So I may be a little late with this for Connor 🤦🏼♀️ but I’m going to finally get around to writing in his journal. And I’m prepared and ready to go for bub number 2... I think most mums are more prepared for their first and slack off for the second 😂🤦🏼♀️ but poor Connor I was so unorganised last time and I think he caught me off guard coming a month early. So this time round I’m thinking of everything I want / need and making sure I’m prepared for this bub.. even if he wants to make an early appearance like his brother 😉
This handsome young man, my 15 year old brother, he was my first introduction to just a tiny taste of mum life. .
He was born when I was 13 and I remember being so excited to meet him at the hospital after finishing school one day. .
My mum showed me how to do everything he needed and I felt so valued and important that I got to help raise him in those early years.
Before moving to Perth when I was 18 I had to wait until he started school because I couldn’t miss that milestone. .
He use to walk around and ask me if I could be his other mum. I changed his nappies, fed him, babysat him endless times and took my role in his life seriously. .
He was and is like my baby and seeing his relationship with my own little girl makes my heart melt.
This beautiful, big hearted, eccentric boy who is now becoming a young man, showed me what that nurturing love felt like in my heart. He started the preparation of what was to come for me as a mother 10 years later.
I really think so many circumstances in our lives prepare us for motherhood AND it’s still an enormous shift for us as women no matter how prepared we feel we are. Their is nothing like being a mother and I’ll be forever grateful for this beautiful soul entering our lives at the time and giving each of us in the family exactly what we were ready for. .
I love you Lucus and I’ll never let you be too cool to hug me. #justsaying
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kind of smile i want to see everyday, everytime, for the rest of my life 💙💙
Those puppy eyes 😍 I was dead set on having my first baby-free lunch with girlfriends but I just couldn’t leave her! She would get to bond with her grandparents for a few hours and I would get to enjoy some much needed me-time, it made sense mentally but emotionally, I was getting separation anxiety all week just thinking about it. Mamas guilt is a work in progress 😌
🔥FUN FACT 🔥You don't have to be perfect to be confident.
I've had people tell me that I'm intimidating before and I go what?!?! like are you crazy I'm a nervous wreck!! 😂. But here's the thing, I was never the prettiest one in class or the smartest or most popular, so i had to work at becoming confident in exactly who I was. .
You're not going to be everyone's cup of tea and that is 💯% okay. Not everyone is going to understand your goals or dreams and that is 💯% okay.
CONFIDENCE STARTS WITH YOU.
1. Stop comparing🙅. Try to realize that you are you and you cannot be that other person so why not be the BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF? .
2. Think Positively🙃. Ain't nobody got time for negativity let's be honest we all get in funks but it's f*cking draining. So change how you're seeing things and know that you're working towards more.
3. Shit happens💩.
Mistakes, failures, etc, everybody makes them - noone is perfect so why try to be? .
4. Don't let anyone define you👑. You're you, don't try to fit into some weird perfect mold that someone thinks you should fit into - because then they obviously don't love you for you.
5. Set personal goals☑️. Whether it's a fitness goal, a promotion, etc., focus on working toward something.
6. Do things that make you HAPPYYYY!!!! . 😊💕. These are my thoughts at #30weekspregnant
- WHAT DO YA THINK?! ✏️⬇️
So thankful for this sweet boy and his never ending smiles! He was re-evaluated yesterday by his Physical Therapist. He scored at a 8-10 month level (failed), but we are choosing to see it as a good thing! This means we will be referred out and will be able to see a PT once a week for an hour vs the once or twice a month 30 min appointments we get now! We are also being evaluated to receive Occupational Therapy as well so we are praying that goes well. While progress is slow, and I constantly worry, I know we are doing all we can to get our little man where he needs to be! Continued prayers are always appreciated! ❤️
Wide selection of shoes going at a great discount of 50% off at Chicco Tanglin Mall! 😱👍🏻
You’re growing so fast, but you’ll always be my little girl.
Shiny is his favorite color. ✨
Speaking of favorites, today's blog post was all about my favorite podcasts. I started listening to the #happierpodcast
once I became a stay-at-home mama and it opened my eyes (ears?) to the world of podcasts - now I rarely complete a household task without one going in the background. Loading the dishwasher and folding laundry are so much more enjoyable now 😉 Link in profile!
It’s that time of year---the END of the year where stress and mental burnout can start rearing its ugly head. Never fear that you are the only experiencing this because I’m here to tell ya, I feel it too, as do many other women.
However, because I’ve struggled with anxiety and fear—I’ve searched for ways to combat it. I’ve found ways to minimize the effects of burnout and I want to share them with you—so that if you’re carrying around any holiday stress (or any stress actually), you can apply these tips and feel better.
Here they are, in no particular order:
1 Plan ahead—this can reduce mental stress and fatigue. Try to take 15 min each night to plan the next day’s activities or to-dos.
2 Use to-do lists—kind of goes with planning but organize daily activities into lists to help organize THE THOUGHTS.
3 STOP multi-tasking—sometimes I think women are born multi-taskers. We can definitely get things done—however we can lose our focus in that. So, for the next week, anytime you feel overwhelmed trying to get everything done. Remind yourself>>take one task at a time and finish it. Then move on to the next. See if that helps calm things down a bit. (side note: I know we’re moms. Just do the best you can with this step 😊)
4 Take a brain break—work for 30-45 minutes and then take a 5-10 minute break. Take a walk or do something relaxing for a few.
5 Take time to get away—find 15 minutes of each day for sitting in silence. If you can’t find 15 then start with 5 and work up to it. Just “being” for a few minutes a day can actually help ground us.
6 Unwind before bed—spend 10-15 minutes unwinding before bed. Turn off ALL electronics (those blue lights aren’t good for sleep) and have a cup of warm tea or some hot cocoa. You know I’ve got a @foursigmatic
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🎄Christmas Crafts!🎄ok, I was not expecting this simple activity to be SUCH a hit... but Bobs is literally obsessed and has spent hours and hours making these decorations over the past 2 days! A great way to keep your kiddies entertained (while also getting some festive decor to put up on your walls and windows!😂)
I picked up random Christmas-themed crafting decor from dollarama: Pom poms, stickers, foam snowflakes etc.. then cut out simple Holiday shapes from construction paper, gave bobs some glue and told him to decorate! So far we have done 2 trees, a snowman, a candy cane, a stocking, a gingerbread man, and a house... and I’m sure he will be requesting more tomorrow when he’s home from daycare 😂
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My darling girl is sporting a whopper of a black eye, courtesy of the lil bro (accident). Today while shopping I suggested we go say hi to santa (not their official Xmas shot) Scarlett cried and told me she didn’t want to see Santa because he would ask about her eye and didn’t want Hendrix to be put on the naughty list before Xmas 😍😭 #sweetestgirl
The best moment was the moment the boys first saw their Christmas tree 🎄
When I found out I was pregnant with this one, I was completely terrified. The “normal” feelings I should’ve felt were replaced with thoughts that I wasn’t made for this. I didn’t even want to be a mom. I had my own plans. My own dreams. Being a mom was far down that list for me. Yet, here I was, holding a pregnancy test that screamed positive as loud as my ears could handle.
I tell you this because it’s really easy to get on IG and see people’s lives and think you know them. I can imagine some of you might think being a mom was my dream. Some of you might think staying home was something I always wanted. You may have this image of who I am in your mind and I guess I’m here to shatter that for you.
Not that I’m some awesome person you think twice about, because I don’t think you do, but I know how hard it is for me to remember that what people show on IG is not the complete picture — and I want to remind you that that’s true here.
Most of you didn’t see the tears and yelling and questioning after I saw those two pink lines. Many of you don’t know I struggled with severe depression until the third trimester and was put on medication. And you probably didn’t realize the torment I lived every day for not feeling the way I was “supposed” to feel while being pregnant.
I get tired of this pedestal we put women on when they become moms. As if the women who aren’t moms don’t deserve a spot in the light. It’s annoying. Especially when some of us didn’t even ask to be on the pedestal in the first place. And I’m not harping on moms or the hard work we do, because believe me, it’s the hardest job I’ve ever done, but we’ve got to start realizing that IG isn’t always reality. Sure, her house might be nicer than mine and motherhood seems to be easy for her... but that’s half of the story. There’s always more to the picture.
On the other side of this picture is a mom who is exhausted, had an emotional breakdown yesterday, and is wearing the biggest jeans she’s ever owned. Life doesn’t turn out like we think it will and I’m learning to be okay with that in the midst of yearning for what could have been and knowing I’m exactly where I’m meant to be right now.
She won the snowball fight ⛄️
CHRISTMAS IS SO SOON! does anyone else feel like December is just flying by!? Like wayyyy faster than most years?! It could also feel like that because my house is in complete chaos but what are ya gonna do?!
Your new mom friends, your mom of teens friends, your toddler mom friends, your loss mama friends, your dad friends, your friends struggling with infertility, your work friend, your married friends, your single friends, your funny friend, your confident friend, the friend you know is struggling. Check on them all.
Even your seemingly strongest friend, may be fighting the darkest of battles. I can tell you first hand how good a person can get at hiding it. Because I've done that, I've hid it. But I can also tell you how much a hug, a "hey thinking of you" or and invite to lunch can mean. And when you do check on them, listen to them. Listen to the words they say and the words they may not say out loud, I think you know what I mean. It's not enough to just say you're checking in, you have to be ready to help, and maybe even swoop in and pick them up off the floor. And sometimes you will get to see how you helped, they will ask you to grab them a dinner or watch their kids or take them to an appointment. But, maybe you won't. Maybe you will never know how much that "hey, just checkin on ya" will mean to them.
This time of year can be an especially hard time for people. It's a time of celebration and family for many, but for various reasons, it's a reminder of hard times too And while it's important all year round, they may need it even more right now. Check on them. That person that's been on your heart, call them. That friend you haven't heard from, stop by their house. Give those you see out and about a smile and a hello-sometimes that's all but the best thing you can do.
And in case you're reading this, and you need it....How are you doing? I'm checking on you, and I'm telling you that you are important, you do matter, I want you here, and you are so, so loved ❤️ #youmatter #checkin #musingsonmotherhood #rootandrise
Just some girly things for our sweet girl ✨
S c h o o l s o u t // For those of you about to embark on the summer holidays with your school age children... we're wishing you all the very best!!
We thought we'd kick the holidays off with 3 great activity ideas that we stole from some dear friends . These might be helpful for breaking up the week without creating too much extra work! 1) Baking Day - make one day of the week baking day and let your children choose a recipe that they would like to make, this activity can also include going to supermarket to get the ingredients and can tie in with other errands you may need to run. Our friends tell us that their kids of all ages love making a yummy sweet treat! 2) Picnic Day - choose a day of the week where you pack a little picnic and take the kids to a local park or beach for an alfresco lunch. Get them involved in preparing the food and making a list of what to take. Even just setting up a nice picnic in the garden at home is a sweet novelty and a great way of making lunchtime a little special. 3) Friday Night Movie Night - make yourself a fort in the lounge, pop some corn and get cosy for a family movie. It will be a highlight of the week for everyone, a great way to mark the end of another week together. If you're feeling up to it you could even pair this activity with homemade pizzas which the kids can make themselves. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Love Essie & Lou xoxox
Image credit: @lonnymagazine
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If I decide to take a shower, it’s safe to assume that the *very* moment the water starts running, one of my children will have to use the bathroom or will need to ask me 3,400 questions or will even feel called to hop right into the shower with me.
If I sit on the couch—or actually literally any surface at all—there’s gonna be a little heinie in my lap pretttty quickly.
If when I’m sleeping, I decide to try to take up my fair share of space in our bed—it may be tough for me because there’s likely a small child curled up on me.
If I’m eating, they will take what’s on my plate or sit directly on top of me, essentially acting as a food block from me and my precious sustenance.
If my hair is down, they take that as a signal for them to start playing with it, yanking it, brushing it, “braiding it” (twisting it into knots), “making it pretty”...
If even a hint of cleavage is showing, my breastfeeding 14-month-old runs like the wind to pull down my shirt and latch right on.
If my almost 3-year-old sees me putting on my robe, she asks if she can come inside it with me. Literally. I close it around her and tie it under her and it acts like a robe/carrier. (Don’t try that at home.)
Almost every second of the day, someone is touching me. And that can feel like a lot with three small humans—especially when I’m exhausted or my anxiety is running high or my hormones are all out of whack.
But honestly, today, right after we took this picture—Natalie jumped on my lap, too, and I started singing “all my babies, all my babies, allll my babieeees on my lap” to the tune of “oh my darlin’, oh my darlin’, oh my darlin’ Clementine” and they were LOVING every second of it. Like, eating it right up. They were giggling and singing with me and it was just one of those small, simple moments when I was like— “yep... this is awesome”—no matter how many peeps are up in my grill 24/7. 🤪
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🔸GIVEAWAY🔸 I love these soft handmade knits so much and can’t wait to see my baby in them! I’ve teamed up with @dezertkidz
to give one of you $25 shop credit to get some goodies from her upcoming restock! To enter: like this photo, make sure you’re following both of us, and tag some friends (each tag is an entry). Giveaway ends Saturday 12/15 and the winner will be announced on Sunday!
to my attempt at diy holiday photoshoot 🤣 I’m so grateful for our sweet baby girl @phoebelouisepalone
all she is, does and is growing to be. She keeps us on our toes and pushes us to be our best. She’s spicy, curious, determined, and perpetually happy. It’s such a gift to see life through your eyes. #belikephoebelouise
Throwback to #babyben
is making my heart melt. This now 2.5 year old got a big boy bed this past week after performing some crib escapes. Now we are playing nightly whack a mole with attempting to keep him in bed. Ahhh I miss the crib. But each night is improving. These memories have me thinking about all the things I thought I would do as a mom before I knew better. That’s the theme of next weeks post “Things I Judged Moms for Before I Understood” Its lighthearted but speaks to the tremendous strides and challenges we all face in our motherhood journeys. All of those “My future children will never” moments are pretty much just cosmic karma. Of course we all have our principles and I don’t mean to say those will bend, but my 22 year old self knew about as much about parenting as I do about rebuilding a spaceship. Bless. My. Sweet. (Idiot) Heart. || What are some things you thought you’d never do??
Who else loves baby snuggles after bath time?
Can we please be mom friends??!🥳💃👯♀️
Getting the gang back together this weekend and couldn't be more excited!! Meet my gorgeous mom, Robyn (middle), and beautiful sister, Danielle (right). My partners in crime, best friends and the only people who make me laugh so hard that I cry. We are going to make gingerbread trains (Yes, trains 😂) go Christmas shopping, find bargains and get into all sorts of shenanigans I'm sure! Can't wait!!!
You are in control of your life, be sure to respect yourself! ❤
Here’s the thing. I will radiate positivity wherever I go, I will smile at strangers, I will strike up conversations and respond in a friendly manner when people talk to me. I am loving sunshine and rainbows, but, come at me, bro, and you WILL get Mama Bear. 🐻
I have strong women in my family to look up to, my Grandmom Genevieve was fierce! She was among the first women to serve in the Armed Forces during WWII and a women’s rights activist. She was an artist, a writer, and, hell, she was whatever she wanted to be. That’s what she taught me. That I can do whatever I want in this life. That I am strong.
That I am an equal person.
I had a man ask me today during a heated exchange, “where’s your husband?” OH SNAP. OH NO HE DI’N’T! Where’s my husband? What freaking century am I am? What - do you want to call him over to “get me in line”? Oh hell no.
Maybe he thought I would just sit and take his scolding, maybe I shocked him that I actually stood up for myself, but I tell you what, in this life, my life, I ain’t sittin’ down for anyone, and especially not someone that comes at me all judge-y and imposing.
To all the ladies in the house, have you experienced a time when a man tried to “put you in your place” or made you feel less than because of your gender?
There are so many times I have experienced crap like this and I feel so very fortunate to have been around strong women all my life who set the example for me, who lit my fire, who helped me understand my worth.
Not everyone is so fortunate, I recognize, so I will always stand up... and stand up for them if I need to.
I am woman. Hear me. Hear this!
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I love #christmasshopping
🛍🎁 like I really love it. I love picking out gifts for ppl. I pride myself on being a great gift giver. A thoughtful gift giver...My holiday shopping is about 75% complete...but it feels like I'm behind due to Thanksgiving being so early this year. I'm loving how long the "holiday season" feels this year. Wishing Thanksgiving would be early every year. I had my #xmastree
up before December which was a week earlier than usual. 🎁🎅🎄Thoughts on holiday shopping? Like it? Love it? Hate it? 🛍🎁🎫 #holidayhustle #christmastime #thankful
It always seems that whenever one of our babies is having a hard time/ being as naughty as can be (Will right now) the other is an angel and then they swap 👼🙈