I actually got up early & did my workout BEFORE work today! 🎉
Even though it wasn’t as early as I wanted (I may have accidentally hit snooze a few times 🤦♀️), I am still happy I was able to get it DONE! ✅
#teamorenda #youcandoit #happywednesday
Getting healthy use to mean getting skinny. •
My mindset has changed. Now, getting healthy means trusting God more, eating right, working out, and being around people that make you stronger every day.
Whole body wellness over skinny.
I have been stressed. My job is the kind of job that really puts peoples limits to the test. People might look at my job and think it’s a lazy persons job, a job for someone who doesn’t want a “real” job. However, anger, embarrassment, sadness, excitement - a genuine roller coaster of emotions on every shift. Wondering what my job is?
I serve cocktails, that’s right, what’s so hard about that?
Being filled with adrenaline on most shifts because I’ve been verbally abused, sexually harassed or physically put in danger. Crying in the arms of my managers half way through a shift because someone out of anger has shattered a pint glass onto the bar showering me and colleagues in glass. Walking through my place of work and being groped by men as if it’s acceptable behaviour. Going outside to stop a full blown panic attack because someone has not taken no for an answer in asking for my number or my name. Nothing in life prepares you for these situations because in reality, they shouldn’t happen. I shouldn’t have to go into work and tell customers I’m married so they finally leave me alone, I shouldn’t have to dress in oversized clothing to cover my body to avoid sexual comments, I shouldn’t have to go home carrying the weight of someone calling me names and humiliating me. But I do all of those things, because it makes my job easier, but it doesn’t make my life easier.
Situations like this might be really minimal for someone else to overcome but for me, it sets off my anxiety, depression and OCD.
But that’s a story for another day.
I have good days and adore my job, everyone one of my team members, every single one takes five minutes out of their day to ask how others are getting on with open arms because they know how hard it can be, it’s such a positive environment to work in. Its something that keeps me strong.
#mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #ocdawareness #overcomingdepression #overcominganxiety #fear #cocktailmaster #nomeansno #imnotashamed #talkinghelps #letstalk #barwork #confidence #positivity
I’ve been wanting to start some sort of outlet for how I’m feeling and writing it down on paper just doesn’t cut it for me because I want people to hear my stories. I want people to take something away from them, whether it be a feeling of familiarisation, comfort or confidence to talk about how they’re feeling, whether it be in letters to themselves or as simple as an Instagram post. Here is my place to be open, to be honest on speaking about ex partners, life experiences and mental health. It if I touch base on something you’re going through, please message me, if I write something you want to question me about, feel free too. Just know that everything will be anonymous, i know I will have people who know me and dislike me, find this account and use it as something to gossip about with their friends but if I write something and it sparks some sort of bitterness in you, maybe you shouldn’t be on this page.
This is not a page for giving or receiving personal attacks.
#mentalhealth #vunrable #open #overcomingdepression #overcominganxiety #letstalk #anxiety #ocd #help #support #talkinghelps #blog #thoughts #positivity
You will have to turn your brightness up high to see this booty (black jeans on a dark background😅) but this is day 30!! I feel amazing, I feel confident, I’m wearing a shirt that I never wear because I always felt “fat” in it. Haven’t weighed myself or done measurements today, but focusing on the non-scale victories instead. I find those are way more accurate! 🥰 30 days ago I felt fed up with how I was feeling. I was sad getting dressed because I didn’t feel comfortable in my body and I was avoiding the gym because of my anxiety. One day while working a night shift something clicked and I decided I was going to try beach body. Honestly I never thought it would have changed my life this much, and I never imagined that I would want to be a coach! Crazy how things have changed, and every morning I wake up early so excited to get my workout in and stick to my meal plan. I really hope that I am able to help someone else achieve their goals, and feel as good as I do 💕🌸🌿
I almost missed Transformation Tuesday, made it by 2 hours my time 😁
TBH: The last couple of hours consisted of me laying in bed on a heating pad with cramps 🙄♀️ and working from my phone!
The thing is, it doesnt HAVE to be Tuesday for me to post these progress pictures. I can do it whenever I want! Just like it doesn't have to be a Monday to start a lifestyle change, or the new year, or the "right time" or any other excuses that you are giving yourself 💯
If you keep waiting for it, it will never happen and I know that from experience 👌 It took me a long time to figure it out but once I did I wanted to smack myself for waiting so long. FACTS!
So heres your dose of tough love: Take control and do something about the things your unhappy about or stop being unhappy about them 😘
Reach out and I'll tell you more about how I've taken control and you can too! Today... on a Tuesday! 💌
Leg day is done! ✔️
It was a LOOOONG day, but I didn’t use that as an excuse! Still got my workout in and now time for a healthy dinner!
The best way to cure your wounds is to be love. I know, I know you may be a little resistant to the idea. How can I cure the pain and the brokenness from my past experiences? What if I tell you there is a way, fast and easy. You have to believe me and give it a try. .
Yesss... surrender ALL! Be okay with what happened, be okay with here and now. I am not saying you have to forget. But in order to receive, you have to let go. .
Practice gratitude daily, be love. Act with kindness to others. Be gentle with yourself. Forgive yourself often and admire the progress you make each day. .
Love is a cure... love is my religion, love is my medicine and the way to come back to my soul. The heart never leave us, we leave our loving self. .
Just know that the way to come back, is always to BE LOVE. .
#belove #loveisthecure #risingfromtheashes #comebacktolove #overcomingdepression #overcomingobstacles #overcominganxiety #overcomingthedarkness #beingtheglow #becomingthelight
Give from the heart ♥️ 🖤
John 15:13 says; Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. 🙌🏻
Even when it feels you don’t have much, we must find a way to give. Pay it forward. — loving this handsome man for his giving heart & his willingness to grow his hair and donate to @wigsofhope
is such a selfless act of agape love!!! .
Honored to be married to him, my husband, my swan 💋
These three are my favorite 💖
I’ve been feeling very overwhelmed and anxious the past few days and seeing this sight tonight brings me so much peace and a reminder that no matter what—God is good and we are blessed 💕
It’s so easy to get caught up in the hustle of the season...to feel behind or inadequate. If you’re feeling stressed and overwhelmed this holiday season, take a step back and remember all the things you have to be grateful for and that God is so so good. And remember, you already have all that you truly need.
#Godisgood #lovemylilfam #overcominganxiety #thankfulmom #gratefulwife #attitudeofgratitude
I was so scared!! 😨😨
I have been dreading this MRI appointment today since I made it. I have an anxiety diagnosis and a very unhealthy fear of death so getting slowly funneled into a death tube seemed like a recipe for disaster to me.
I was teary as I left my house and I could feel my blood pumping and the all too familiar feeling of anxiety boiling up. So many times I have felt that initial creep in of anxiety and watched helplessly as it slowly consumes my body.
I used some of the techniques I have learned throughout the years. And I used some new techniques I have learned in meditation. I figured if there was ever a time to try to calm my mind, this was it. I used some affirmations like, I am safe, I am strong, I can overcome. And I thought of a pleasant situation, I thought of this day pictured here. Me and my girl at a beautiful park in the woods on a most lovely August day.
Friends, you are stronger than you think, you can do anything you put your mind to. You can come from the crappiest situation and you can make it the best situation.
The power lies within us.
Peace and Love Everyone 😘
#overcomingfear #meditation #meditationtechniques #mri #MRIfear #selfhelp #selflovefirst
#anxiety #livingwithanxiety #overcominganxiety #overcomingdepressionandanxiety #dog #dogs #olddogs #olddog #olddogsofinstagram #olddogsarethebestdogs #dogandi #professionalphotoshoot #blackandwhite #bythecreek
I’ve fallen in love with IFS Therapy. Today I did some inner dialoging, mapping out the dynamic and journaling what came up for me and the conversations I had with my parts or sub-personalities.
#ifstherapy #partswork #self
This morning I had a cute little coffee date with a super good friend who loves fitness and adores Jesus as much as I do.
She was sharing a struggle with me that I so deeply felt empathetic towards because I share a similar struggle.
As I was praying for God to show me how to encourage her I came across this verse:
“Know therefore that the Lord your God is faithful; keeping His covenant of love to a thousand generations of those who love Him and keep His commandments.”
We ALL have struggles but we can rest in the fact that God is always faithful no matter what we may be going through.
I have had a TOUGH year full of obstacles, fears, and doubts, but I know my God is making me stronger in order to help those that feel hopeless and lost ♥️
⭐️With all things in life, FIND YOUR WHY! ⭐️
I have struggled with appreciating and loving my body for as long as I can remember. I spent most of middle and high school hating my body, wishing desperately for it to be different. When I went to college, I gained the dreaded “Freshman Five” and then some, only to further increase my negative body image. I developed an eating disorder and struggled with that for over 2 years before finally accepting recovery.
Fast forward to now and I still struggle. Recovery has been difficult. I began running about 2 ½ years ago and it helped immensely, but I still just couldn’t strike a balance. I was either working out 6 days a week or not at all. I was eating all the time or restricting food. I couldn’t find a happy medium.
After getting married a few months ago, I came back from our honeymoon and felt absolutely lost. I didn’t know where I was going with my life or what I was doing. I really felt like I didn’t even know myself at all.
I was so tired of hating my body and feeling lost. Getting up in the mornings was beyond difficult. Working out was out of the question because I just couldn’t find the motivation or desire to do it. After a few weeks, I’d finally had enough and decided to really dig deep into my health and wellness! I joined a great community of supportive individuals and I feel the best I have in a LONG time!
I am consistent with my workouts. I am FUELING my body instead of using food as a tool for guilt and shame. I have energy and can wake up in the morning without hitting snooze ten times. Most importantly, I feel like ME again. It’s been SO long since I’ve felt like myself and that is the greatest thing about being a part of this awesome community. The love, the support, the sense of purpose!
Getting started on this journey wasn’t easy, but it has been the best decision I’ve made! I think, if nothing else, we can all use more support and love from those around us! If you’re interested in what I’m doing or would like more information on this fantastic opportunity, send me a message or leave a comment below! I’d love to have you join me! 💕
Chugged my pre & pressed play on a preview workout for Shaun T’s new program, Transform :20! And it was AWESOME!
I didn’t even use a step & I still got a killer workout. I’m OBSESSED! AND, it was only 20 minutes!
I think I may have found my new favorite program! 😉
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I often get asked why do I specialize in perfectionism when perfectionist are highly appreciated and sought by employers.
My response.... Just because they are sought after does not make being a perfectionist a good thing? I believe what employers are really looking for is the characteristics of a perfectionist... the drive, attention to detail, loyalty, drive and dedication etc....
I believe if employers really new the turmoil and pain true perfectionist went through the push for perfectionism and perfectionist would reduce. The turmoil includes a intense fear of failure, fear of losing a job from a simple mistake, fear of rejection from coworkers, constantly redoing work because they believe it is not enough and much more
To all my CEO's, managers, business owners, entrepreneurs, Hiring managers etc.... please take time to rethink your thoughts on perfectionist and see how that push for perfectionism is doing more harm than good... Why?.... easy.... Perfection does not Exist...
#perfectiontuesday #authenticallybeyou #perfectionist #perfectionism #overcomingperfectionism #ceo #hirringmanger #manger #businessowner #entreprenuers #workplace #stress #anxiety #fear #selfcrticism #atlantatherapist #womenentreprenuers #growth #changeintheworkplace #employers #womensmentalhealth #overcominganxiety
Here's a simple tool that might help you through the day. The power of breathing is more restorative than you think.
🎥 via mental_health_advocacy
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Benson (the cream one) has become reactive after a move to Newcastle and some injuries that meant he couldn’t get out for walks as much. He and his parents had a home visit to start with some behavioural modification to work towards getting Benson back to the friendly relaxed dog he once was.
At first I wanted to post some uplifting and inspirational caption but that didn’t feel genuine with how I’ve been feeling lately. So here’s my truth...healing from loss and heartbreak isn’t always easy. Neither is doing very in depth therapy. This season is affecting me harder than I thought it would. I’m still enjoying the moments but there’s also an internal sadness I’m having trouble shaking. So I’ve decided to let all the feelings in, to journal what’s in my heart even if writing down the words makes the pain that much more real. I can tell I’m growing though, that I’m learning so much about myself, and that I’m on the verge on discovering even more. .
If you’re anything like me and coped with pain by pretending it’s not there, my advice to you is to let it all in. It’s not going anywhere. It’s okay to have hard days, feeling your emotions means you’re HUMAN and you’re HEALING ❤️ I’m so grateful I’ve learned this lesson after my most recent heartbreak...it only took about 5 heartbreaks to finally get there 😬 Don’t forget to take care of yourself this holiday season, self care and self love are the best GIFTS you can give yourself 🎁 I’m always open to sharing my insights on how to heal a broken heart and how to #selfcare
...and I’m always here to chat if you need to 💕
One thing I’m continuously working on personally is this exact quote, “Embrace fear and failure. It is the only way that extraordinary is made real”.
I’ve always just tried to play it safe. I didnt want to go out of my comfort zone. I didn’t want to possibly try something I could fail at or set myself up for failure but now more and more I’m realizing you guys that’s the only way we grow. That’s the only way we can create ourselves to be different to stand out to be extraordinary! To gravitate towards our fears and face them and conquer them and to fail here and there and try again!
it is easier
to love you
and forget you
I need a change. Thanks!!!!
A moment of true reflection! As I look back on the past weekend I was reminded of this quote, I like so many others I’m sure struggle with my self image! In truth I hated most of my time in school, and I’m sure most of it has to do with this quote!
To me I was a poor family in a rich community, bi-racial in a time I’m it was uncommon in a nearly all white school, a divorced family, had a mom who committed suicide, and, although I now know it was dyslexia, was a high schooler who struggled with reading and spelling! As I socialized at my reunion this weekend, I was that high schooler again! Trying desperately to feel accepted! Far too often I let those around me define who I am. I’m always amazed when people say I was well liked or have compliments about me from my past! I’m thankful I have an amazing wife Katie who continues to work to remind me who I am!
I graduated with honors, got a degree in architecture, work as an engineer, have a beautiful, caring wife, the most beautiful and perfect children, live in amazing home in an amazing community surrounded by friends and family! And truly I am who God says I am, loved and accepted, but when we allow what we think others believe, it causes a disconnect! #highschool #socialanxiety #fittingin #selfworth #selfdoubt #stronger #grounded #reunion #selfimage #growingstronger #motivational #notalone #better #overcominganxiety #selfesteem
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Are you holding your breath going into the holiday season? Worried about meltdowns and managing behavior?
PRINT THIS OUT, talk with your partner/family/BFF and set yourself up for success these next few weeks. Great ideas for all families, especially those who have experienced loss or trauma.
Thanks to A Better Chance For Our Children in #Delaware
and The Attachment Coalition of #Michigan
for your decades of work making this helpful tip sheet possible!
This week we are focusing love and kindness for our advent devotionals. Kindness is so important and so needed. And I feel like acts of kindness have diminshed. We are all too busy to want to do those things for others. But do you know the impact that could have on someone!? It doesn't have to be super expensive and big, just something small and meaningful. Usually the small acts of kindness are the best.
Today I challenge you to do something kind. Smile extra, pay for the persons groceries behind you, send a cute card; anything!
Lets all make this a GREAT day!!!!
L E T S • T A L K
Did you see it, that LIVE video I did last night about my new adventure?
If not, that is okay BECAUSE it sure was not my best work. But I did it! I let my husband record my Facebook one and watch as I butchered my talk.
So, now I am gonna remind you what this new adventure is all about.
🥰 Building confidence all through the use of a LUXURY hair care product.
💰 FREEDOM of stress that relates to life in general.
🤦🏼♀️ A sense of purpose to all my Mamas out there!
😜 Being in a world full of LOVE, SUPPORT and FUN
Now, I am not a haircare expert but what I do know is that I want to share this product with all of you because of how it made my hair feel and the confidence this Mama Bear has!
Group workout 🙌🏽
10 x Wall balls
250m x Row
10 x Thrusters
10 x Burpees - 3 Rounds
So a lot of my friends have already seen this one . But basically I’ve been pushed to sing for years and I’ve always struggled with anxiety and insecurities, depression the works really . So singing in front of people seemed a nightmare , it wasn’t until last week I realised I actually feel great when I put my mind to something else like singing , and people (some ) genuinely enjoy hearing it . When I’m down or upset I’ll write a new tune or a line , sing to my favourite Bruce Springsteen or Dolly song and I feel good . I’ve been in my darkest of places in the last month and even if it sounds strange one video being posted with 3.7k views made me feel amazing and I stopped hating my self and distracted me from my anxiety. So I’m hoping to push myself to the limits and be a happier healthier person and express myself through songs and harmony’s . And I hope to encourage others to find something that distracts them and helps them just long enough to think “ I am okay , I am enough “ stay tuned #brucespringsteen #overcominganxiety #selflove #expressionthroughsong
Podróżowanie to oczywiście poznawanie nowych kultur, to docieranie do miejsc zapierających dech w piersiach, które będziemy mieli przed oczami do końca życia, to próbowanie nowych potraw, które pobudzają nasze kubki smakowe, to zawieranie nowych znajomości i tworzenie wspólnych wspomnień. Jednak rzeczą za którą najbardziej cenię podróżowanie jest fakt, że zmusza mnie ono do wyjścia ze strefy komfortu. Zazwyczaj nie jest łatwo. Ba! Nigdy nie jest. Ponieważ trzeba stawić czoła swoim największym lękom, pokonać strach i walczyć z wewnętrznymi demonami. Ale to uczycie, gdy (nawet troszeczkę) uda się wyjść z tej strefy, jest jednym z piękniejszych uczuć jakie doświadczyłam do tej pory.
———————————————————————— Traveling is of course experiencing new cultures, it’s exploring beautiful places, trying new flavours, it’s making new friends and making memories with them. But what I value most about traveling is that it makes you step out of your comfort zone. And it’s not always easy. To be honest I would say it is pretty damn hard. You have to face your fears, overcome anxiety and you have to fight your inner demons. But stepping out of your comfort zone (even just a little bit) is one of the best feelings I have experienced so far.
————————————————————————#backtovietnam #vietnam #vietnamtravel #explorevietnam #vũngtàu #vungtau #seasia #seasiatravel #comfortzone #leavingcomfortzone #longtravel #overcominganxiety #overcomingfear #azja #wietnam #strefakomfortu #wyjściezestrefykomfortu #pokonywaniesłabości #travelgirldiary #travelgram #wheretheskymeetsthesea #widzenieboniemysle #widzęnieboniemyślę
Tuesday coaching sessions 🙌 When you are enthusiastic about what you do, you feel this positive energy. It's very simple. Paulo Coelho
I used to be afraid to fail. It was truly one of my greatest fears and biggest triggers for anxiety. .
The thought of letting someone down, being embarrassed in front of others, or being rejected for not being good enough kept me from going after things I knew I wanted for many years.
I used to think I had to have every step figured out before I could start something.
The problem with this, though, is it’s nearly impossible to have EVERYTHING figured out start to finish.
There are always plot twists, learning curves, and new information in everything we do.
What I’ve learned is that when I TAKE ACTION, the more CLARITY I find. .
The more CLARITY I find, the less fear and anxiety I feel.
The less FEAR and ANXIETY I feel, the more aligned with my PURPOSE I become. .
Tell me below if you are willing to TAKE ACTION somewhere today where you are feeling unclear. 👇🏼
#dothethings #actioncreatesclarity #naptimehustle #mompreneur #overcominganxiety #beaboss