Let’s talk about #sex
Or rather, #sexuality
. My opinion? It doesn’t exist. Why? Because gender is an essential part of sexuality. If you’re #straight
you are a woman who is sexually attracted to a man, or a man who is sexually attracted to a woman. If you are #gay
, or #lesbian
, you are a man or woman who is attracted to someone of your same gender.
But if #gender
isn’t real, then where does that leave sexuality? If gender is a societal construct, consequently isn’t sexuality as well?
Last week I wrote a series about my exes: two women, one man. This, along with lingering confusions about my gender identity from fans of the “#RealWorld
” and “#TheChallenge
” forced me to ask myself: why do we care so much about the gender of who people sleep with? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
If there were no boxes, no limitations, no labels, do you know what we would have more of?
SEX. Unbridled. Unlabeled. Uninhibited SEX.
At the risk of sounding controversial, I will say this: I’ve evolved (and yes, I mean it when I say EVOLVED) past society’s gender construct. I have moved on from personal and societal limitations regarding sex and sexuality. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I fuck who I want to fuck. I make #love
with who I want to make love with. I have sex with who I want, when I want because I spend my time more worried about #consent
, and #compassion
than I do what is between a person’s legs, and what that “makes” them. Furthermore I could care less about what it “makes” me by sleeping with them.
I love sex with people with vaginas. I love sex with people with penises. A vagina does not make a #woman
, a penis does not makes a #man
People are people. Sex is Sex. And having great, healthy sex with great, healthy people is my priority.