After the excitement of the wedding ends, the honeymoon phase begins. In the honeymoon period, you are in bliss. There's excitement about all the newness and it feels like love is just surrounding you. You start learning things about each other (some good, some not so good, some so weird😂) but they all seem endearing and have so many firsts together. All their little habits are new and you shed some of your old routine to make "our routine" and start the process of nesting. Some say the period lasts 6 months to a year. But what about when that period ends and the sparkle dies down?
For me I don't think the honeymoon period lasted past 6 months- and I panicked. Nothing was bad in our relationship but the novelty was wearing off. It's normal to feel this way. It's so normal to wonder what next- but the trick is to figure out what your new normal will be.
Instead of the excitement I use to feel when he walked into a room, I started to feel comfort.
Instead of the tingling in my skin when he held my hand, I now felt care.
Instead of thinking about all of the firsts we wouldn't have I focused on "our couple things" that you'll soon come to realize you can't live without. ( And p.s. you will still have so many firsts!) Instead of all his habits being endearing, some will be annoying. (Other people probably find them annoying too and now you can fix them 😂)
Instead of never arguing, you will argue and you will make up and find solutions and you will be a better and stronger couple for it.
The novelty of the word husband on your tongue will wear off. That feeling of lightness as it breezes off your tongue with excitement will fade. You'll forever introduce him as that, but it will have so much more meaning. It will feel heavier on your tongue, weighed down with the days you've spent together and the meaning he puts into that word.
You will feel down, you will have days where none of this feels worth it but you will have someone to pick you up or at the very least sit with you until you are ready to pick yourself up.
The novelty fades but it's replaced by something tried and tested that is less fragile and can withstand more. And that is everything.❤️