Freedom : I am the kind of child Indian parents typically dream about, a docile girl who just cared too much. My mother would often joke, please do something nasty so that I can bitch about you in my friend circle. But I stayed stagnant, scared to grow up because eventually I will have to get married and leave my family.
Marriage here is often a paradox, we expect the girl to be less of a girl and more of a goddess, all tolerant and giving and never, say never seeking.
I was a timid bride once, who was young and full of dreams and life she wanted to live and cherish to the fullest. A job she was happy with and a family she was blessed with.
All changed with the addition of the term married, I was expected to be someone else overnight, dish out scrumptious meals, work but not to be too involved in my job and leave it eventually, wear Indian clothes, act like a dummy to the extent that even colouring my hair had the power to create ruckus in the house, all through the years I went through a lot of abuse, the list is endless and rather than looking into the root of degeneration he chose to abandon me , conveniently blaming on someone else.
It was a shocker, years of subjugation took away my voice, all I knew was cry endlessly and think about dying. I suffered from depression, anxiety, irritable bowel syndrome, lactose and gluten allergies, sinusitis, endometriosis, PCOD,dysmenorrhea and sleeping disorders. The list is endless but the cause was clear. This time my parents and brother became my rock and gave me a nod of acceptance to everything I wanted to be. How I live, work and be. It was my voice and choice and I couldn't even believe I could live that existence and not asked to live the sacrificial life like Sita.
Please stop glorifying such sacrificial behaviour, promote strong women who run the world and raise your sons to accept them as their companions and not slaves.
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