natural, but the pattern does not end with #denial
those we’ve harmed.