I had been living full time for almost a year when I finally posted this picture. Most of my family and friends had met me as my authentic self, but I still felt like I hadn’t really “come out”. I had witnessed something about our rights in the news and I remember posting about it the night before. I woke up feeling like I hadn’t said enough, hadn’t really expressed why I was so upset by what I’d read. Why it mattered to me that trans people aren’t welcome in parts of the world. This nagging feeling followed me all the way to work and it became clear; today was the day I was going to come out. I quietly posted this picture on August 10th, 2016 that included the hashtag #TransIsBeautiful
, stuffed my phone into my locker and went to work. I can’t express the amount of joy and love I felt for myself in that moment, the freedom.
So thank you to everyone who welcomed Cassandra to the world with open arms. It’s because of all of you that I’m able to live out loud. I’m acutely aware of the position I’m in, my privilege on this day to even write these words. My heart goes out to every LGBTQ+ person out there who hasn’t come out, can’t come out and won’t ever come out because it’s not safe to do so. Maybe you clicked the hashtag today and you’re reading this post on the other side of the world. If that’s you, let me say this one and for all:
You are loved, you have value, and your authentic self is Joy and pure magic. We’re here to lift you up, to be your voice when you have none, to be visible when you cannot. We’re here when you’re ready, when you’re safe. I love you. Cassandra 💖