If you change your decisions, you’ll change your life. And what’s gonna change your decisions more than anything? A little bit of courage.” - Mel Robbins.
I’m re-listening to the audiobook version of The 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins and BOY, the line above got me 🔥🔥🔥 It got me thinking about how I make decisions in my day-to-day life - both the big ones and small ones - and how that has changed over the years.
5 years ago I was FULL of fear. I was afraid of freaking everything and I doubted myself every step of the way: standing up in front of people I didn’t know, making eye contact with someone on the street, going out dancing without sleeves, submitting my CV for a new job, meeting that guy for a coffee.
And there was a point in time when I didn’t do any of these things because I was too afraid. I was afraid of being rejected, of not making the cut, of not being enough, of failing, of making a mistake, of not getting it perfect the first time around.
I see this now in my students that I teach now too. They are so afraid of making a mistake or getting something wrong that they opt to not do anything, to not try, to fail before they have even started. And in all honesty, I want to grab them by the ears and shake them awake and say: “Come on!! Wake up!! Your missing the point here!!” Fortunately, I am the type of person who wants to achieve more than anything. I want to be successful and therefore, I eventually realised that I needed to step beyond my fear if I was going to make something of myself.
So despite my fears of standing up in front of people - I became a high-school teacher and I’ve done that thing everyday for the last 6 years, in front of TEENAGERS no less!
Despite my fears of making eye contact with people in the street, I now purposefully practice looking at passersby and I now also aim to smile too whether it is returned or not.
Despite my fears of going out dancing without sleeves, or submitting my CV for a new job, or meeting that guy for a coffee…I decide to do it anyways.
Because here is what I’ve learned about fear, failure and making decisions:
Continued in the comments 👇