Where are all my empaths at? 🌿
Sisters and brothers I feel you! Really. I feel your vibrations of pain, joy, suffering, calmness, anger, excitement - all of it. 🥀
This morning I felt the collective so intensely that I was completely drained of energy. So I went outside and “earthed.” I put my feet in the mud and let Mother Earth ground me. (It’s been a while since I’ve been grounded by my mama?!) 😆
“Earthing” is a highly grounding practice especially for empaths because it charges us with the earth’s natural energy. 🌎
Go intentionally stick your bare toes in the dirt and notice how much better you feel! 👣
🍃 In the parent-child relationship, the parents assume responsibility for all of the child’s needs - anticipating them as best they can. This is how it should be, because children are truly dependent, in every sense of the word.⠀
Co-dependency among adults is another story entirely. This is fundamentally unhealthy, because the mother-child merging of boundaries is not meant to extend beyond childhood. The process of becoming an adult is all about taking responsibility for our own needs, and releasing our parents from that responsibility.⠀
If we're continuing to seek love, approval, and validation from other people - just as we needed from our parents when we were a child - then we haven't truly grown up. And if we have kids, we can even end up relying on our children to meet our emotional needs, in addition to (or instead of) the other way around. This isn't the way the parent-child relationship is supposed to work.⠀
The greatest gift we can give to future generations is to refuse to pass down the pattern of co-dependency, by choosing to show up for OURSELVES as the adult, as the parent who loves and validates us.⠀
To find out more about how to do this, check out the article *How to Escape the Co-dependency Trap*, through my profile link. We may have learned this from our parents, but we can choose not to pass it on.
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"Parents have a choice …. to change the child to fit the environment,
or change the environment to fit the child"
But the debilitating part for us as parents is, so often the neurodiverse quality our children display is the same one that was 'beaten' out of us as children. We, as parents are then caught between the aching desire to accept our children for their differently wired brains, and healing the trauma of being differently wired ourselves. We're caught between wanting to do what is right for our kids and breaking away from the shame patters thrust upon us for displaying these same exact behaviors and nuances when we were their age.
But we (parents) CAN break free of the shame, the trauma and the suffering. Not only can we save ourselves, we can save our children too. We can heal our entire family and liberate our brilliant expression. We can give our kids permission to be sensitive, neurodiverse, and exceptional minds in a world who is determined to stomp the creative genius away.
You don't have to suffer anymore. Come work with me and together we can heal you, your children and your entire family. "I want children whose brains who are wired differently to be encouraged to find their niche, rather than changing to fit other peoples idea of normal." Together we can change the world. YOU are the answer, YOU are the way shower. Help lead the way and pave the path for a generation of neurodiverse children. ~ The Mommy Healer
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Reading about narcissism is so eye-opening! It’s crazy how much clarity it will bring you if you’ve ever encountered one in your life! “Becoming The Narcissists Worst Nightmare” is such a fantastic read! It will really make you understand how a narcissists brain operates and how to negate and stop the negativity they bring to you. Im about halfway through it and its been so helpful! I’m so thankful for life right now! It seriously couldn’t be any better!😎❤️ #narcissism #selfhelp #learn #read #psychology #mentalhealth #happy #life #books #narcissist #mental #empathic #psychology
Wow! What a week it has been.⠀
At the beginning of it, I was exhausted - on the verge of slipping back into my old fatigued days. I had just spent days channeling, writing and tidying up my book proposal for @hayhouseaustralia
as part of the Melbourne Writers Workshop. Being an empath, I had to deep-dive and really dig into myself to find the feelings, words and guidance that needed to pour out of me.⠀
During this process, "The Empowered Empath Empress - How to rise and succeed as an empathic female leader" was born. 💝⠀
A guide for all empathic female leaders - current and aspiring - to understand and align themselves with their sensitive side even in the workplace. A guide on how to identify what you want, in the way that you want it and then how to ask for it without guilt or excuses. A guide to set and protect your sensitive boundaries to excel in your career, without the "hustle". 😊⠀
This year, during a gorgeous retreat, I put out into the world that I had a book inside of me and this is it. The beginning of it. Whether the proposal gets through or not, this book is being written because the floodgates have opened and I believe sensitive women need this book. It's the book I wish I had when navigating my own career a decade ago, but it's never too late. 📖⠀
Watch this space for 2019... ⠀
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I just finished baling watching this and hearing @Diddy
’s voice being so kind and loving to his kids since the sudden passing of their loving mom.. He has been a full time mom and dad to them so they don’t feel the pain of their mom’s absence.. It is very hard to be someone who is as #empathic
as me! I feel ppl’s sadness and pain so deeply.. and it literally breaks my heart.. I also feel God’s angels around these beautiful kids and I empathize with #Diddy
because I’ve had to protect ppl while I was still grieving myself in many different situation in my life and it’s one of the hardest things in the world.. it is truly heroic and a selfless act.. Please Pray for @diddy
🍃 Mindfulness used to be seen as a fringe idea, an expression of spirituality rather than a practical skill. But in recent years there's been a plethora of research proving it's benefits (even in corporate America!), catapulting it into the mainstream.⠀
I couldn't be happier about this, because I've learned from experience that non-judgemental awareness of our emotions is the key to emotional intelligence and self-mastery. It truly is the foundation!⠀
However, there is a downside to the widespread embracing of mindfulness, and this can be summed up in 2 words: spiritual bypass.⠀
Unfortunately, like any powerful tool, mindfulness can be used for good and for ill - depending on how we do it. If we use it to embrace our feelings with compassionate curiosity, it will benefit us tremendously.⠀
But if we do it in a single-minded quest to achieve in inner peace, by only focusing on thoughts/mantras/etc that affirm how we want to feel (rather than how we actually feel), we'll simply end up covering up and shutting down our emotions.⠀
What mindfulness practices have you learned that honor your emotions and allow them to be felt?
As my daughter grows we are learning more about her needs. Kids are all different and never hold up to our preconceived notions. She’s incredibly social, in comparison to her father and I. She is also very empathic. Those two are a tough combination. She feels those around her deeply, coming home with bad headaches after school, sometimes crying. We have developed a practice of spending time with the trees, everyday, after she returns home from being around people. I can physically see the change come over her. Nature is such a great equalizer. The trees help her find a calm balance, realizing what are her emotions and what are others. .
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RESCUEING VS EMPATHY
The beautiful Tiber River at sunset in Rome reminded me of a psychological "river analogy" used to discuss the difference between empathy and rescueing. I use this story to explain the potentially detrimental effects of rescueing on relationships.
Imagine you are walking towards a fast moving river. You notice someone you know, struggling and calling for help. You stop and decide what the best option is for being helpful.
You may decide quickly to jump in the torrent and struggle along with the person, possibly exhausting yourself holding them up. This may be an appropriate choice if they are genuinely unable to cope, feel ill or overwhelmed or it is crucial to save their lives. Rescueing is very helpful in these circumstances and shows compassion for the other. However, if the other person feels disempowered, doesn't want or need the type of support offered, rescueing can be a problematic behaviour. This is particularly the case in relationships, when rescueing can sometimes be perceived as interference, disrespectful, belittling or controlling, even when well intentioned.
An alternative is to believe that the other person is capable and competent. Offer help that the person actually needs, not what you think they need. Empathy is defined as a person’s ability to recognise and share the emotions of another person or sentient being. It is not the same as rescueing. For example, offering a stick and asking the other to pull themselves out, or suggesting they back float to conserve energy would be alternatives to rescueing. Helping someone empathetically to help themselves.
Are you a rescuer?
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