New episode! When I asked @angribeen
if I should start a podcast, her unequivocal “YES!” propelled me into Feminist Hotdog land. So thankful to her for the support AND that she was able to stop by and talk about the good, bad and ugly of life in NYC among lots of other inspiring topics: #spiderwoman
fighting crime while pregnant, #lorenabobbitt
getting her due with the help of @jordanpeele
, the ongoing bad-assery of @staceyabrams
, a podcast about how to deal with sexism in the workplace…the list goes on! YOU NEED THIS EPISODE IN YOUR LIFE! Link in bio!
“Caring for your inner child
has a powerful and
Do it and the child heals.” —Martha Beck, author & coach. 💕⠀
📸: digital collage (featuring photograph of starlet Mary Pickford, who co-founded the Academy Awards) by Sarah Shipman (feel free to repost with credit xo)
Usually, I’m working to see things in greater nuance.
When I was a therapist, a lot of my work was observing ways my clients were applying black-and-white thinking to situations that were decidedly gray. When I am the client, a lot of my work falls into this category, too.
This is all to say, I totally buy into the idea that black-and-white thinking can be a mental trap worth avoiding.
But, like anything, I can go overboard. By being so determined to see things more than one way, I can sometimes become paralyzed with how many ways I can see things. It all becomes noise, and I can’t make out the signal any more.
Then I remembered another lesson from my background in psychology.
When I was conducting research on trauma, we employed a technique called data reduction.
Data reduction is taking complex data and simplifying them in order to help them make sense.
Yesterday, I decided to apply data reduction to my own life. I drew a table. I labeled the left column “stress-inducers” and the right one “stress-relievers.” Everything I could think of went on one side or the other.
This did some useful things:
1. This technique freed me from the trap of feeling silly or ashamed about what’s difficult for me. I don’t have to feel silly for calling “writing emails” stress-inducers because I can say with certainty that they are not stress-relievers. I could be more honest about how my experiences are, rather than how I think they should be.
2. The more I wrote, the more specific I got — and specificity can lead to solutions. “Opening Gmail app on my phone” was also a stress-inducer. This helped me see that, huh, maybe I shouldn’t do that hourly.
3. I could see my stress was out of balance. Even though I’d like to get to a point where I don’t need to understand myself to feel compassion toward myself, the truth is that it sure helps for now.
4. It put small things in context. When I was done, I saw a big list of stressors. I also saw that my big list was made up of small experiences. Opening my gmail app may seem like such a small stress-inducer on its own that it’s not worth bothering to change. But taken in context, it’s worth it.
Coming back with a lot of these extra af vibes WEDNESDAY, FEB 20 for @chocolate_groove_celebrations
!! There will be a beautiful opening & closing crystal ball sound bath, free cacao or kombucha, epic vendors, live painting, and some serious dancing!
DM me for reduced cover, and let's bask in the full moon energy tomorrow 🔮💚
Lucia ••• "I am proud to be an activist for the rights of not only all of the strong women who have inspired me to be a strong girl but also of those whose voices cannot yet be heard; it is only through our power together that we can overcome the obstacles on our trail to justice and raise a cacophony worldwide for the equality we deserve.”
Want to read more from Lucia and other feminists? Link in bio 💥💥
The 2018 Global Slavery Index report, published by @minderoofoundation
, states that $127.7 billion worth of garments at risk of including modern slavery in their supply chain are imported each year by G20 countries (which account for 80% of world trade).
These imports help to bankroll a global economy that trapped 40.3 million people in modern slavery in 2016 - 71% of whom were women (i.e. more than 28 million women).
If you do not know how, where + by whom your clothes were made, then you are very likely supporting modern slavery - 28 million women - with the purchase of your latest ‘this is what a feminist looks like’ t-shirt.
I’m likely to receive shit about this post and I’m 100% okay with that. If I can’t use my privilege to give voice to those who are being consistently marginalised, then cut my vocal chords right now.
Feminism is not about choice - it’s about equality and responsibility. If you intentionally choose to buy products that are made under conditions of modern slavery, you are not a feminist - you are a self-serving hypocrite.
If you choose to belittle other woman through words and actions, that is not your feminist privilege - this is your white privilege.
If you choose to agree with Playboy's feminist theories, or choose to cheat on your man because of your own inadequacies, this is not your feminist right - your “right to choose” - that is your duplicitous dishonesty and selfishness.
The Suffragettes did not fight so you can flatly label your ability to choose as the fundamentals of feminism. Your right to choose to do something which adversely affects other women (or anyone!) is sanctimonious conceit and a metaphorical blow job to the patriarchy.
“I ask no favour of our brethren. Only that they take their feet, off our necks.” - Sarah Grimké. And to the sisters that label their vain decisions as their right to choose - get your fucking feet off our ovaries.
If you choose to turn a blind eye to a system that incarcerates more than 28 million women worldwide, then you don’t get to call yourself a feminist.
If you choose to change your outlook and support ethical manufacturing conditions - then congratulations, YOU GET IT!!