🌹MIRROR MIRROR... From the moment we are born, we enter into relationship with an other. That other is our first reflection, our mirror. In their face we experience the first perceptions of our self. That face(and the person behind it) and what it communicates to us is how we develop of our identity... Who We Are. This powerful process where we experience (through an other) being Noticed, Attuned To, Loved, Delighted In, Wanted, Adored, Cared For shapes us. We can also experience and take in the converse of these things - Disgust, Frustration, Intolerance, Disinterest, Devaluing, A Lack of Being Noticed, Attuned To, Valued and on. (The early origins of shame and feeling we are not ok). As @doug.gustafson.9
and I were reflecting on our week and the work we do last eve, as we often do, a discussion about this powerful process of “mirroring” began. We reminded ourselves about how critical it is and how mirroring in relationships never stops. It happens from Mother to Father to Close Friends, To Our First Loves & with Our Current Love.
What’s different in later development is we have (hopefully) a more developed self and choice. We can and must choose the “mirrors” we want to look into and be shaped by. And we must decide if what is reflected back to us is a true reflection or not. When we surround ourselves with loving others who can love us well, we are affirmed and uplifted, and we feel accepted and loved. But we must be open to receiving reflections that are not shiny about ourselves too if we want to grow, expand ourselves, further our wholeness and learn to be loving reflections for others. Have the Mirrors in Your Life been good to you? Do you feel loved by them? Do you feel lovingly challenged by them? What kind of Mirror are you to Others? Your Children? Your Lover? 🌹