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I LOVE this book SO much!!! . . . If you think you might enjoy reading about how your birth order influences your parenting, spouse-ing, career choices...then this book is for you - it is SO on point! . . . Grab this book on Amazon with the link in my profile. #Affiliatelink . . . #WhyYouAreTheWayYouAre #TheBirthOrderBook #FirstBorn #Perfectionism #MyPoorHusband
If you’re on a hike and find a fork in the road, what do you do?🍴 . Stop for lunch.🥪 . Yep, you guessed it. Today is National Take a Hike Day! Since we love to talk about food, it is only appropriate we have a food-related hiking joke. Right?! . We hope you get a chance to #optoutside and enjoy a hike - by yourself, with friends, or with man's best friend. . While you are out there, take a quick moment to absorb all the beauty mother nature has to offer. 🗻💕 . #theperfectdietmyth #recoveringperfectionist #perfection #perfectionist #perfectionism #effperfection #effperfectionism #nomoreperfectionism #breakfreefromperfectionism #stopperfectionism #selflove #selfcompassion #nobadfoods #mindfuleating #mindfulness
Great reading/convo with Jaclyn Gilbert @jgilbert1884 and Jessie Chaffee on #perfectionism #thebody #running #grief #lateair #florenceinecstasy at the fab bookstore @bluestockingsnyc
Inspired by @jaynehardy_ ’s wonderful quote this morning so I decided to post it myself!!! Perfectionism is a curse. A curse that I have which was born from a place of not feeling good enough. I mean, why else would people strive for “perfection” if they felt that what they already had to give was enough? I have a bootcamp sergeant who lives in my head that tells me I’m a slacker, I’m lazy, I’m not good enough, I don’t work hard enough and that everyone around me can see that. It makes me need to “prove” constantly that I am a hard worker a.k.a worthy of love. It distorts my self-image into a creature that my friends wouldn’t even recognize. I am not any of those things. I do work hard and even if I didn’t, even if I stopped I would STILL be good enough. What I do is good enough. And if I haven’t done what I need to do, it’s because I’m too tired. Or because I need a break. Or because I CAN’T BE FUCKED!!! Because beating myself up every day makes me not want to give a fuck or do anything. All this teaches me is that I need to stop working from a place of “not enough” and start giving myself permission to not work, to rest and to stop fucking telling myself this bollocks. None of us are “slackers”. Those of us who don’t/can’t work is because we are exhausted. Mentally, physically or both (I mean these go hand in hand). Self-forgiveness and self-compassion are key. Let yourself off the hook. Give yourself a break. Fire that fucking sergeant in your head and live your life. Boot camp is not where you belong!!! You deserve FREEDOM!!! ❤️🙏🏻👊🏻 #selflove #loveyourself #beyourself #productivity #youareenough #perfect #empowerment #healing #journey #spiritual #love #inspiration #mentalhealth #mentalillness #perfectionism #recovery
Today is Saturday, which means I’ll be multi-slacking, instead of multi-tasking! 😂 Choose peace today! Find things that nurture you and help recharge ya. After all, isn’t that part of what weekends are for?! 🌿 #weekendmood #weekendstateofmind #begoodtoyourself #instarelaxing 🌻
Things I’ve learned from this trip... but also kinda “knew” for a while but never took the time to really accept: . 1. Getting the perfect body gets you nothing. Nothing. Once you get your dream body, then what? More obsessing over food to sustain it. Working on healthy habits for your body AND YOUR MIND will help you achieve lifelong health. . . 2. Your husband will not love you more if you have a perfect body. If you’re obsessing over food to get a perfect body, he’s probably tired of seeing you unhappy and obsessive over food. He will love when you stop obsessing over food so it’ll be fun and not stressful to go on trips. And most importantly, YOU will get to go on trips and have fun and not be stressed out about food. You will get to enjoy life. Imagine that. . . 3. You can be around people who have smaller bodies than you and be okay. Just because someone’s body is smaller doesn’t mean you need a smaller body. Your body is yours. When you’re not obsessing over food, you stop obsessing over the getting a smaller body. You’re allowed to take up space. Shrinking smaller cannot be the goal of your whole life. There are so many amazing things you can do when you’re not obsessing over food. Exercise can be a habit for health and not harm. . . 4. Lastly, it’s important to see not so perfect photos of people online. We are constantly seeing only the best photos from the perfect angle with the best lighting and also a filter. I have wrinkles and a nose crinkle and also a vampire tooth. If you scroll to the next photo, there’s a guy’s leg coming out of my ear. ✌🏼 . . . . . . . . #honeymoon2018 #wedding2018 #thailand #phuket #married #chicagowedding #transformationphoto #orthorexia #orthorexiarecovery #bingeeating #perfectionism #manifestation #healthymindset #lifeafterwhole30 #whole30 #whole30recovery #ed #whole30results #imperfecteating
"We like the moon, not the planet. It’s not a bad thing to die and not to be sad." #个人完美主义 #个人主义 #individualism #perfectionism #model #sydney
2018-07-25 Two elements // Две стихии 🌱⛰☀️ #perfectionism #nature #green #stone #москва
Где-то там наверху Фредди Меркьюри уже наверняка, в режиме Made in Heaven, покинул группу Queen. В знак протеста против того карикатурного персонажа, из фильма "Богемская рапсодия", каким вывели его бывшие друзья-товарищи. Такой перфекционист как он, конечно, не мог выдержать настолько изощрённого издевательства. Можно даже снять фильм на эту тему, как Фредди покидает там, на небесах, группу: "Made in Heaven 2". Дарю, даю идею Голливуду. #queen #freddiemercury #madeinheaven #фреддимеркьюри #фильмы #искусство #творчество #музыка #films #art #music #bohemianrhapsody #богемскаярапсодия #perfectionism #голливуд #hollywood
I was going to trim out the part where I had no idea how to pump my spin in the right direction, but I decided to leave it because exploration is simply that—moving through the unfamiliar to learn about it. You create some, you discard some; you create, you recreate, you discard, and you revisit. . . If I listen to my perfectionist voice, none of this is exactly what I want it to be or makes any sense. But if I reframe this away from the critic into what I like.. ultimately what I like is simply that I’ve allowed myself to let my body to move in the weird ways it wants to without setting rigid parameters or harsh judgments on myself. That’s good enough for me!☺️ (sped up x2.5 sorry for the chipmunk🐿 ) . . . “The one thing that you have that nobody else has is you. Your voice, your mind, your story, your vision. So write and draw and build and play and dance and live as only you can.” -Neil Gaiman (my favorite author btw!!) . . #dancelessons #translateinto #lifelessons #theprocess #improv #movementexploration #trustintheprocess #perfectionism #lyra #selflove #selfcompassion #mentalhealthmatters #aerialhoop #hoopflow #movementismedicine #dance
🏙 Perfection is the child of time. - Joseph Hall . . . Somewhere in Beijing, China . . . #city #quote #perfection #perfectionist #perfectionism #building #architecture #beijing #china #child #time #josephhall #joseph #hall #followfollow
There's Magic in the air... Throwback to last week, when I was in Edinburgh. My god, I'm in love with that city! (Yes, I had to try on a Harry Potter-cape in this cute shop)⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🔮🧙‍♀️⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Today, I'm having a SUPER relaxed day: going to the spa with 2 friends. Do you like spas, saunas and massages? I used to be super self conscious about stuff like this (getting naked - eek!) but now I can't think of a more relaxing thing to do in the world!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🧖‍♀️⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ And as the participants for the Magical Morning Challenge keep flowing in today, I can't help but make the comparison.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 💆⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This challenge is sort of like a spa for you mind! Imagine what it would feel like if you could start every day feeling energised, refreshed and excited about what's to come. Instead of anxious and worried and afraid that you're going to fail whatever you have to do today.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🙏⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What would that change for you? I'd love to hear!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🙏⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #magic #edinburgh #harrypotter #challenge #spa #relax #calm #mindbodysoul #morningroutine #wonderfulyou #empowerment #women #perfectionism
Confession: I am a perfectionist. It’s something that I have struggled with my entire life. From when I was young, having mental breakdowns over grade-school projects that didn’t turn out exactly as I envisioned, to writing and rewriting my law school application over and over until I was convinced it read “perfectly”. And even then, I still felt subpar. I felt like anything I created was a representation of me. I couldn’t disassociate my identity as a human from my work. It’s only since beginning a steady yoga practice 8 or so years ago that I have been able to offer myself grace on days when I feel substandard. Today after a mishap at the studio all of my perfectionist tendencies came flooding in. All I could think was how I should have been there to fix it and how badly it reflects on me that this occured. It took a good couple of hours & some venting to my favourite humans to come down off that ledge. And then after a good pep talk with myself, I sat down and got to work on improving the system that failed us today. Not me. Not my work, but the system. Some days are easier for me to let go and accept that I can’t control everything; others are more challenging. Opening and running my own business has definitely tested me in this way because so much of my heart and soul have been invested into creating this special space that it’s hard not to feel interconnected. But this, just like working on techniques to learn a new pose, is also part of the daily practice–being kind to myself and continuing to cultivate peace & acceptance with what is. It’s not an excuse to slack off, but an opportunity to move forward & to improve with a clear and compassionate mind leading the way. To any of our @omologyyoga students that showed up this morning for class at 10:15am, I apologise again on behalf of the studio for the confusion. We are taking efforts to make sure that this does not happen again. And hopefully we will be able to reconnect on the mat another time 🙏🏻❤️✨
MERCURY STATIONED RETROGRADE in Sagittarius this morning, right after Venus finally stationed direct. Looks like we’re not going to be allowed to leave 2018 without a little bit more reflection, and it’s going to be a little dreamier and more deceptive than typical with Neptune squaring the whole shebang. 🔥 It’s been a big year. We’re moving away from the competitive paradigm and moving toward the collective. We’re still in between no longer and not yet. Mercury is forcing you to reflect on the present moment in all of its glorious uncertainty. 🔥 What transformed for you in 2018? What did you learn? And what did you release? Most importantly, how do you want to proceed? 🔥 Take it easy on yourself for the next couple of weeks. EXPECT THE UNEXPECTED. On the one hand, things may not progress according to their normal marching orders. On the other hand, whatever you’re trying to manifest may come to fruition in ways totally backwards, unusual, and non-linear. It could be beautiful and powerful. Just make sure you really want to manifest whatever it is. CAST YOUR SPELLS CAREFULLY. 🔥 Meanwhile, Sagittarius wants to solve your—and the world’s—problems in a new and unexpected way. Take advantage. Embrace beginner’s mind. And remember: THE ONLY WAY OUT IS THROUGH. ❤️❤️❤️ #mercuryretrograde #sagittarius #pisces #scorpio #synchronicity #showup #perfectionism #empath #empathsbelike #highlysensitiveperson #sensitive #hsp #witchesofinstagram #shaman #sacred #astrology #alchemy #divinefeminine #magic #yoga #meditation #addiction #mentalhealth #recovery #anxiety #depression #chronicpain #drmaya #shetreat #dirtcure
We choose to know and what not to know all the time. 😳 . We choose to see or not to see what's right in front of you. 🤔 . What do you know right now you're trying very hard not to know? ~ Karen Hawkwood 🤯 . New musings - link in bio! 👆💋
PERFECTIONISM & BEAUTY. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Many perfectionists harbor a fear that they are not beautiful, physically, mentally or emotionally. That they don’t have it ALL. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ↠ The things we do to COVER UP for our PERCEIVED LACK OF BEAUTY are the very things that KEEP US from REVEALING OUR BEAUTY TO THE WORLD. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Beauty is a mighty loaded word, isn’t it?Beauty is something we...⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ↠ CRAVE. ↠ Are ASHAMED OF WANTING. ↠ Are GRATEFUL FOR. At the same time - it is airy, fluid, and hard to put into words. It’s very subjective. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I find the dictionary definition of beauty beautiful.. ↠ A COMBINATION OF QUALITIES THAT PLEASES THE AESTHETIC SENSES; A COMBINATION OF QUALITIES THAT PLEASE THE INTELLECT OR MORAL SENSE. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ So, the word perfect does not appear in the definition of beauty. At all. We are ALL beautiful. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ↠ Our UNIQUE COMBINATION OF QUALITIES, INTELLECT AND MORAL SENSE COMBINE AND PRESENT THEMSELVES IN OUR BEAUTIFUL AND IMPERFECT SELVES. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ So, let’s vow to retrain our brains to recognize our pleasing combination of qualities and admit that we are beautiful. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ And if you don’t feel beautiful or can’t look in the mirror, use the RAIN theory. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀ ⠀ ↠ RECOGNIZE your thought. ↠ ALLOW yourself to feel it. ↠ INVESTIGATE where the feeling stems from. ↠ NURTURE the opposite thought by for example using affirmations such as “I am WORTHY. I am BEAUTIFUL. I am STRONG.” Because hey - you are the one and only that can decide what defines your beauty and not. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #bloombeyondperfectionism
Starting a blog seemed like the greatest idea as a sophomore with a vision in college & I don’t regret starting it. However; with the big girls out there & the women I look up to, like @bethmoorelpm & @lysaterkeurst , I wonder if what I have to say is even worth putting out there. 🌷You see, I envision these women as perfect mothers & wives who wake up at 6am every morning, brew their coffee (or tea), & spend the first 1-2 hours of their day in devotion. Don’t get me wrong, I hope they do, but I have realized over time that I envy this lifestyle. 🌷I have a burning desire to get out of bed earlier every morning, but I don’t. I truly want to live a healthier lifestyle, but I actively choose otherwise every day. I want to spend more time with the Lord but I fail Him & fail myself all the time. I hold myself to an impossible standard from the moment I wake up & it’s setting me up for failure from the very beginning. 🌷Don’t get me wrong, my personal struggle with depression and anxiety haven’t helped motivate me to do better what-so-ever, but you & me can actively choose to not listen to the bad voices. We have to get rid of the weeds in our mental garden every morning. Get rid of the thoughts that tell you you can’t, and start actively listening for the voice of the Holy Spirit that says you can; and even if you can’t today, He’s there to offer you the grace to try again tomorrow. 🌷If I want to live a healthier lifestyle, do I have to be a bit more intentional about waking up earlier to get to the gym? Yes. Does my workout outfit have to be coordinated & expensive? No. If I want to grow closer to God and hear more from Him do I have to spend more time with Him and less time on other things? Yes. But do I have to buy fancy highlighters and devotionals? No. 🌷I know I’m not the only one fighting this battle. So let me encourage you: You do not need to continue to yearn for more than you have. All you need is Jesus. There is no one else that will fill any void or cure any disease; including perfectionism. #mentalhealth #GADGirls #bloggersofinstagram #christian #perfectionism #femaleblogger #author #depression #anxiety #femalewriters #mentalhealthawareness #endthestigma
“Flaw: mark, fault, or imperfection that mars an object” - No one is perfect. So, if imperfection is normal how can it also be abnormal? - The things we think of as flaws are simply characteristics that make us unique. There is no way to be perfect, but there is no wrong way to be imperfect. 💕 - #norms #selflove #perfectionism #flaws #socialnorms #selfappreciation #human #beforeandafter #andbeforeagain
Finally got back to the gym for the first time in I don’t even know how long! Man did it ever feel GOOD! And major props to @greatwestfitness For have a squat rack, as well as a smith machine, in the ladies section 👊🏻. I have been meaning to get back for probably 6 months now and have just been dealing with so much gut and muscular crap that I have been justifying not. I tell myself I will just get injured...again. My form is horrible now, I can’t lift even REMOTELY like I used to. And definitely not heavy enough or well enough to get a “good”(whatever that means) workout. I’ve had a hard day, I don’t feel good, I’m tired, there’s laundry, this week is so full I don’t want to stress my body...blah, blah, blah! Whew, exhausted just making excuses for myself. Now, you maybe thinking “but you’re not in bad shape, you exercise...” and you’d be right. But I have been extremely limited in what I can do and how hard I can push my body and the perfectionist in me comes out and says “if you can’t do it exactly right why would you even bother. It’s not worth doing.” Sound familiar to anyone? But yesterday I went, I ran, I worked with only the bar and tried to fix a flaw it my squat form that has been driving me nuts for years now. I worked on stability and core and posture. It was amazing. Today I was watching @mintandbirch stories and she was talking about resentment, which made me think even more about my excuses. Resentment has been one of the things I have been working on with my psychologist and it is not easy, or easy to admit. I think I’ve said it once before on here but I have realized that I sometimes resent having kids because of the damage it has cause or the pre-existing issues it has aggravated. Not being able to work out like I want to has absolutely brought out some of that nasty emotion. But if it doesn’t get acknowledged it doesn’t go away. So I am trying to acknowledge, accept, live grateful and move on. Be gracious with myself and then get back to the hard work. Happy week end friends 😘
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Wrapping up a delicious work day 😉 Now it’s on to more festive things like #cocktailhour . Is it five o’clock yet? 🥂 Cheers! #fridaynight #weekendeve #karistaskitchen #lifearoundmytable #foodwriter #mylife #foodphotography #iphone #instaphoto
#Perfectionism ~ it’s okay to make mistakes
Without a doubt my #procrastination is tied to #perfectionism . It took me 4.5 months to hang these pics and to me it’s #notperfect (the angle is on purpose) so even though it’s done I don’t feel like I #accomplished anything #worthy . BUT what does makes me #happy is the #love of my #friends I see in this beautiful gallery. And because I serve a God FULL of #grace I know that this little wall is fine just the way it is, so I’m going to love this wall the way #Jesus loves me. #progressnotperfection #blessed #loved #nofilter #nofilterlife
Do you fight an internal perfectionist? I do. I have for as long as I can remember. Sometimes it's easier to ignore, other times it comes close to breaking me. • I managed to keep it at bay for quite a while in grad school, but it's recently reared its ugly head again. • You may or may not know, but I changed labs in the middle of my 3rd year. After spending about 4 years in animal research, I moved to cognitive assessments in humans. It was completely new to me, and my new advisor wanted me to take 6 more classes. • Normally, the goal is to be done taking classes by year 2 or 3 so then you can focus on your dissertation project. I'm now in my 4th year, taking a full course-load while also trying to balance my day-to-day responsibilities in the lab which includes preparing for, running, processing, and scheduling participants. Plus, trying to get my own project off the ground, a task that others have reportedly failed to replicate. • I started feeling like I was failing, like I wasn't doing enough but just didn't have enough time in a day to do more. I felt like I needed to get everything discussed in one meeting done before the next meeting, and not getting it all done was failure. • It got to the point where my advisor noticed and asked what was going on because I was retreating into myself and isolating myself in an attempt to keep up the facade that I had everything under control. I didn't. As soon as my advisor started touching on the things I was feeling, the pressure I was putting on myself, and reassuring me that they aren't expecting me to do everything all by myself, I started crying tears of relief. It was exactly what I needed to hear. The rest of the day, I felt like a massive weight had been lifted and I could focus again. • Do you ever struggle with perfectionism, putting too much pressure on yourself to do well, or expecting too much of yourself? • What do you do to manage those thoughts? • If you're not comfortable discussing it publicly, but would still like to talk, please DM me. I'm more than happy to talk privately 💜 • • •
Perfectionism is a tool of the enemy. Perfectionism is a part of patriarchal norms. It’s a part of white supremacist norms. It keeps us paralyzed, too concerned with doing it right to do anything at all. And I’ve had just about enough of my own tendency towards it. ⠀ ⠀ Experimentation is the antidote. Have a hypothesis? Try it out. Want to make change? Move towards it. And then see what happens. Did what you intend to occur actually happen? What did you learn? How can you pivot towards your intended outcome? ⠀ ⠀ This doesn’t mean we should work in a vacuum however. No one is an island. We need relationships to stay on track. We need external feedback to keep us honest. ⠀ Experimentation plus accountability equals skillful action. ⠀ ⠀ Art by @stephaniemadeit #perfectionism #imperfectionist #practicemakesprogress #undoingpatriarchy #dismantletoxicwhiteness
#perfectionism often gets us nothing more than #paralysis Don't fall into the traps that shame sets for us when we try new things. #progressnotperfection #keepmovingforward
This is how I vow to respond to my #PERFECTIONISM 🤦🏻‍♀️: I will let go. I will allow myself to return to that spot of inner peace I frequently visit when taking a walk in nature, or after I practiced my yoga. I will allow myself to get things done instead of waiting for the time and mindset to get them done perfectly. I stop myself from beating myself up for what didn’t work out the way I planned - instead I will give myself a mental „hooray“ for every positive I can find in any given situation or task. I will write out my anxiety and talk to my friends about it. I will focus on the desasters that did not happen when I only did things 80% perfect. I will cherish the peace of mind it gives me to complete a task non-perfectly but sufficiently. And I will remind myself of this list everyday. Happy #friyay , you beautiful people ♥️ #tgif #toughweek #anxiety #meditation 📸 @engelbertschmidt
Have you ever held back from an opportunity your gut said to grab? • 🌻 • But you ultimately said no. • 🌻 • Here are one of the things you probably cited as a reason: 💟 Not enough money. 💟 Not enough time. 💟 Not enough need (you feel you could/should do it yourself). 💟 Not enough self-belief. • 🌻 • I’m putting hearts next to these because they’re all excuses that have lost me opportunities in the past. And they’re all courtesy of a limiting belief via my inner critic: ”it’s not worth the risk if it will only benefit my dreams.” • 🌻 • Gulp. That belief says that I’m only good enough for risking my money for success if it’s not just for me, or if it’s for something more “practical”... thanks #perfectionism but no thanks. Can you relate? • 🌻 • To uncover this subconscious limiting belief that has driven my life decisions around my business, my passions, and about what was possible, it took a lot of work. Work that majorly shifted my life when I finished my book, “Escaping Perfectionism: Rewrite Your Story & Reclaim Your Life” (link in bio). • 🌻 • With a clear view of the limiting beliefs (perfectionism stories) that have held me back, I’m able to be honest with myself about the lingering ways in which I occasionally self-sabotage. Through honesty, and a lot of self-compassion, I’m able to make more empowering choices in place of being hard on myself. • 🌻 • The same is possible for you! You can decide to view your mistakes as lessons, take that lesson, and continue to make decisions that help you achieve your DREAMS. Your dreams matter. You matter. YOU are worthy of your own investment. Your own risk. I promise.❤️ #youareenough #innerstrength #perfectionist #lifecoachingforwomen #selflovecoach #heartcentered #lifepurpose #manifesting #selfpublishing #soulpurpose #theuniverse #divinefeminine #risesisterrise #selfpublished #escapingperfectionism
I was walking around the @amazonbooks store and saw this on the shelf. It made me think about dating apps and how people feel about being #ghosted . I hear a lot of people talk about confusion, hurt and feeling disrespected. It may lead someone to question themselves and have lower self-esteem. Some research shows that social rejection may activate the same neural pain pathways as physical pain. Then theres some people that get ghosted and end up also ghosting others. In the end most people want healthy relationships and kindness. ◾ People being ghosted ➡️may benefit from processing these events, remembering that the reason behind the ghosting may have more to do with the person doing it than themselves. ◾ People doing the ghosting➡️may benefit from processing why they're doing it, exploring whether its anxiety/discomfort, habit, social norm, or another reason. ◾ @therosiewalsh @davidhighambooks ◾ Disclaimer: By entering this site/social media account you acknowledge and agree that you have read and understand these disclaimers, and that your agreement to follow these terms is voluntary. Please keep in mind that the information offered on this social media account is for informational purposes only and is not, nor is it intended to be, psychotherapy, or psychological advice, or medical advice. Using, accessing, and/or browsing this social media and/or providing personal or medical information to the Author does not constitute a physician-patient relationship. You should not rely on anything contained in this social media, and you should consult a mental health provider/physician licensed in your state. This site/social media account is open to the public, therefore do not include anything in a comment or message that you would like to keep private. If you think you may have a medical emergency, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.
Christmas came early at my house and it just so happens to be first snow ⛄️ Taking the Legendary Maselec MEA-2 precision Mastering EQ for a spin today and I also got new Focal monitors. Some people buy cars; I buy eq’s 🤷🏻‍♂️🤘🏻 ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ #mastering #equalizer #psycopath #goodbyesociety #seeker #solidstate #perfectionism #maselec #badwithmoney #dangerousmusic #rme #focal #focalaudio #samsung #studiolife #studioflow #musicproducers #productionstudio #masteringstudio #audioengineering #gearslutz #opulence #soundquality #recording #engineers
Perfectionism at times can stall us from moving forward or progressing. It stops us and creates a fear within us of which we don’t take leaps of faith or hope- it creates a fear of failure. . It also allows us to be in awe of beautiful or amazing people, things, art, moments, nature, etc. . Come surround yourself with other women who aren’t afraid to take that leap of faith, that support you and push you forward to growth, who don’t let you hold back your unique sparkle! . The Beauty Boost brings these women together, to support, connect, create new experiences + opportunities. 💕 . Be on the lookout 👀 Working on website updates for events coming up!! Eeek 😉✨ #thebeautyboost #florida #southflorida #southfloridaevents #tbb #women #connection #events #riseup #progress #perfectionism #poweryogatribe #yogaeverydamnday #yogisoffl #floridayogis #womenwhoworkout #namasteandcraftsseries #namaste
P E R F E C T ⭐️ It’s something we all strive to be, no? I am a huge perfectionist and it’s something I struggle with so bad! If something doesn’t look perfect I will always re-do it or start again and that can set you back. For example, in English today I needed to do an essay plan for the question “How does Russell use the characters of Mrs Johnstone and Mrs Lyons to explore ideas about class in Blood Brothers”. Simple, right? WRONG!! I decided to do my plan in the form of a mindmap and I restarted four times. Four. All because it wasn’t a perfectly proportioned mind map. It’s a very self destructive habit in my opinion. Okay, yes I do always get everything done to a high standard, BUT, I end up stressing myself out, and spending far to much time on short tasks when I could be doing the more time consuming ones (which end up taking twice as long usually) So how do you deal with it? ~ Know your limits! Known when things are too much or you’ve spent too much time on things. ~ Understand who you are. Know your capabilities, I’m not saying don’t aim as high as you can, but he realistic in your goals. At GCSE you’re very unlikely to have the knowledge to write a degree level essay, so don’t stress yourself out about it. ~ Make sure it’s necessary! Don’t take on tasks that add extra pressure on to your workload! I do this all the time, and I should practise what I preach really but, trust me I know how it gets you. Last December, I took on the role or organising a school Christmas music concert. Alone. Why? I wanted the school to have a gig, we have one every year but the organising committee just didn’t do it, so I did. Yes, it was a good concert, but should I have taken that workload on all by myself? Probably not. ~ Know that it’s okay to fail. ‘Nuff said😉 ~ Don’t be afraid to ask for help. People love and care about you. If you need it, they will help you. #study #gcse #exams #examstress #examseason #revision #revisionnotes #howtorevise #tests #support #positivity #health #f4f #care #help #studygram #studygrammer #2sleepy2study #flashcards #macbeth #memorise #diagrams #pictures #studytips #perfectionism #perfectionist #selfhelp
Okay, it’s Tuesday. Which means yesterday was Monday. For so many of us, Monday is the day that the new diet begins. Or the new workout schedule that you’re determined to stick to perfectly this time around. . But perfect isn’t real. #Perfectionism is a lie that society feeds us. Sooner or later, all of your well intentioned plans will fall apart, or maybe they already have. . Because real, lasting change cannot happen with people telling you what to eat, when to move, or how to live your life. Real change comes from listening to that inner wisdom inside of you, and your determination to let that be your guide. . If Monday is the day that you set aside your body’s wisdom in favor of external noise, let Tuesday be the day that you come back. . Tuesday is for forgiveness. Tuesday is for a return to your body. . Double tap if you are ready to love and listen to your body every day of the week! ❤️
Last week’s podcast about the problem of perfectionism and how it can actually be dangerous to your career and your health! Link in bio. . . . . . #perfectionism #podcast #podcasts #career #careercoach #careersbyjenn #productivity #learning #selftalk #vancouverpodcast #friday
Give it up for failure! 🤜🤛 True strength lies not in avoiding failure, but I’m getting up after in inevitably happens. #ambition #ambitiouswomen #ambitious #perfectionism #failure #momlife #moms #mother #mama #vitality #parentingmemes #love
Finding yourself in front of the Camera? #selfie #neversmile #wrongworld #perfectionism
TGIF! How are you practicing kindness and care at the end of the week? Rufus is snuggling in his comfy blanket after the first New England snowfall. ❄️
🎼 NF - Lie Ну как вам первый снег, друзья? Готовы к зиме-зимушке🤗 How do you like the first snow?:)❄️ Are you really for cold-cold winter?:) . . . . . #minimalism #minimal #minimalist #art #candy #candyminimal #colors #color #pink #blue #yellow #green #hand #slime #perfection #perfectionism #photography #photoshoot #photoshop #vscofilter #vsco #hand #beautiful #beauty #elegance #adobe #adobephotoshop #creative #create #creativecloud #pepper
Excellent presentation on treating co-occurring disorders in the outpatient setting. Thank you to @waldenbehavioralcare and @turnbridgect for hosting this event! #professionaldevelopment #factstoconsider #cooccurringdisorders
Put your negative emotions in reverse and run over them! When you start up your “engines” in the morning don’t let #negativity , #discouragement , #defeat or the past be apart of your accessories! #perfectionism #Fearoffailure #womenoffaith #lifelessons #audiobook #ebook #God #inspirational #christian #parable #allegory #metaphor #narrator #bookforwomen #selfdiscovery #selfhelp #classicbooks #christianbooks #transformational #motivational
Defeat anxiety, fear, doubt, worry, and perfectionism with confidence and positivity💪🏼🔥🙏🏼 #instagram #confidence #wekhan
Perfectionism? Us? Neverrrrr... ... #Repost @tarabrach with @get_repost ・・・ On this sacred path of Radical Acceptance, rather than striving for perfection, we discover how to love ourselves into wholeness. #RadicalAcceptance #yoganola #nolayoga #yoganeworleans #neworleansyoga #igyogafam #igyogafamily #gentleyoga #allbodiesaregoodbodies #allbodiesareyogabodies #allarewelcome #perfection #perfectionism #perfectionismisfear
When I learned November is National Inspirational Role Model Month, immediately my next thought was: Brene Brown. (Hi, this is Christina!) She has made the biggest impact on my personal growth. You probably have already seen or at least heard of Brene Brown and her famous ted talk on vulnerability. If you haven't, please go watch it now. Seriously, just google: Brene Brown, vulnerability, ted talk. Boom! Life changed. Well, that's what happened for me at least. . A couple of key take aways from her talk that changed my life: 1) I realized how much I was hiding behind my perfectionism shield. I was trying to escape shame, rejection, and not feeling good enough by presenting as perfect all of the time. 2) Vulnerability was really uncomfortable for me! My perfectionism shield prevented me from being vulnerable which inevitably prevented essential connection from my myself and others. 3) I connected with her words, her struggles, and her humanness. She made me feel safe to be me and let down my perfectionism shield. Oh and, TRUE STORY time, after watching her ted talk, I allowed myself to open my heart, let down my walls, and welcome love into my life. Soon after I watched her ted talk, I met my husband. <3 I'm just sayin, thank you Brene Brown! . Who's your inspirational role model and why? Let's spread more inspiration in the cyber world! #theperfectdietmyth #recoveringperfectionist #perfection #perfectionist #perfectionism #effperfection #effperfectionism #nomoreperfectionism #breakfreefromperfectionism #stopperfectionism #selflove #selfcompassion #nobadfoods #mindfuleating #mindfulness
Hi, I'm Dr. Christina, a perfection FREE coach, chocolate connoisseur, and a recovering perfectionist. My perfectionism started early on as a young girl who believed in order to receive approval, validation, and love from others, I needed to achieve. I needed to be perfect....or so I thought. For years perfectionism controlled my life. I was plagued by wanting to make all the "right" decisions that I became indecisive and often procrastinated. I feared failure so much that I didn't take risks. I was overwhelmed because I couldn't say no... aka I people pleased. Then one day I had enough. I knew the way I had been living was not sustainable. The way I treated myself, my relationships, and view of the world was so unhealthy. I longed for internal peace and desperately wanted to feel happy again. Not the perfect facade of happiness but real authentic joy. So I decided to finally break up with perfectionism...for good! This day was a major turning point in my life and I'm happy to say, I haven't looked back since! Today, I am fulfilled, genuinely happy and a recovering perfectionist. This doesn't mean perfectionism doesn't show up in my life....because it does! It just means I recognize when perfectionism is trying to creep back into my life and I know how to handle it. I can gratefully say, perfectionism doesn't control my life anymore and I finally feel free! Want to know how you can finally breakup with perfectionism too? Great! You're in the right place. We will be sharing how you can ditch your perfectionism for good and start living your most authentic life! #theperfectdietmyth #recoveringperfectionist #perfection #perfectionist #perfectionism #effperfection #effperfectionism #nomoreperfectionism #breakfreefromperfectionism #stopperfectionism #selflove #selfcompassion #nobadfoods #mindfuleating #mindfulness
SOCIAL ANXIETY & PERFECTIONISM Social anxiety disorder (SAD) is characterised by a marked or persistent fear of social or performance situations in which embarrassment might occur. Perfectionism is a personality trait associated with social anxiety. Research by Hoffmann (2007) links expectations of others high standards links with an underestimation of your ability to achieve such social goals. Eg. Socially anxious people perceive the expected performance standards to be much higher than non anxious people, and their capability to be less ( negative self bias) Perfectionism increases anxious rumination about the self and contributes to anxiety symptoms. It can lead to avoidance behaviours, panic feelings, reduced self esteem and some phobias. Social anxiety and perfectionism are manageable if acknowledged as problematic and treated by a professional. CBT is one psychological technique that may be helpful. You don't have to feel alone, there are treatments that will improve your social confidence. @travelpsychology JUNE GAY PSYCHOLOGIST #psychologstchatswood #psychologydemystified #socialanxiety #anxietytreatment #avoidance #phobicanxiety #anxietymanagement #psychologytips #mentalhealthmatters #cognitive #cbt #instapsychology #anxietymanagement #anxietytreatment #anxious #mentalwellness #socialanxietyproblems #anxietyhelp #worry #worryless #worrying #perfectionist #perfectionism #perfectionistproblems #shyness #shy #emotionalregulation #healthymindset #worrying #worryaboutyourself #sociallyawkward #sociallyconscious #invisibleillness
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