Generally, I’ve always been a pretty confident, no fucks given kinda girl when it comes to myself and my body. When people ask me about my self love or body positivity ‘journey’ I often think well…I don’t feel like I have that much of a journey. It’s just how I’ve always been and how I was raised and I put it down to mindset, parenting and a pretty damn lucky life. But as a vocal teacher, a fashion business owner, an aunty and a woman in general, I also sometimes think I should have more advice to offer in this realm as I fully understand and see every day how important it is to shaping the young women in this world we live in.
But then I think, no…I do understand and I do have something to offer. I do remember the pressures that are put on young girls to look and act a certain way. Yes, I may have never cared that much about it, but I saw it happen. I do know that, no matter how confident you are, we all have those days where you catch yourself in a reflection or see a photo taken of you and think…ugh.
This photo was one of those for me. It was a fleeting thought and completely unreasonable, but the thought was there. It’s from a photoshoot I did with my photographer brother on the weekend and when I first saw it I thought about how the chunky knit did odd things for my shape, how there are lumps where there aren’t ‘supposed’ to be lumps and how I’m standing on an odd angle. My second thought? Fuck that. I love that jumper and that dress, I love my curves, I like my hair and I felt good that day 🤷
I think the best advice I can give to anyone as far as self love goes is to stop worrying about what you think everyone else is thinking. Chances are they aren’t thinking it at all. Chances are you’ve exaggerated all your so called ‘flaws’ in your mind and no one else is even noticing the things you are. And if they are…who even cares? Think about how you feel, do and wear what makes you feel good and focus on pleasing yourself instead of everyone else around you. I promise you will be happier for it.
Wearing our Darcy Dress and Terri Turtleneck, both available in sizes 6 - 22 🌻
Shot by: @corndogliam