: I have a fear of singing with bands. Unlike most singers, singing acapella is waaay more comfortable for me. Harmonizing with a band while doing a cover is terrifying! (Jamming is totally different). Covers = what version, key, tempo, changes???... These are a few of the many questions swirling around my head as I'm remembering the words, performing, attempting to stay in the pocket, be interesting vocally, and stay on pitch... I'm exhausted just thinking about it LoL! (I know I'm not alone in this experience.)
After I was heckled by a comedian some years ago, after a dreadful performance, I decided not to Ever sing with a band unless it was a jam or rehearsed performance. Unrealistic as that may sound, I did it for a few yrs. Until I was invited by a friend to a place called @basquiatsbottle
People kept asking if I sing and if I was going to, I declined and kept declining. The band was soooo good! I was so inspired! But No, I would not embarrass myself.. Oh but in the end, they began to jam. Passing the mic, whatever you felt, Do. I Did! It felt good. The space felt safe. I went back again and again and again. I tried some covers.. some good performances, some not so good, all the while learning and facing that fear amongst family. .
Last night, at the 1 year anniversary I was asked to sing, I was determined to be free once and for all. To perform with the band and however they played the song I was going to find freedom in it. Initially, old habits crept in, oh but then.. I released. I was free and didn't care about any imperfections. We vibed!!! My stupid phone ran out of space and didn't catch the full vibe but this is some of what I caught. .
Thank you big bro. @thegodofsound
for calling me out almost a year ago. Letting me know you actually saw me and that I was safe. And big sis. @kahlia99
for always encouraging me, letting me know your journey, and ensuring me it will get easier. You all believed in me more than I believed in myself in that regard, and for that I will forever be grateful. .
Peace people. Apologies on the long post.
#faceyourfears #mandown #coversong #liveband