I met this perfect little human 1 year ago today. And everyday since has been an absolute gift.
For me, I have been explicitly aware that my mindset has been shifting toward one of obligation and responsibility over the past 12 months. And I love it.
But what the fuck does that mean? It’s not working a 9-5 job you hate, to get a mortgage that cripples you, and sludge away in the system until your body breaks and you are filled with remorse and regret.
We are obligated to live our full potential. For ourselves and our children. I want Phoenix to see that he can do whatever the fuck he wants, as long as it’s on the path to being the best version of himself. It doesn’t matter what society tells him, what his teachers tell him, not even what I tell him. He needs to listen to his heart and go a thousand miles an hour toward that. We all do.
You don’t own anything to anyone. Base your actions on your inner principles, not on feelings of obligation.
I'm using instagram after long time because of super busy.
I'm too much to have schedule however it's really exciting for me.
I can enjoy own time only 3 or 4hours in a week.
Of course, I came here to study English but I wanna steal great skill for job as well.
I always need something and it's quite difficult to find.
I'm not filled.
What do I need?
I'm doing a lot of things to find them.
I wonder when I became such a person?🤔 #work
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"We must forever realise that the time is always ripe to do right." - Nelson Mandela
Today, 18th July 2018, marks what would have been the 100th birthday of the great man, Nelson Mandela. 🎉
A beacon of hope. 🙌🏻
Winner of a Nobel Peace Prize. 🏆
An inspirational human being. 🙏🏻
Mandela believed in justice. ⚖️
That no matter who you are.
No matter where you are.
No matter what you do.
No matter the circumstance.
We, as members of the human race. 🙋🏻♀️
We have an obligation. 👊🏻
To play our part.
To act with integrity.
To treat each other with respect. 🤝
To do the right thing.
On this day we remember the great contributions Mandela gave to humanity. 🙏🏻
Let us all follow the example of the great man and act accordingly. 🙋🏻♂️
Happy birthday, and rest in peace, Nelson Mandela. 🌹
Strive to live, live to strive. 🙏🏻
--> You are under no obligation to be the person you were yesterday. Every day is a 24 hour opportunity to better yourself. Be better than you were yesterday---the goal in recovery is to evolve. We know you got this! ✨
She explained to me all the reasons she could NOT. Basically claiming aloud ALL the reasons she was going to allow her desires to slip from her hands. None of her reasons pertained to herself, instead they all pertained to other people. People she had to help, places she had to go, time that was fleeting, & the chains from childhood trauma.
But these are the ultimate, MOST freeing words so many don’t realize! Those words are➡️ : “YOU. DONT. HAVE.TO!” She didn’t have to help everyone & put herself on the back burner. She didn’t have to attend every invitation. She didn’t have to keep repeating the words from her childhood. She didn’t have to believe the words from her childhood.
[Only After]: Fighting the need to do everything for everyone. After fighting through her need to please! After fighting for her spot in line, rather than allowing everyone ahead of her. After battling obligation, & what they would think when she didn’t go. Only AFTER saying good bye to those childhood voices! Did She realize a simple truth➡️: “I don’t have to!” A revelation she would have never allowed herself to admit! But a revelation that came AFTER years of being bossed around by countless others! Years of submission to a life she wasn’t mean to live. Years she chose to please, rather than do what she should! You see at some point in time you must make the choices for yourself that will push you forward! Choices that will serve your goals, desires, & purpose! Rather than live a life built on what OTHERS think of you, obligation, & a past that doesn’t care about your future! If you continuously say “I HAVE to” think of why you have to do those said things. Ask yourself if these “HAVE to’s” are benefiting your life anyway whatsoever.
[Think of this]
Because you HAVE to go to every party➡️your left over with no money. Because you HAVE to drive everyone around ➡️you have no time to go places you need to. Because you HAVE to do the career decided for you during childhood ➡️your resentful. Because you HAVE to please others ➡️you risk hurting yourself. Because you HAVE donate all your time to things you don’t want to do➡️you don’t do the things you SHOULD do!
PET PEEVE ALERT: when people say things like "that's just who I am", "that's how I'm wired" or any variation of this phrase. No no no! For some reason hearing things like this, even before I went down this coaching journey, has never sat well with me; it just didn't feel right. Now that I know the science behind it, I know it's not right! We can become so attached to "who we are" that we allow this idea to be the very thing that stunts our growth! Who you are and who you can be can change every single day of your life! You're under no obligation to remain the same person you were yesterday and OMG when you really internalize that fact... its breathtaking! You can literally be... the person you want to be... RIGHT NOW! You dont have to wait on the right time, the right job, more money, the partner, your kid to grow up, you to finish school, to start the business or whatever else. If you can detach from the idea that you're stuck as the person you've been in the past you can really unlock your potential!
My grandfather Joe used to always say, " Sunday is a holy day of obligation." Im not sure what that word means but here's to getting Obligated.
*Here’s a pretty picture to go along with my slightly angry caption*
So many times I see people shaming others for stepping away from toxic family members.
Blood is not synonymous with obligation.
Just because you share the same DNA does not mean you are obligated to stay.
Family is just a word. So many people are taught this every day. Why do we feel as if we must be loyal to people that treat us like crap, just because we happen to share the same family tree?
Do not approach me with your “but they’re your FAMILY” justifications.
I want none of it.
You do not have to put up with people who talk trash about you, in the name of family.
You do not have to put up with people who abuse you, in the name of family.
You do not have to put up with people who spit in your face, in the name of family.
You do not...
You do not...
You do not.
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