I’ve been spending a lot of time in my car driving up to Orange County. This commute has always been a learning time for me. Today I listed to the Trained podcast. Although it’s a podcast about health and fitness, I found the latest podcast relating to a myriad of things in life.
At the end of last year we were going through a purge of our house. Then after my dad passed, I am now purging two houses. The last few weeks I’ve had a significant anxiety and nightmares about this. @dudebro7 is good at reminding me to take it in baby steps. Then while listening to this podcast, I realized my perspective of it is also giving me anxiety. Dr. Megan Jones Bell, psychologist and Chief Science Officer at the popular meditation company, @headspace spoke about leaning to cultivate a growth mindset. A growth mindset “is where you are learning to reframe any challenges, mistakes or setbacks. Learning to re-frame any negative feedback to an opportunity suddenly changes your outlook towards it.” So how can you do this?
1. Establish where you are: what is your goal (intrinsic/ extrinsic) and what emotions are attached to it?
2. What is the one thing you want to improve right now? Now see it as an opportunity
3. Every moment that you are thinking about it, ask yourself are you focused on the process or the outcome? Try to train yourself to bring it back to the process and not the end goal.
This can be applied to every aspect of your life if you have a goal. Now I can look at these big purges as a step by step process and truly enjoy every moment in the process without being overwhelmed.
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JUST NOT GOOD ENOUGH
For what? Or for whom? Do you also have that inner critic? For me it is mostly me who thinks it’s just not good enough. Or maybe it’s more a feeling
I find it so hard to change my opinion. As in what I prefer or what I find beautiful. And that’s mostly the translation of my eyes. Which is just a learned thing and an attachment to an image or picture
Since a few years I am learning to see the beauty in the imperfections of nature. Of others too. It’s actually so easy and awesome!! It’s these beautiful imperfections that make me love and keep me curious
So, first step is to just laugh about it and don’t take it (my opinion) too serious. There is too much beauty around and inside
These 3 days were just awesome!! Being in the fresh and dry mountain air, having perfect (haha, yes!) ski conditions, clear blue skies, sunshine, good company and a body that was able to enjoy 3 full days of skiing without practice for 3 years
So it was (and IS!) good enough to have fun, to let me do what I wanted and to enjoy the gorgeous mountains 🙏🏻 But skiing does make my back stiff 😝 📸 by @noeska.adriana .
Some say that life is like a circle ... the circle of life. Perhaps different events in your life keep repeating over and over again or things keep getting better and then get worse.
Perhaps, we tend to think of life like a straight line. When we do that, we tend to expect things to keep getting bigger and better. Or perhaps, smaller and worse.
Here's reality honey; life is neither purely a straight line nor a circle. It may resemble either one at different points of your life, but I like to see it as a spiral. A spiral looks like a straight line from the side. But it also looks like a circle at its opposing ends.
There are ups and downs in your life. But your life isn't gonna be a repetitive cycle of the same bullshit everyday. (If yes, then it's gonna get so fucking boring and you ought to do some shit about it or you'd just be stuck in torture limbo hamster wheel circle.) It's gonna go up and down but it will get you somewhere: either to a better place, or a shitty one. Your choice. You choose which way you wanna go on that spiral ladder.
Perhaps certain things may repeat in your life. I'd prefer to see them as individual events along the spiral of life that happen to coincide when seen from the circle side but are totally different when seen from the line side. They may look the same but they're different. They're like parallel realities of one another. They mirror each other but they are unique.
Okay this might have sounded so philosophical or metaphysical but trust me, the idea came to me when I was about 14 years old back when the internet was not so readily accessible. It came to me while I was shitting on the toilet bowl. Great things come out when you shit. I'm not shitting on you.