I heard a trainer say something yesterday that hit me right between the eyes. They were talking about a client who was a train wreck; one issue after another.
Sometimes bad things happen by chance. Other times people bring it on themselves. Over and over and over.
Sometimes people create their own little black cloud to carry around just in case it’s sunny outside. Sounds weird but it’s very true.
One of my girlfriends is a klutz. Funny because she’s an elite athlete, but every time she comes out for happy hour something breaks or spills. Literally every time. It might seem like they’re all “accidents,” but they’re accidents just like a guy walking into a casino “accidentally” lost all his money.
She keeps her glass of wine right by the edge of the table. She sits sideways in her chair. She does a ton of little things wrong that creates this picture. She’s not malicious, but she puts herself in a position to lose. She sets herself up for failure rather than success.
When we talk about systems vs. goals, we’re talking about setting yourself up for success. You do things that will lead you to where you want to go. They may not always get you there, but they should, and will most of the time.
A goal of not knocking over the wine glass is ok. Installing the behavior (system) of putting the glass further from the edge of the table is much better. That will, in all likely hood, keep you from knocking it over and is also something you have complete control over.
Now, will working out daily guarantee you wont ever gain weight? NOPE. But the system of showing up every day and doing the right things to become a stronger, happier, healthier version of you will put you in a better position for success. These are actions you can control.
Saying “I am addicted to chocolate, I can’t say no” OR “I was too tired to come to class” is giving up your control of the situation. It’s saying “there’s nothing I can do about it.” Which is flatly not true.
Accidents do happen, but they certainly seem to happen to some people more frequently than others.
Coach E, out.