I’ve participated in two workshops around pleasure recently, one of which was run by the lovely @dawn_serra
, a sex educator and podcaster. (Go check out her work, including her pod, which is incredibly fat positive.)
It was rather astounding that so many people in the workshops felt guilty about pursuing pleasure in their lives. The majority felt that they had to “earn” pleasure by being productive. This was true both for sexual and non-sexual pleasure—something as simple as sitting down, guilt-free, with a warm beverage, had to be "earned" in some way. We need to change this! (And to be clear, I am not immune from this either!)
Part of Body Trust®, the paradigm I work within, is coming back to pleasure—and as Dawn says, knowing we are inherently worthy of it, without having to earn it. It's about letting yourself enjoy pleasurable food experiences, pleasurable movement experiences, and pleasurable sexual and erotic experiences. It's about moving past living in our heads to pursuing true embodiment—enjoying all that our amazing human bodies have to offer us.
You are already worthy of it; you may just need to reteach yourself that fact. 💗