Another morning that Noi makes coffee for us. It’s heartwarming. Before his stroke, he would get up early and let the dogs out and would bring coffee to bed and wake me up with the aroma of his delicious coffee. He used to make a mean Thai ice coffee and had that ready for me when I get home from work (decaf). He supported me through my dental journey, whether as a student or a dentist. He took care of the boys and taught them to be good men, good human being.
Now, I let the dogs out and take care of him down to the personal hygiene. I make coffee that he tolerates. Now, his brain and his physical ability seem to be in sync and healing to a certain degree. It’s a long journey and it was not easy. The time I spent nurturing him and caring for his mind, his body and his spirit paid off. As I care for him, I found myself at the same time.
Some people asked me why I continue to do what I do for him for so many years (9 1/2 years) and why not put him in a nursing home early on when he just came out of the coma and was not able to do anything and was not the best person to be with. For better and for worse. We had a history. We are family. After a long stroke journey, he is the best that he can be, albeit still needing 24/7 care. I am working on being the best that I can be as myself, as a human being and a caregiver.
May be next year, he will be able to help me renovate my kitchen and not bumping his wheelchair all over the wall and the cabinets. Still grateful to what we have. #caregiving #strokejourney #stroke #positivebrain #nevergiveup #family