Before I start, there for-sure is something to “Fake it till you make it”. Chazal tell us “The outside awakens the inside”. I feel like that side gets a lot of focus so I want to focus on the other side.
The world is full of people saying “tough it out” “push past”. Even worse, millions of people spend their days running from uncomfortable feelings and emotions by using drugs, alcohol, technology or even overbearing work schedules. When it comes to Yiddishkeit there is often an attitude of “just do it, Hashem said so” or something similar. Everyone wants to and wants you to BE, nobody wants to talk about BECOMING.
Let’s say you have a Habit/Aveirah/Middah you want to change. The “push past” attitude says change today. Stop doing or change the way you do that TODAY.
What happens when you do that though? Does it work? I find that I always go right back. To doing that, to acting that way.
To really become better we have to dig deeper. We have to think about what it takes to BECOME the person we are trying to be by understand what causes us to do what we do. Maybe I have a bad Middah because I have a bad perception of myself. Where did that come from? How can I change that? If I get rid of the root of the problem I don’t have to fight my Middah. It will automatically improve as I get healthier.
Our emotions have so much to do with what we do and why we do it. If we’re not in touch with our feelings we can’t possibly connect to Hashem and live a proper Torah life. Let’s take the time to appreciate the process of BECOMING. It’s ok to sit in your car and cry, it’s ok to get angry, it’s ok to spend time alone, it’s ok to be lost and confused. In fact, Hashem appreciates every second of that just as much as he appreciates the beautiful, worked out, Bas/Ben Torah that comes out on the other side of the fight. #process #fight #emotions #torah #hashem #chizuk #grow #frum #yiddishkeit #judaism