Let’s talk anger that comes from trauma. A lot of times when someone has been through some intense shit that caused them to become over worked or over stressed our brain starts figuring out defense mechanisms. One of my defense mechanisms as well as many others is to push down emotions. To protect my situation I learned to fake it to make it! There wasn’t a day in my childhood where I can even remember anyone asking me “what’s wrong”. I pushed everything down so far I wasn’t the slightest bit on edge. As I got older, the more that added up the less of an emotional feeler I became. When I tried to love it turned to hatred. The slightest words I would feel the need to jump back and have a come back. I remember fighting because I didn’t like the way someone looked at me. Anger from trauma comes in stages. Stage 1) we take it out on ourselves, we hate ourselves, we want to torture ourselves. I remember just wanting to bleed because the pain made me feel alive. Stage 2) we take it out on the people we love by piling our issues over on to them, getting mad when they don’t understand, snapping for no apparent reason, making up things in our mind. Stage 3) black outs when we get upset, adrenaline taking over and losing control, doing things we would never do while being ourselves. Stage 4) hurting live things to settle your anger, sometimes killing or torturing.
Let me tell you a quick disturbing story about my anger at a young age. After 2 years of being raped by my father I became angry. I didn’t realize how angry I was at the time. I seemed fine. I was playing outside with the 4 little kittens we had from my brothers cat. They wouldn’t shut the fuck up, so I picked them up and put them into an empty ice chest. I closed it and left them there all day. The next day I went out to play and I opened the ice chest and saw the kittens lying there stiff, full of sweat. I didn’t even shed a tear. All I could think was to hide them so my dad wouldn’t find out, so I put them into a dresser in the shed and left them. At the time I didn’t realize how mad I was at myself or him. Anger goes unnoticed with PTSD! Just get them help!
I was searching for me all along. I remember when I walked around lost and confused trying to fill that void in my heart ❤️ with so many other things. It amazing to know that I came around and found out it was me I was looking for 💛 to love myself in every way. To respect ✊🏻 myself in every way and to give to me. I am a women 👸who is flayed in so many ways, but I’ve learned to except 🙏🏻 every single one of them and continue to learn more about life and myself. Life is so precious and I appreciate every single person that is willing to stay by my side through the good and the bad. Be humble , stay grateful and remember there is others that have it worse. -
#blessed #lovethyself #women #empowerment #give #cherish #embrace #hardtimes #goodtimes #flawed #fabulous #smile #beautiful #world #global #family #true
Becoming an empowered eater:
1) Find a food mantra
2) Have a decent breakfast
3) Wean your palate
4) Add fat
5) Choose portion controlled snacks
6) Drink a glass of water
7) Choose cheese over chips at a party
8) Don't go food shopping on an empty stomach
9) Divide your cart in half
10) Distract yourself
These came from an article https://www.cnn.com/2016/11/21/health/bliss-point-food/index.html and ALL have valid points. Although I don't follow them the same way the article describes, I see validity in their point while at the same time there are situations where some of them would not work for me.
The point is, experiment and have an open mind. Every day does not have to be the same! Just like I talked about in the intermittent fasting video, don't get stuck in a rut https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vfYidQnlf4I ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Set up your environment for success. Mary asked how do you combat stress eating? The answer; you experiment and learn to setup your environment for success. What works one day may not work another day. What works on one season of life might not work in another. What works for one person may not work for you, but later on in another season it might work for you. Mainly, take each failure and use it as an opportunity to LEARN HOW TO FIX IT. Be a troubleshooter. You can!!!!!!
If you need help, just ask 💙💚💛🧡💜
PS since the links above might not work here, feel free to message me and ask for them.
Several years ago, while discussing my career path with someone very close to me, I was asked "when will enough be enough?" And to this day, I can remember the feeling of my tongue -- tied -- as I stumbled to find a response to the question.
Because my pursuit has never been about feeling like it was "enough." Nor has it been about an insatiable desire for something "more." Quite the contrary, my journey thus far has been about seizing every opportunity to learn and to develop and to test my skill set. THOSE are the emotions I am hooked on. Those types of experiences are my drugs.
So when will enough by enough? I don't know yet. Because I am still deciding what I want to be when I grow up. And I am working through that process by trying everything I can get my hands on. Because I refused to be placed in any type of box. #notetoself
Solar Eclipse in Cancer that we had a few days ago was forming an opposition with Pluto! This Eclipse is giving us an amazing opportunity to turn things in our favor. Check out my new video, and see what will this Eclipse bring to your Zodiac (and Rising) sign and subscribe for more astrology videos! The link is in my Instagram bio! :)
Send me a message on Instagram if you're interested in having a personal astrology reading with me. 😊✨ Love, Stefan 💙
Hino de ensinamento de @modices
nesse final de domingo: a gente precisa conversar mais sobre beleza, se olhar mais no espelho, olhar pra outras belezas, ver beleza no outro sem deixar de ver beleza na gente, saber reconhecer QUE É BONITA SIM 👸🏼 🦄💕🌈 #modicesinspira
One merely needs to be present and observe with detachment and all is shown.
Namaste beautiful one 🙏🏻❤️
I adore my sequin kimono, as well as warm summer nights, so all is well. ✨
I get a lot of questions about the 🦋Butterfly Campaign🦋, how I’m earning a paid for car, and just what it is exactly that we do.
To be honest... it would be a crazy long post to really explain it all, but if there was one word that truly embodied what this is all about... it’s HOPE❤️
❤️HOPE for those suffering from health illnesses.
❤️HOPE for those struggling financially.
❤️HOPE for those wanting to spend more time with their loved ones.
❤️HOPE for those just trying to put food on the table.
We are giving HOPE for a better future around the globe 🌎
I had almost given up on my dreams. In fact just a year ago I was pondering whether or not I was doing the right thing by my family and myself with my previous endeavor - after losing more than I gained in the 3.5 years with the company.
Thank goodness for success leaving clues and an amazing friend who refused to let me have a closed mind 😘. I opened my eyes to my reality, opened my heart to this beautiful movement🦋, and opened my mind to change when I was finally DONE saying “well maybe one day... if I just keep on keepin on...” (definition of insanity y’all).
And now, just 6 months in, I not only have HOPE but confidence that I’m in the right vehicle to make my dreams my reality! .
I can’t wait to see what our lives look like a year... or even 6 months from now! #blessed #successleavesclues #charitablegiving #thebutterflycampaign #empowerment #women #paidfor #definitionofinsanity #openminded #growthmindset
The Feature: “My father always told me to, “stay out of crazy people’s heads.” At face value, this might seem obvious or even a bit silly. But what he meant was we spend so much time worrying about what other people are thinking about us, or otherwise. Or even trying to rationalize behaviors and actions that, in reality, have nothing to do with us.”- @mikey718_
on the best advice he ever received. Read more of his @be_modernman
article by clicking the link listed in the bio. Remember: read, like and share! #bemodernman #blackmenxcel #empowerment #entrepreneurship #blackenterprise
“Here's to strong women. May we know them. May we be them. May we raise them.” -Unknown
Such a relaxing view of the lake.
Gift yourself the time, space, energy and healing you need.
You are worth it.
Just want to take a minute to thank you all for supporting Edify - whether it's through prayer, sharing Edify with others, financially or through learning more about us here & liking our posts - we are thankful for you!
nothing makes me happier then sunshine and swimsuits ☀️👙
Once upon a time I felt like I had to be “doing things” all the time. Then, once upon a later time, I said “f**k that” and started doing less things all the time and felt way happier, less stressed, and more connected with my present moment.⠀
Before bed tonight, check in with yourself to see what’s feeling good in your life and what’s not. What’s in flow? What lights you up? What gives you energy? Makes you laugh your ass off and want more?⠀
Alternatively; what’s depleting you? Feeling super strained? Not aligned with your goddess vision?⠀
Once you start to recognize the things in your life that aren’t serving you, you can create energetic and physical boundaries.....⠀
You know...saying no, not spilling love into things (or people) not serving your highest self, resting more, etc etc....⠀
With alignment comes boundaries. With boundaries come freedom. With freedom comes more time & space to do the things that bring you joy!⠀
Anyways, I’m sleepy, sun drenched, and filled up on Sunday vibes...and sooo hoping the week ahead is bringing you excitement & a sense of peace above all else :)⠀
Love you ladies and this whole tribe so much xo night night (5:58pm).⠀
#Jointhegirltribe #girltribe #selflove #empowerment #empoweringwomen #womenempowerment #women #feminism #feminist #womeninbusiness #femaleentrepreneurs #spirit #spiritualgangster #soulpreneur #sisterhood #risesisterrise #girlgang #quote #poetry #bossbabes #ladyboss #sundays #sundayvibes #sunday #weekend #summer
The more I let go of big or small irritations or expectations, the better I feel...🙏 Love this affirmation for the week maybe give it a try? : ”I allow everything to be as it is.
What I want is already on it's way.
I release all that doesn't serve me. ”🥂✨💕 #mindfulnessmatters #sundayvibes #lovelife
Successful LA weekend in the books. @boscar10
and I had a great time in Cabo a couple of years ago, and thought it was time for around ✌🏼 THANKFUL to call him one of my best friends, and now a solidified travel companion.
We are elated to announce that our host @jonathanjonesspeaks
been selected to be featured as a 2018 Summer Millennials To Watch & nominated for the Fall 2019 Class of Millennials to Watch! Please vote for him (Link in bio)! This is only an opportunity that has been afforded because of YOU! By you listening to the podcast and showing support. So each and every vote means so much. So please continue to vote you can do so daily.
Vote. Link in Bio! #SYSP
Ahhh you guys I am seriously so EXCITED!!
Tomorrow is the day!!😁😁
Tomorrow hubby & I start the PERFECT program for summertime! I am firm believer that 80% of weight loss is nutrition but an essential piece of the puzzle has been incredibly effective workouts that I can do AT HOME 😉
When I was selected to be in the test group I was told I could have 15 people join me & I only have 6 spots available now but the offer ends at MIDNIGHT tonight!
Here's the deets:
👉 8 weeks
👉 4 days a week
👉 30-40 min workouts
👉 3 rest days 🙌
👉 1 cheat day 🍫🍟🍔🍕🍺
👉 private support group w/the creator & me duh!
👉 32 DIFFERENT,fresh,live-time workouts (no getting bored here 🙌)
👉 Workout schedule, meal plans,recipes & digital access to the workouts
👉FUN,accountability & RESULTS!!!
Click the link in my bio fill out the form, I will send you a link & the only choice you will have is to say yes or no 😉
6 spots left will one of them be yours??? Remember you only have until midnight to join me!
8 weeks to get incredible results or you can keep watching from the sidelines 😜 #momonamission #goals #couplesthatworkoutogether
I'm super excited for this upcoming week! Not only is it BOGO for oils, but I'm relaunching my group. I created it to be an amazing space for women to feel safe and be empowered to nourish themselves body + mind + soul.
There is so much to be done in this world for women to be able to create their life from a place of love, peace, joy, freedom and empowerment. If you feel it's time for you to make these changes for yourself, I would L-O-V-E for you to join me in bit.ly/NourishedBodyMindSoul
We'll be celebrating like it's 1999 (yes we're taking this back to when maybe things seemed a lot easier) ALL week long and the party won't end there. We're taking this down to the end of time ladies! Come and celebrate this amazing thing we call LIFE.
settling for a poor communicator, someone that dwells on their failures or past mistakes, their ex's, whines all the time, you can cheat with your time and attention. a non affectionate person. a entitled person. a narcissist. the victim. someone that guilts you into going their way. Someone that loves talking about themselves and their issues while neglecting yours. Someone that doesnt respect your time. #empowerment #spiritualawakening #narcissist