How many times were you abused, in any form, in front of others that stood by and did absolutely nothing? Was it family? A friend? A complete stranger? Do you blame them? Does it make you angry? Is it possible to have a healthy relationship with them? Can you trust them?
These are all questions i have asked myself. For me personally, i cannot. I've tried. That trust is gone. There is absolutely no way i could sit by and watch abuse, whether it's a complete stranger or my own family member. That's not who i am.
If people witness someone abusing an animal, they are more responsive to protecting that animal than they are with helping another human being. It's the assumption that a person can defend themselves, an animal cannot. But this is not always true. Someone that has been systematically abused over and over becomes numb and dissociative, that's why it's so very important to help others. I don't buy into that,
"I was just minding my own business."
That's bullshit. If you're witnessing abuse and ignoring it, you're just as guilty.
Years ago, i was driving downtown and i saw a man slap a woman, grab her by the arm and practically drag her into a car. Bystanders watched and just continued walking. No one did anything. They did not help her, call police, nothing. I called the police and told them i was following him. They told me to stop, they would check it out. Right. I've been on the other end of this and no, the police did not help.
I knew the police wouldn't do anything if i only reported it. By telling them i was following him they had to get involved.
Long story short, that poor girl was involved in a human trafficking ring. The guy was arrested. They wouldn't tell me more information for legal purposes. I still wonder about her and hope she's now living a healthy, happy life.
I guess the moral of this story is, Do something. Help. Don't be a cruel bystander. We have to help one another.
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