You can not be everyone's friend. When we discover our purpose and our calling, we will quickly begin to realise that not everybody can come along with us on our journey. It's important we remember that the company we keep has a massive influence on the direction that our life goes. We all influence each other's behaviour. We can literally stop ourselves from fulfilling our purpose if we consistently spend time with people who don't align with where we are going. Our perceptions' and behaviour is formed largely by WHERE we spend our time and by WHO we spend our time with. You can tell a lot about a person and where they are going just by looking at their friends. If we consistently hang around 4 lazy people, we will become the 5th. If we hang around 5 miserable people we will become the 6th. If we hang with 6 complainers guess who the 7th will be. We take form of where and whom we spend our time. Association is perception and perception is reality... One question to ask yourself is " are the people im spending most of my time with in line with my purpose?" .. if the answer is "no" then you have some work to do. This may sound mean and cut throat but you can't be everyone's friend. Not everyone can have access to you. Even a Gardner prunes his roses. During the pruning process the gardener leans out the Rose. He cuts off all the the buds (pretty red things we smell) and the extending leaves. All that's left on the plant is the stems and roots. The plant doesn't look pretty. It's left looking like green sticks. It can be a painful process. But what the pruning process does is, it promotes new growth in the plant because now all the plant's fuel sources (ie your energy and time) can be invested in areas that will support it (you). In the same way, we need to prune the people we give access to us. That means, no more hanging out with people you don't want to hang with just because you'll feel bad if you don't. YOU DON'T OWE ANYBODY ANYTHING and they don't owe you anything either. Protect your space and time.