This little bit of WISDOM CHANGED EVERYTHING for me! 🔥🔥💪🏼🦄🔥🔥 I wanted SO BADLY to “make” my ex-abuser happy, but he only seemed to want to RAGE or stew in his own toxicity. ☹️ I had to learn the DIFFERENCE between TRUE LOVE and UNHEALTHY ATTACHMENT, and ACCEPT that he did NOT want to GROW with me.
It hurt... A LOT! 💔
But this PROFOUND piece of KNOWLEDGE granted me a FREEDOM I had NEVER felt before! 🔥🔥💪🏼🦄🔥🔥 The people who TRULY LOVE me were EXTREMELY HAPPY to see me making PROGRESS by setting healthy boundaries for myself, and those who ONLY wanted me to SUPPLY them (or “make them happy”) went elsewhere for their supply! 😜
But ATTACHMENT hurts like Hell.
Know the DIFFERENCE.
Please note that abusers can be any gender or relation to you, and you do not have to be able to diagnose someone with a personality disorder in order to recognize that their behavior is manipulative or abusive, and to set healthy boundaries for yourself in all types of friendships and relationships.
I recently answered a DM where someone wasn’t sure if their partner was a narcissist. I’m not a therapist, I don’t know these people and I certainly am not qualified to diagnose anyone—even if I were, again, I haven’t met them! (Although in certain circumstances personal experience > education and I certainly think no one can truly talk about what narcissistic abuse does to someone at a certain level unless they’ve personally experienced the hell that is being involved with someone like this.) With all of this being said, UNFAIRLY LABELING someone isn’t cool either!! It’s hurtful and insulting to call someone bipolar, another anorexic, someone else emotionally disregulated and another person clinically depressed when they aren’t. Well it’s rude to label someone as NPD when they aren’t either!! It isn’t fair to the person being labeled and it takes away from the true, awful abuse that victims experience from ACTUAL narcissists. KNOW THE SIGNS. Someone who takes a lot of selfies isn’t narcissistic in a lot of cases. Maybe he/she is comfortable with who they are? Maybe we could take self love lessons from them! Another who talks about only themselves isn’t necessarily one either! Maybe they’re nervous and not good at speaking to groups so they talk about what they know—themselves! STOP LABELING UNLESS YOU KNOW. And if you’re not sure, EDUCATE YOURSELF, read several different RELIABLE sources, talk to fighters/survivors, make a list if you have to. Incorrectly labeling someone is not fair nor is it right!
~We learn from experiences, only.~
We stay in complacency because we don't want the uncomfortable, we have this illusion that we are going to grow, right there in that safe spot, and we wait for darkness to wake us up! We miss the signs, and many more signs the universe send us to let us know that a situation is ending whether you want to admit it or not, we still hold onto unhealthy attachments until something big and traumatic happens to let us know is time to move.
The path of a master is not easy, or clear, but it is wealthy, the weatlh of experience, knowledge, wisdom that nobody can take from you.
What are we mastering at this moment?
Patience, Faith, strength, endurance, discipline, compassion, self-love, purity of thoughts, purity of words, creativity, how to use our free will, responsability, and so many more qualities, needed to be able to create in this new paradigm of unconditional love. Be courageous to change what needs to change, before the universe does it for you in such traumatic and painful ways.
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False belief alert! ‘You narcissist are my Source of self and I need to do all I can to retain you so that you can love me and keep me safe.’ Many people believe that narcissists went after us for our light. Yes, that was true, but they also could only target us if we were not fully and powerfully anchored in it. And even though we were giving and capable people, who had a lot to offer people, we were still precariously stuck in the beliefs that other people were bigger, stronger and more capable than us. We were not healthily partnered in our own power and light, and it was the smaller, broken, terrified to stand fully in the light places within us that subconsciously decided: ‘You narcissist are my Source of self and I need to do all I can to retain you so that you can love me and keep me safe.’ Until we become a True Source to Self, False Sources can be very alluring – it’s like the glitter that wasn’t the gold.
Additionally, many of us have literally come from epigenetic wounds or past life embedded traumas in our energy fields, in regards to having to go underground literally or cloak our true identities, because if we were discovered for who we really were, we would be eliminated. Maybe we were the wrong race, or religion, or held beliefs against the system that deemed us as heretics.
So, was it any wonder, that when the narcissist grandstanded, took center stage and demanded that all and sundry gravitate around him or her (or be punished) that we stayed and acquiesced. We weren’t free to express our dreams and missions. We lost ourselves, our resources and health that was needed for these dreams and missions, as we let the narcissist siphon all of that out in our attempt to survive.
So within, so without – we replay in our subsequent lifetimes and evolution the composition of our emotional energy fields. If all of this was previously familiar to ourselves and/or our ancestors, we can be highly susceptible to living the same again – until we go inside and release and reprogram these traumas.
The link on my profile page will lead you to the tools so you become a source to yourself and stop handing your power away to narcissists.
Much love xo ❤️
It’s a been week since I started to open my heart to the world. The right to share my side of the history is mine and no one will take that from me. Internet is an amazing place and, nowadays Instagram is where everybody’s. When he told me to go to Brazil for some weeks in one unexpected way in the middle of July, summer in Europe. I never thought that was because he would bring some other woman to my bed. In one certainly evening of September 2017, while going trough Instagram I saw the most hurtful thing of my life, a picture of another woman naked, in our house in Spain. What else was there!? Forgive your monsters, you’ve already gave them enough. #narcissisticabuse #lifeafterdivorce #straighttothepoint #envyme #truestories #truestory #betrayal
As I sat behind and watched him decorate the tree a mix of emotions grew to be ever present. There was joy, because I know this is such a magical time for him. There was melancholy, because I know that I get to have a peaceful holiday season this year after enforcing healthy boundaries for my family, but also because that means the dream of a big family holiday is just that for now, a dream. There is also anticipation- because I know I’m building that for generations to come. Some day I won’t be looking at my little boy exploring through my ornament box, I’ll be looking at HIS little boy exploring my ornament box.. and at the end of my life the one and only thing I truly want deep down in my soul is to be contently surrounded by family. I want to sit back in my rocking chair and see healthy love between siblings, parents, children, grandchildren, and cousins. I believe. I believe in magic too sweet boy, and I believe that you’re the start of something new. The prince of peace is washing his grace over my home this year. I refuse to be anything other than grateful, I refuse to let your holiday be anything less than just as magical as you are to me. 🎄
There is a blessing in keeping a daily gratitude journal. When anxiety and overwhelm take over, you can pause, read or reflect, breathe and move forward. It’s a practice, it takes time, but over time subtle shifts begin.... the healing begins.
This is one tool that has helped me heal over the past handful of years.
Narcissists never reached a level of emotional maturity where they could #individuate
. They see everyone else as an extension of themselves. They cannot truly see others as individuals. .
Narcissists think that #Empaths
are con artists who claim to be sensitive & empathetic in order to manipulate.
Narcissists believe a sexually inexperienced person is actually really a whore, posing as an innocent in order to deceive & manipulate people.
And on it goes. The ultimate in #projection
don’t believe that you, or anyone else, can TRULY love them. They believe you profess love because you have an ulterior motive — perhaps you want their money, you want sex, you want to control and manipulate them. This is what a narcissist wants from you, and because they can’t accept that people are individuals, they assume it’s what you also want from them.
Imagine staggering through life with that sort of mindset? Where you think everybody is out to manipulate, con and misrepresent! 😱
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