Believe in yourself. Have faith in your abilities. Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.
-Norman Vincent Peale
NEVER LET ANYONE TELL YOU DIFFERENT💫
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Everyone has a story. Our stories make up who we are, how we see the world and often how we respond to others. In finding my biological father last year, years of shame and a sense of not belonging were brought to the forefront of my life. People who I thought would stand beside me, support me, didn't. uncertainty and uncomfortable circumstances are always telling.
For months, I fell into a deep depression, as I worked through rejection from the man I had longed to know.
While I may never meet or develop a relationship with the man I share DNA, I have been blessed by the love and support of the unexpected aunts, uncles, cousins and my spunky grandmother.
Today, I received my first Christmas card from my auntie Theresa and my uncle Don Gamelli. Inside they included a couple little treasures. One photo is of my grandfather Vincent James Gamelli, another is of my grandfather and my uncle in front of the store they owned in Massachusetts. The last picture is of the whole Gamelli clan (aunts and uncles). Jimmy Gamelli, far left in the dark blue shirt is dad.
While I realize this is deeply personal, I share in this forum in hopes to possibly help someone else. We post on social media all the warm and fuzzy stuff. We make life and our stories look picture perfect, but life and our stories are not always perfect, they are messy. We all struggle with something. Being transparent and honest, putting it out there, owning our stories doesn't mean we are weak or damaged, it takes courage, it helps others know they are not alone, that we all have struggles.
In the words of Brene Brown, whom I adore, “Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.” “Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren't always comfortable, but they're never weakness.” I am learning to own and tell my story and I encourage others to do the same. "You can choose courage or you can choose comfort. You cannot have both." - Brene Brown #brenebrown #vulnerability #learntoloveyourself #youareworthy @brenebrown
• TACO TUESDAY •
What’s so amazing about this program is that you get to eat REAL food + lots of it! .
With that being said, you need to be smart in the kitchen! Just because you workout 6 days a week doesn’t mean you can eat like total crap! You have to take care of your body from the inside out as well!
This program provides you with a list full of amazing recipes you get in your challenge pack + nutrition program!
It’s FOOL PROOF! .
Trust me when I tell you that I have NEVER found something that I was able to stick to + WANTED to stick too!
You’ll be hooked! 😋 #tacotuesday
👙EVERYBODY IS A SWIM SUIT BODY👙
Our goal is to make sure every woman has a comfy, supportive, cute ass swim suit that is made exactly for THEM.
Ladies- you don’t have to smile when someone asks you to, but you sure as hell look incredible when your mind and body are happy. 💕
Top 2 pictures was when i was v underweight for my age and height. (I never thought i was fat and never diagnosed with anorexia) Stress can do all sorts of mad shit to you. The one thing that pissed me off the most was the "your so skinny" and "wish i had that problem, why don't you just eat loads?" Ummm why don't you piss off and suck my toe with your boring comments. Overweight and underweight are both UNHEALTHY. I hated my body in the first two pics fuckin hated it but physically for some time couldn't put on weight. Won't go into the ins and outs but being this skinny wasn't a plan and wasn't attractive to me i fuckin hated how my body looked. Anyway fast forward some months and I've put on a stone n half have such a good relationship with my body and don't take stress out on my eating habits. I'm mad happy with my body and don't give a shit how much of it i wanna post. Think before you make comments and think before you judge not everyone wants to be a certain way not everyone can help it. Learning to ignore little comments and laugh at them made me realise not to give a fuck what people think n concentrate on your self. Some people really struggle to gain and loose weight and I'm a proud little egg of how quick i got back to me. Support all the people who are trying their hardest to be happy with their body's! Sharing my experince cause i wanna 😋🤗🤗🤗 #weightgain #gainingweightiscool #littlestone #bodypositive #learntoloveyourself #strongnotskinny
#gains #behappyinyourownskin #womenshealth #transformyourbody #proudofme
Nuff Said! 🤪😘 Okay but just to add a bit of my intake.
I feel like we let certain people or situations define how we react to life. It defines how we go about life and how we live our life.
We can’t control situations or other people’s actions. We can only control what we choose to live by. Who we decide to be. What values we choose to cherish.
Life happens, let it be. Don’t let it change your identity!
❄️Bilan de fin d'année❄️
🇲🇫 Ce soir j'ai eu envie de me retourner sur l'année 2018 qui s'achève. Et ma vie a bien changé ces 7 derniers mois. Il ne s'agit pas que d'une histoire d'amaigrissement (mais c'est ce qui est le plus facile à montrer sur une photo 😉) qui n'est que la résultante de tout le reste.
En 2018, aussi incroyable que cela puisse paraître, j'ai appris à aimer mon corps. J'ai appris à ne plus l'affamer pour mieux le gaver ensuite. J'ai appris à en prendre soin et à le bouger, moi qui était hermétique au moindre effort physique. Et vous savez quoi? Il me le rend bien! Mon corps m'aime aussi. 😁 Il a des capacités incroyables et il m'épate!
Vive l'alimentation intuitive, la méditation, le yoga et le running! 💙 Je vous adore!
Je ne sais pas où mènera notre relation mais je n'ai jamais été aussi zen. 🙂 Il n'est jamais trop tard!
Et vous? Quel bilan tirez-vous de 2018?
🇺🇸🇬🇧 This evening I wanted to look back to 2018 that's going to end. My life has tremendously changed these 7 last months. It's not a weightloss story (but it's easier to show on a pic 😉) that just is a result of all the rest.
In 2018, as incredible as it may seem, I learned to love my body. I learned to not starve it for better binging afterward. I learned to take care of it and to move it while I was totally reluctant to do any workout. And you know what? My body loves me too. 😁 It has such capabilities and it amazes me!
Yes to the intuitive eating, to the meditation, to the yoga and to the running! 💙 I love this!
I don't know where our relationship will lead but I've never been so well. 🙂 It's never too late!
And you? What is your year summary?
This ego that @mariannewilliamson
speaks of is the same truth that @donmiguelruiz
shares, when he tells us that The Judge lives inside our mind, constantly measuring us by a unit of measure that we did not agree to when we entered this world, and then The Victim in our mind wallows and shames us when we "fail" to meet this arbitrary set of expectations.
It's the same in all of us. @yoga_girl
has a very powerful podcast on the Inner Critic, where 52 women sit and share what this voice, this judge, this fear-based ego tells them. But THEN. Then they share what the Inner Best Friend would say, just as we would lovingly comfort our own best friends.
And it made me want to share my truths.
Because the knowing that we are not alone is so powerful, and gives us so much strength.
MY Inner Critic tells me that I should have done it all differently. That I'm not doing it right, right NOW. That I am too much, and my energy and puppy-like excitement about life are ANNOYING qualities to others. That I am not strong enough to commit to what I've started, and that honoring my own truth is just a way of escaping responsibility. I should be better. I am selfish, a terrible mother, a bad friend. The list goes on.
But that is fucking BULLSHIT. There is no truth in that fear mongering voice of the ego.
My Inner Best friend, she tells me the truth. That I am a fucking badass/rockstar, filled with love and light. That my purpose here IS to speak and sing and share and express myself fully. That that puppy-like energy is actually inspiring to others and essential to my expression of love. That it's OKAY to change my mind when something no longer serves me, and that I don't need to explain myself to others just to gain their approval. That every day I do my best and that is MORE than enough, because I am the wellspring of love that I've been looking for my whole life.
If anyone would like a platform to share, I would love to hear the dark and the light sides of your mind. ♡♡♡♡
#overcomingfear #fearisthepathtothedarkside #bringittothelight #mariannewilliamson #donmiguelruiz #yogagirl #itsallconnected #innercritic #innerbestfriend #learntoloveyourself #theawakenedjedi
Who knew that this little piece of plastic could bring such a great workout in only 20 minutes!!
The last week I have been prepping to take part in a Transformation come January like no other! 20 minutes a day, 6 days a week for 6 weeks! Say what?
I want to have a group of LADIES join me to support each other on the way! Are you interested in giving support to others as we support you in your goals?
Step out of your comfort zone! Do something you’ve never done! Nothing ever good happens by staying in the same place! Come join me! Comment below or send me a message!
It’s transformation Tuesday, but I wanted to talk about a different type of transformation.
Mental health isn’t the easiest thing to talk about, but lately it has become one of my top priorities. I was really struggling a few months ago, and made the decision to go to therapy. It was one the best decisions I have ever made.
Don’t get me wrong, it also the scariest decision I have ever made. It is terrifying to have to be open with someone you don’t know, but also liberating.
I have been working with my therapist to do something called EMDR. This is a type of therapy that imitates REM sleep while you are awake to help process trauma.
We all have trauma, there are small and large traumas, that isn’t always processed while you sleep. Trauma occurs throughout our lives, from the childhood through adulthood. We just don’t always see the impact until adulthood.
I am working to process these traumas in my neural network. I can honestly say, I am so grateful that I am working on this. I have done two session of EMDR and it has already helped so much.
It’s crazy how much negativity surrounds therapy though. People have told me it’s stupid and that it doesn’t work and they don’t see the point of it. That’s is their prerogative to think that way. Why does it matter? Why do people feel the need to be negative about someone else trying to better themself? I’ll never understand that. They could have kept that negativity to themself.
If you have been considering therapy, I highly recommend trying it. It can be scary, but it is such a weight off your shoulders. If you have been struggling, know you aren’t alone and there are resources out there designed to help you.
I’ve never believed in destiny.
No, the stars never whispered my name, my future.
I grabbed my own fate with two hungry hands, pulling and pushing and molding my life, leaving smudges and dirty fingerprints all over a once clean soul.
My mistakes belong entirely to me.
No, the stars never mapped out a path for me to follow, never planned my downfalls, my triumphs.
I rule the stars, not the other way around. I take their dust and inject it in my veins;
I breathe in their light as
Christmas Tree, O Christmas Tree! .
7 days until my favorite holiday + only 3 more days left of the work week... I don’t know which I’m more excited for! 😬
What is your favorite Christmas tradition? 💚❤️🎁🎄
Lately I’ve been thinking about the idea of stepping into uncomfortableness. ⠀
I don’t like being uncomfortable. Uncertainty makes me uncomfortable. Stepping into areas without first being an expert makes me uncomfortable. Pushing myself past my limit (comfort zone) makes me uncomfortable.⠀
But being uncomfortable is just a feeling. Sure it’s not a great feeling, but it’s just a feeling. It’s just one moment. It doesn’t last forever and it’s not going to hurt me. ⠀
I can stand in that moment and be okay. I can acknowledge that I’m uncomfortable and hold that space instead of trying to do everything I can to push through it. ⠀
It’s an interesting mindset shift and I invite you to try it. When fear reaches out, when you’re pushed out of your comfort zone, when anxiety is creeping up....just acknowledge it without judgement and stand in that moment and see what happens.
30lbs lighter 12 years later!
Just because age is going up does NOT mean scale needs too!
Are you ready to make a fresh start? Go back to the basics!! I will run a 21 day online fitness group starting Jan 2nd!! Yes it’s a Wednesday that’s okay! Not every program needs to start on a monday🙌
If you want to lose up to 10 lbs and feel amazing comment your favorite emoji!!!
// Sparkle sparkle ✨ //
• Jumper (my old design sample) • jeans (old H&M) • belt (old asos) • slippers @zarahome
It took some time to learn to Love me. A lot has changed and I Love me some me 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍. #learntoloveyourself
Was just like yesterday I still remember how I thought we were going to live and die together but like play like play God intervened and now Poverty is my Permanent Ex 🕺🏼
I've said it before and I'll say it again: Health does not look a certain way.
The picture on the left was taken last summer. I was eating a paleo based diet. I was working out 5-6 times a week. To someone looking in, I probably looked like a really healthy person.
But I was stuck in a prison. I obsessed over food. I had extreme anxiety when I had to eat foods that wasn't according to my dietary restrictions. I binged. I felt guilt over the food I ate that I wasn't supposed to eat, and I felt envious of the food I didn't allow myself too eat.
A regular doctor's visit would have probably determined me healthy.
But I wasn't.
The second picture was taken a few weeks ago. And where I was then I still am now. I eat all foods, I have complete food freedom. And I don't obsess over food. I don't binge. I have no food envy. The guilt still hits me occasionally, but I get over it fairly quickly.
Based on what I eat now, a lot of people would probably say that I need to clean up my diet.
But I am healthy.
When people say they want to be healthier, so many people neglect their mental health. So many people neglect to take their relationship with food into consideration. Health is not all about what you put into your mouth, health is so much more. 💜
Nothing compares to the blissfully happy feeling of no make-up, comfy clothes glass of wine and Netflix #learntoloveyourself
I DID NOT want to workout tonight!
I have had every excuse in my head that I could throw at myself not to workout! 🙅🏼♀️ I tried convincing myself that I don’t like to workout, that I don’t need to. 🤔
I haven’t really consistently worked out since I finished LIIFT4. I’ve walked and ran here and there and I have done some LIIFT4 workouts here and there and tried other things, but I wasn’t feeling it.
What did that in turn cause??? MAYHEM, PURE MAYHEM!!!!
My body is back to hating me. Everything that I fixed when I had a routine and nutrition regimen was ruined. My nice muscles and cellulite elimination and constipation was gone, BUT now that I have not done anything good for myself everything I worked hard to get rid of came back.
Now I am back to feeling bad about myself, I’m squishy where I don’t want to be and I have low energy and constipation and I am back to not being motivated. 🙇🏼♀️ I don’t care what you tell yourself, you need to take care of yourself, you need to eat right, you can have some cheats here and there and not deprive yourself, but you have to have some nutrition that is healthy and rebuilding in your life and your body. Even if you don’t workout you can maintain with nutrition. 🌱
To error is human and I let my insecurities and self doubt lose control and stop progressing my progress. I am not ashamed of myself but I have noticed and I started at day 1 today. I ate healthy, minus two donut holes today, I had my shake and healthy dinner today and I sat at home for 3 hours and tried talking myself out of working out, but at 9pm I got up and pushed play and FELT AMAZING after. ⚡️ Spark + Motivate your dreams ⚡️
Spark + Motivate your life spark ⚡️ Day 1 complete✨
Let me know when you’re ready to start your day 1 ⚡️ #bodypositivefitness #embraceyourbody #doingitforme #nowrongway #youareworthy #aconfidentyou #daretobe #learntoloveyourself #powerwoman #femalehustler #slayallday #galtribe #yougotthisgirl #prettynotes #outerpeacethroughinnerpeace #listentoyoursoul #heartcentered #lifeasmama #honestmom #alignedaf #liveonpurpose #soultribe #likeattrackslike #mindfulnessmatters #youcreateyourownreality #mindshift #thisismyjourney
Sometimes she will be burnt to the ground before the flames of the Pheonix inside her rises from the ashes 💫🔥 #learntoloveyourself