It makes me SO mad that a girl can say she was raped and people say shes lying then the guy says it never happened and everyone believes him. Some guys think they are so entitled to fuck whoever they want... if a girl says no whether shes your girlfriend or a girl you meet at a party she means fucking no. This world is so fucked up it makes me sick. * and i realize men are abused too and thats not cool either but more men get away with it then women* #sexualabuse #awareness #consent
As it has been said, “if you don’t stand for something, you’ll stand for anything.” What does that actually mean? There is strength in consciously choosing to accept things as they are, however unfavorable because it allows you to clarify your desires and thus your intention in how to respond. You don’t have to stand for the unacceptable. But if you accept that as something temporary, then you’re standing for something far greater: #freedomofchoice
(you always have a #choice
Give yourself permission to choose something outside the box vs feeling like your stuck with an “obvious” answer.
This combination—consent and intent—delivers you to making different choices that serves your highest good. You can choose to feel free in prison, even though it doesn’t change the fact that you’re incarcerated. Choosing to not let circumstances surrounding you imprison you is your power. #cosasdelavida
••• #ownit #yourtruth #yourpower #yourvoice #spiritual #consent #intent #wisdom #strengh
Amy told me her story, chatting with me as if I am her oldest, dearest friend. She talked about life as a survivor of rape. She talked about life as she knew it before and life as she lives it now. She went through her own complicated grieving process, as survivors often do.
Amy spoke so openly and so candidly, with honesty and grace, about the three men who raped her and, unbeknownst to them, gave her the steadfast purpose with which she now lives.
Amy + Willlow are @soldiersofcreation.
One half a survivor, the other a supporter- both on a mission to provide victims with resources and a safe space to connect and be heard.
On June 27th I will be attending their fundraiser for Women’s College Hospital’s Sexual Assualt + Domestic Violence Care Centre. It’s such an important cause, so please, click the link in the @soldiersofcreation
bio and show your face. I’d love to see you there 👊 #conversationsaboutdeath
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🌷🌷🌷 Apologies for the silence from SELF • some serrriouss self care was in need for the team 🌷 but we are back!!! Waiting for a few more pieces and spaces are still open for anyone wanting to be featured within the first issue on CONSENT! (Especially looking for writers & a few more visual artists) 🌷
Healers deserve to eat, too. 💯FLASH SALE! My new ebook Consentopia is 50% off for the next 6 hours only! Send me a DM to preorder or click the link in my bio to purchase on my website. It’s only $11 with the discount. Use the code FREESHIPPING1 to bypass the shipping part or pay with Venmo, CashApp, PayPal, or Google Wallet by sending me a DM! 🔮💜⭐️⭐️💕❤️🔮💜⭐️💕❤️🔮💜⭐️💕❤️🔮 #Consent #Consentopia #CreatingConsentCulture #austinpowers #sexpositive #sexology
PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT:
just because you are DRUNK does not mean that it’s a free pass for you to ask someone if they can kiss you, perform oral, or perform vaginal/anal sex with you. if both people are DRUNK, then it is also a RAPE if one asks another to perform something to them while knowing the other isn’t sober enough to make a coherent decision. even if both people like each other and want to do it, sexual acts should NOT be performed while under the influence of alcohol. don’t even kiss someone when you’re drunk. don’t hunt for sex or think that your confidence will increase if you drink beyond your limit to speak to someone you’re too scared to speak to sober. if you want to kiss someone or have sex with someone, ASK THEM WHEN THEY ARE SOBER. consent is not just when your partner says “yes”. NEWS FLASH: CONSENT IS SOBER, ONGOING, ACTIVE, RECIPROCATIVE, and ENTHUSIASTIC. pulling the “oh I was drunk” or “oh I was way too fucked up” card is not a justification. especially if the person isn’t sober either. as complicated as each situation goes, you MUST know that if it is not sober and not pre-planned, it is RAPE. 🎨 by @elwingbling
##creatingconsentculture #endrapeculture #sex #consent #stoprapeeducate
I’ve posted this article before, but I’m throwing it out there again. I’m passionate about ending prostitution- both legal and illegal- because lawful or not, men and women are being treated like dirt. Here’s just one statistic: women in prostitution have the same rates of Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) as torture survivors. Read this article about studies done over the last thirty years, then we can have a conversation about prostitution.
You owe nothing. Don’t let anyone make you feel otherwise.
Photo courtesy of Avalon sexual assault centre
Or if you’re poly (and not cheating), but, fail to communicate or practice safe sex....that is sexual predator territory! 💯💯💯 💯FLASH SALE! My new ebook Consentopia is 50% off for the next 6 hours only! Send me a DM to preorder or click the link in my bio to purchase on my website. It’s only $11 with the discount. Use the code FREESHIPPING1 to bypass the shipping part or pay with Venmo, CashApp, PayPal, or Google Wallet by sending me a DM! 🔮💜⭐️⭐️💕❤️🔮💜⭐️💕❤️🔮💜⭐️💕❤️🔮 #Consent #Consentopia #CreatingConsentCulture #austinpowers #sexpositive #sexology #cheaters #poly #polyamory #communication
It was girls’ movie night in the conservative Christian organization I was part of and we were watching Seven Brides for Seven Brothers. Our movie choices were extremely limited because, of course, there couldn’t be any language or violence or anything remotely sexual beyond a chaste kiss and the blushing announcement that the main female character was pregnant. What wasn’t scrutinized however were the actual relationships in the movie. We watched as the girls in the movie were literally snatched from their homes and taken captive. And, oh hey! A couple of months later they all miraculously fall in love with the men who captured them and decide to get married.
Was this #relationshipgoals
?? I wish that Seven Brides for Seven Brothers was the only reference I’d seen to “romance” like this. But it’s all over the old tv shows, movies and books that I consumed growing up. Girl demurely resists the advances of man. Man keeps pursuing relentlessly. Girl realizes she was ridiculously to not appreciate this man before and quickly falls hopelessly in love with man and they live happily ever after. (Whaaaaaaaat?!) As I raise a son and a daughter I’m thinking carefully about what media they’re exposed to. But unlike the conservative institutions of my past I’m not so concerned with swearing and sex. I’m looking at the relationships. Is my son learning that the person he’s attracted to will fall for him if he just keep pursing long enough? Is my daughter learning that stalking and pushing boundaries constitute love?
Last week yet another school shooter was revealed to have a history of violence against women. He was angry that a classmate didn’t appreciate his repeated advances. He shot and killed her and nine others.
If you believe the headlines you’ll think that behind every violent man is a woman who spurned his advances. As if the woman saying “yes” would have prevented any of this from happening.
Violence against women is serious and real and it comes it comes in many forms. And as we take action against it in real life we can also call out the fictionalized depictions of “romance” that set our children up for dangerous relationships.
Spokane Teen Council is having a marathon two weeks of teaching at local high schools. Here’s Madelyn and Emma teaching birth control methods with an added piece on consent.
Special note: we are unable to open condoms in Spokane public high schools so we use a “sweater” that Julie crocheted for our wooden demonstration tool.
#peerledsexed #sexeducation #consent #spokane #washington
i do not care
when you suggest
to squeeze our hearts
to spice our day
a lemon's juice
as you mean
i care about
your wording and
and if they imply
a question or
if you forget suggesting
without watching closely
if i nod
or shake my head
if i am ready
to taste coffee, tea
with you, duh
i owe you nothing
except well-bred weeds
i'm no one's property
'cause this is serious.
i do not ever play.
makes all the difference.
and i care
about my own well-being.
spice your day alone
(if you can't see or hear or sense
or even do not want to),
you are capable
you have two hands
(though i'm not really sure
about your rationality).
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----- for explorations in black | white photography.
#creativejourney #arttherapy #piandanne #writing #poetry #poet #poem #misogyny #consent #no #wellbeing
GenPol’s policy paper ‘Can Education Stop Abuse?’ was quoted in the Guardian for an article about Revenge Porn and Education. Available to read now via our blog- link to our website in bio, then follow the prompts to our blog. [Illustration: Christine Roesch for The Guardian]