C O N T R O L | • Sometimes, we all need a place to cry. A place to be frustrated. A place to self-reflect. A place to get angry. A place to feel negative. And sadly, this place ends up being inside of our own minds.
What if I told you that we evaluate our happiness hundreds times a day?
You wake up. It's raining. You instantly think, "oh gosh". So you turn the other way and hide under the duvets, dreading for the day ahead. Expectation #1
You go to the kitchen, you make tea for yourself. The kettle boils, you pour the water, you open the fridge and you notice the milk has finished. You sigh with annoyance. Expectation #2
hasn't been met.
You see your sister and happily greet, "morning!" For her to reply, "whatever". And you feel offended and a painful tug in your heart, wishing she was in a happier mood. Goodbye to expectation #3
You get dressed and realise how much weight you've gained. You sulk and change your clothes back to the usual all-black loose attire. Well.. that's another expectation crashing down as it collides with reality.
So here's the thing- your morning hasn't even properly began and you've faced so many disappointments.
By nature, everything in life is in constant motion. You can't just think, "if these things occur, I'll be happy" and "if these things DON'T occur, I'll be unhappy". No one becomes the loser except you in either of these situations. Trust me.
Life is unpredictable. No matter how hard we try to control people, events & circumstances, we fail.
So when you expect things happening outside of yourself to make you happy, you're setting yourself up for misery.
And ultimately, you become dependent upon others for your own state of contentment.
Life happens from the inside out. If you're happy or sad, it's because of what's going on inside of you. No one makes that decision except you.
Think about it. You could be in the most unappealing place, but if your inner state is content, you'll feel happy wherever you are.
You'll be the winner in all situations. I promise you. 💕