buy this bra, you’ll get guys. buy this car, you’ll get girls. the truth is: the makeup they’re selling to make you feel prettier is the same makeup you buy to stop feeling shittier about this lie they keep telling you that you are not enough. the movies we watch, all the shows on tv. the more I watch the more I see, do I need you to complete me? yes love is the answer, but if you can’t love yourself how could you ever love me? and loving yourself.. what does that even mean? massages and selfies? the more I think about it the more it feels weird. I’ve always been taught that self love is something to be feared. arrogance is bad and vanity is not good. so what should I do? how should I act? I’m supposed to love myself but how do I even do that? I got a trick I picked up from a friend, who noticed I was quick to defend her when she would say something negative about herself. she asked me why I was filling up her cup constantly and yet treating my own so irresponsibly. when I looked in the mirror my voice was quite clear “you’re ugly, you’re too thin, you’ve got pimples on your chin”. that was when she gave me a piece of advice that changed my life. she gave me a hug and she said “treat yourself like someone you love”. I couldn’t believe that I had been letting myself forget that I was what I’ve been looking for. deep in my core I knew it was time to stop looking for more, until I could look through all my fears and into a mirror and see clearly that the person looking back at me was the only person who could make me happy. I am already enough. I am not any more special or unique than you. you are already enough. when you start to see that, you will start to be that. your world will get brighter. you will start to see life as a lover and not a fighter. and that life? you deserve it, because you are enough. you are worth it. there is no point in letting yourself keep forgetting, because no matter what you say or do: you are perfect. the flaws you see in your reflection are only protection against all the doubts you have of your perfection. YOU are what you have been looking for.
-spoken by adam roa