Geen woorden, maar paarden.
DE leidraad voor elke equine assisted coach opgeleid aan de #keulseweg
. En wat is het soms moeilijk om niet in woorden te vervallen. Om niet weg te vluchten in social media, netflix of games. Om gewoon even STIL te zijn, te VOELEN. Tijdens een coachsessie met een paard ligt de nadruk dan ook niet op praten over.... maar vooral op ervaren, voelen en zelf je oplossing vinden. #coachenmetpaarden
When the power is out for almost 24 hours and counting, the wind has redistributed all the leaves and pine needles you spent hours picking up in preparation for your event on Saturday, you hear that the abusive, stalker ex is moving to CA within a couple hours of your house, well, you DECIDE that it’s all exactly the way it should be and you hop on a horse and go splash in the pond. #wisdomridgeranch #braveeveryday #inmypower #horsecoach #fearlessentrpreneur
The next thing… 🐴
I was working with a private client on Sunday. .
I asked her this, “what are your thoughts throughout the day?” 📆
She responded that she is primarily thinking about what’s next. .
I get this. I used to live this way. Some days it creeps back in. .
It’s something like this… Get out of bed, thought “breakfast, stretching, shower, out by 8:15.” During breakfast, “stretching, shower, out by 8:15, oh shoot I need to get gas.” During the shower, “once I’m out of the house, I’ll get gas at the Chevron next to Jimmy’s school.” Once in the car, “After I get gas and drop off Jimmy, I’ll get to work and get that report done before the 10am staff meeting.” .
Once at work, “I need coffee, then the report, oh, shoot, emails, I hope I can get the report done before the 10am meeting, if not, then I’ll have to stay late and miss yoga tonight.” .
And on. And on. And on. .
These planning the next thing thoughts occupy our minds because we don’t trust ourselves to just do the thing. .
These thoughts come from the “good girl” place - the place of wanting to be perfect. .
Even bigger, from a place of being afraid of doing something wrong. .
And, the thing is, your days are pretty much a known thing by now. You don’t have to occupy precious mind and heart energy planning what’s next. You know what’s next. You just aren’t trusting yourself. .
The more you do this thing…spend your days planning what’s next, the further away you get from your Heart’s Desire. Further away from your inner self. Further away from your soul. Planning what’s next is keeping you disconnected from self. .
Do this: before you go to bed, write out your day and what it looks like. When you wake up, give yourself 10 minutes to tune into your heart. Then forget about it all. Spend your day living from your soul. Your muse. Your heart. .
In the last 24 hours I’ve realized how much I apologize for being me. Even after doing all I’ve done to acquire my current lifestyle and job - which is pretty much what I’ve wanted my entire life. .
It runs deep, this apologizing. A lot of my apologizing these days is an internal dialog, so familiar that it’s barely noticeable. So familiar that I believe it most of the time. .
I start my day with it…“I should have gotten out of bed earlier….” .
In the last 24 hours, I’ve reflected on all my apologizing. .
In corporate, I was told that I was “too direct.” I was also told that I didn’t do enough to (fill in the blank….) .
I was also told that I did too much. .
I’ve been told by boyfriends that I’m too emotional. .
That I’m not emotional enough. .
That I love animals too much. .
That I’m intimidating. .
That I’m too nice. .
That I’m too wild. .
That I’m too shy.
And on, and on, and on. I apologized for it all….both outward and inward - beating myself up. I was taught to believe that we “own” our stuff and I somehow associated owning with also apologizing for it. .
I’d apologize without hesitation. I thought that was doing the right thing. I thought that was the courageous thing. I’d apologize without first looking inside to see if I really SHOULD be apologizing. The path of least resistance. Keeping the peace. .
And the thing I know is that all this apologizing whittled away at me. It made me less me. Apologizing for me being me made me small. It kept me small. It took away my uniqueness. .
No more. .
I AM: Unapologetically Insistent. .
I won’t apologize for being me. And, I decide what I want and I insist on getting it. Insisting, when it comes to women, has a bad rap. It can mean bitchy or demanding. I’m saying adios to that. I’m not sorry, I insist on my best life. That’s it. I insist.
Grooming a horse is a meditative act of love. It’s also an opportunity to connect deeply with another being. After a busy day, it’s one of the things that brings me back to my heart ❤️ .
It’s peaceful .
It creates a space for gratitude .
It reminds me of what’s important .
It allows me to give and also to receive .
It is a way of creating love from a simple act
What do you do to center, to ground, to step into gratitude for this big, beautiful, precious life?
#wisdomridgeranch #nature #gratitude #horsecoach #horseledcoach #authenticlife #couragetolead
Who is by your side today? Let them know how grateful you are. We can’t do this thing called life alone. .
Horses bond in bands (not herds). This is their community- some family, some friends.
It is in these bands that they stay safe from predators. Each watching out for others. .
Contrary to popular belief, it is not the stallions that run the show, it is the mares. .
Just like us, the argue, they nurture, they play, they protect. .
They are constantly communicating. .
They read every movement, movements that are unseen by you and I. .
Because they are like us, because they are so tuned in, they teach us. Do you have the courage to learn another way?
#horsecoach #natureheals #changeyourstate #changeyourlife #passionandpurpose #outdoorlearning #leadership
Relaxing and naps were obviously top priority for my little herd today. Why not? The sun was out and it was a beautiful day
Horses are so interesting to watch and they sure know how to meet their own needs. If they feel like a rest, then they take one. Fee like running around and burning off some steam, yep they just will
It is a powerful thing to tap into outlet own bodies wisdom. This is something that can be explored in a session so DM or go to the link in my profile to book.
I asked my clients who they had the hardest time setting boundaries with and it was a unanimous “with my partner (lover, husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, etc.).” OF COURSE. Of course “boundaries” are hardest with the one we love. .
This relationship is a dance. And boundaries don’t really belong in dancing. So, no wonder this is difficult. Painful. Confusing. Sad. Stressful
But what if you thought of it this way…. Stopping the dance is the moment when you collaborate with your partner on the next move. .
It doesn’t have to be hard or harsh or cutting or mean. It’s a stop and restart.
#wisdomridgeranch #mindfulness #horsecoach #successmindset #wisdom #bestlife #mindset #chooseyourthoughts #heartsdesire
The way you conquer fear is to know what matters.
Afraid to make that speech? What matters?
Afraid to say no? What matters? .
Afraid to say yes? What matters? .
Afraid to claim love? What matters? .
Define what matters to you and when the rumbling in the tummy strikes, when the hand shakes, when the resistance occupies too much space, come back to it. Write what matters on a card and carry it with you. Say it out loud before you fall asleep. Feel it in your bones. #wisdomridgeranch #youmatter #horsecoach #womenrising #unbridled #getoutofyourownway #womenempowerment #womenpower
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"Park Drag: A Tabletop Centerpiece with Custom-Made Elkington & Co. Mahogany Carrying Case," C. 1910, Elkington & Co. (English, c.1910), sterling silver on a marble and wooden base, 17 1/2 x 41 1/2 x 9 1/2 inches (excluding base), Purchased with funds donated by: Hector Alcalde, Helen K. Groves, Manuel H. Johnson, Jacqueline B. Mars and Jacqueline L. Ohrstrom, 2011⠀
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I love this. Horse can teach us so much about ourselves if we are open to them. They are non judgmental and just being near them can offer us comfort.
My coaching books are opening up again for spring stay tuned or DM for more info.
I realized something about my experience in corporate tech and the toxic behaviors of female coworkers. We were all WAITING TO BE CHOSEN.
Waiting to be chosen creates a bunch of behaviors that aren’t you. Pleasing, gossip, stealing, lying, abandoning, striving, trying, pushing.
Think about this…
Men EXPECT to be chosen.
Women BEG to be chosen.
This shows up everywhere. In some places, it’s how the dynamic is set up.
Only 2% of venture funding goes to women-owned businesses.
Begging to be chosen is ingrained in women. For many, it’s a “go to” behavior.
Women who come to my workshops say to me with pride “I’m here because I’m choosing myself.” For them, this is huge. This is a hurdle. Often, it comes with a tinge of guilt…investing in themselves over kids, job, husband, wife, etc.
Which is amazing, great, the first step. Choosing you IS the first step, the right step.
Men who work with me say things like, “I’m here because I want to be better” - what they want is to achieve something, to GET something. There’s NEVER guilt when they invest in themselves.
They don’t ask for permission.
Moving out of waiting to be chosen is scary for women.
It’s a whole new feeling for most of us, it’s unfamiliar and it doesn’t feel safe.
It feels like the earth will open up and swallow us whole.
But it won’t, I promise.
Think about it…what if every woman just DECIDED to choose herself?
What would change?
Who would you be as an individual?
Who would we be as a whole?
What would we get done?
Do you think those VC’s would still hold back funding?
They’d have no choice but to choose us - because we EXPECT IT.
#chooseyourself #wisdomridgeranch #nocinderella #horsecoach #beepic #masteryourpower #heartsdesire
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