If feminism is merely about creating equal opportunities for women, then why is it such an obnoxious undertaking? If we as women are going to believe in something, then why does it come with a title, manual and aggression? I wholeheartedly believe in equal opportunities and rights for women, however I believe nowadays we’re not progressing as women, the feminist movement has become more a laughingstock because of some of the people who chose to represent it. If we as women wish to make our voices known, the first step is not to proclaim “feminism” in the streets but to exercise our right to vote and put more women in places of power so our voices can collectively be heard. The same people that scream for feminism are the very same who won’t vote, won’t run, won’t take initiative in a relationship, allow men to do the very things they protest against... its maddening to me. I believe wholeheartedly in equal opportunities. Forget being a woman, my skin color rubs people the wrong way. The same women that cry for equal rights for women, are the same women I’ve seen turn on me and hate me for the color of my skin. Look around you! You see women tearing down other women on social media and in real life, girls bullying girls is glorified on TV.... yet we as women are trying to create a united front for rights? You cannot have a strong house without a solid foundation. You cannot fight the war on equality when women are hating on other women. That is why the very idea of feminism gets severely under my skin. The change starts with me, not with a movement or a title. CHANGE MY MIND.
My brother @joshualloydbanks
said this in response to someone’s ill conservative post saying that women shouldn’t dress sexy except in the privacy of their own homes and it was too good not to share. “Overall this post gets kinda close to an unaddressed issue, which touches on the side of rape culture that is aggravated by the way women dress. But I don't think you said it at all in the right way here. In a gallery in the university of Kansas the exhibit 'What were you wearing' they have the outfits of rape survivors on display, for the education of those who believe it is related to that. Rape culture can be traced back to the fact that yes everyone collectively has sexualized certain clothes, makeup, and accessories, but that is still not an invitation. People should have a right to know it's safe enough to wear what ever makes them feel confident, out in a civilized society, without feeling endangered cause a man or a woman can't understand consent or keeping their hands to themselves. Sexual assault is an all gender affliction and every gender experiences some sort of sexual violence in my opinion, so you can't boil it down to the women are dressin' and the men are raping. What about guys who are dressed in business casual who get sexually assaulted, or the girl jogging in sweatpants and oversized t-shirt, or what about the genderqueer who are sexually harassed and assaulted for being different. The whole idea is not to look at a survivor's story and try to pick out places that they were wrong, but to treat them with all the comfort and care of a victim. While you can't charge the accused you can still help the accuser through the trauma of whatever caused them to speak out.” #metoomovement #womensupportwomen #sexyisnotacrime