There is a minute difference between ' choosing for yourself ' and ' being imposed on you' . If you won't do the first one , later one would be done to you. Everyone goes through the pain , yes EVERYONE. It's just that if you would choose it for yourself you would have enough of motivation to end as Victor. If it would be imposed on you, you would be ending up as victim. Be brave and choose. Then own all the pain & scars which would come along.
One is that you take the pain and turn it into worth having possesion & other is that you become a pity. Choice is yours, so does your repute, respect and your heart.
A pain which is not at all affordable, for cheap people.