Four years old. I have found there has been such a massive jump intellectually and mentally from 3 to 4. The questions are harder, the attitude is larger, and she is no longer a toddler, but a fully grown up child 💖 We have had a lot of birthdays in September and the latest concept we are trying to teach is that not everyone that celebrates a birthday, has a party. She keeps needing to make things to take to the birthday parties and quite openly tells me that I am wrong when I say that we are just going to visit but that there is no party. I love watching her learn and flourish everyday and it dawns on me daily how important our role is. They model so much from us, from our knowledge, to our behaviour and values and I feel so much privilege to be a parent 💞
#birthday #fouryearsold #love #parenting #amazing #privilege #sahm #teachingmoments #everydayisaparty #neverchange #documentedlife #raisingkids #raisingstronggirls #unconditionallove #celebratelife
Still lovin my color from @minmaryjane.
Seriously girl you are amazing!! ❤️❤️❤️
We get to choose what is best for us. We love observing the choice of affirmation cards our girls resonate with. Opening up space for our girls to choose is freedom from what society will have them believe not to be true for them. Thank you to @nurture_cards_for_children
for our beautiful resources 👭💜👭
I came home from work to a quiet house, the kids were napping, the house was clean, got to enjoy a hot lunch and I applied this roller. Life is good 👍
Tag a friend who could use this roller in their life :)
My recent trip has made me think a lot about parenting. What is the purpose of parenting?
I hear some people say things like needing their kids to obey. Other people say it’s about letting them explore. Most people agree on wanting their kids happy, healthy, and successful. But what does it take to get there?
I’ve read a few pieces lately about kids being lent to us, that they’re not “ours.” That our purpose is simply to teach them this being human. To guide them into becoming truly themselves.
What do you believe? What is this parenting (monkey) business?
#parentingquotes #monkeybusiness #toobey #positiveparenting #whatdoyouthink
Parenting is hard.
Even on good days, parenting is hard.
But we’ve got this.
I mean, most of us are flying by the seat of our pants. But we’re doin it. Because, we love our kids.
So you might not have felt like cooking, and made cereal for dinner two nights this week. Doesn’t mean you love your kids any less than the mom who made Instagram worthy meals for dinner each night.
And yeah, you forgot about that birthday party last weekend, and had to makeshift a gift on the way there. But you showed up, gift in hand...killin it.
Oh and that homework you forgot to sign? Well let’s be honest, it’s not entirely your fault. I mean, kids have to learn to be responsible too, right?! You may have raised your voice more times than you care to admit. Or let them binge watch YouTube videos. So what?
Our shortcomings don’t make us bad parents. They make us human.
Here’s a little secret...no parent is perfect! Say it with me...No 👏 parent 👏 is 👏 perfect. 👏
We’re all just trying to do the best we can, to raise kind, decent human beings.
So try not to beat yourself up, mama. You have enough sh*t to worry about, without Marge making you feel like your parenting abilities are less than stellar.
You are amazing! You love your kids, and you’re doing your damn best to show them that everyday.
Keep that head high mama. Whether you believe it or not, YOU are doing a great job! And those kids you are raising, I bet they think the world of you!! 💖
#parentingtips #photooftheday #momblogger #girlmom
Mom shaming! So let me tell you a story! Yesterday on Facebook in one of the Christian Homeschool groups that I belong to, another mom posted something about how crazy it was driving her that her children CONSTANTLY want to play a particular video game. This conversation received many comments ranging from "video games are not allowed in our home" to "throw the game console off the deck". I shared my comment for how we handle this in our home by saying, "We only allow two hours total per day of screen time in our home."⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Innocent enough right? Well let me just tell you how I wish I hadn't commented anything at all. For the rest of the night I was left feeling like I was a horrible mom because I allowed my children two hours of screen time per day. Someone actually came behind me and said, "That is 60 hours of screen time per month. Imagine all the skills they could master in 60 hours if they weren't having screen time."⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Seriously y'all? Are we mom shaming to the extent that we try to make parents feel bad about their choices at home? I don't know why her response bothered me so much but it did. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
How do you handle mom shaming? Do you ignore it? Or do you sometimes feel like you are failing your children because other moms make you feel inadequate?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
. #homeschool #homeschooling #homeschoolmom #homeschoolmoms #homeschoolfamily #homeschooladventures #realmoms #momsofinstagram #instagrammoms #raisingkids #raisingchildren #motherhood #mothersofinstagram #instagrammothers #momsofgirls #girlmom #girlmoms #momsofboys #boymom #boymoms #funnymoms #funnymomstuff #momswithhumor
Getting fresh air and exercise is great, but that doesn’t mean you need to sign your 18-month-old up for “Super Mini Munchkin Soccer Skills Academy” ⚽️ 🥅. Raising an athletic kid is as easy as playing in your own backyard!
✏️ in the October issue of @parents
"The type of person I use to be was mostly no worries, and YOLO mentality. I would work during the day and party almost every night.
Then come to find out I was pregnant... First I was scared because of how much I partied but then immediate excitement and love followed. It was amazing how fast I cleaned up my act and matured while creating a life.
Me and my man redid the entire apartment and we really felt ready.The night our daughter was born was the absolute best day of our lives. As months passed, our love as a family grew as we watched her grow and she is literally textbook perfect baby.
But I started to feel some resentment towards my boyfriend. My life was completely different and I lost the freedom I use to have and it seemed like his didn't change as much. He still hung out with his friends, went out to bars/clubs, the gym etc while I stayed home with our baby.
I'd tell myself he needs a break, he's an amazing dad, go have fun. But what about me.... Motherhood is exhausting and I need a break too.The longest I've been away from our baby was 2 hours to the movies. I worry after 15 minutes so we bring her everywhere and I really try to spend as much time as possible with her because she's just growing so fast and I don't want to miss a thing!
And people think im crazy for not wanting to stay home everyday.
Its been 10 months now and I finally have her on food and bottles so when the chance came, we went out TOGETHER and had fun baby free.
Soon I've come to learn how judgmental people can be. "You should be at home with your baby" "You shouldn't wear clothes like that anymore" but all that matters is that I know im an amazing mom, I do my best everyday and my baby is happy, healthy and safe.
I've also learned moms need their me time/their nights out. If its an hour out shopping, 15 minute shower without interruptions, just peace and quiet when baby is sleeping, or night out with friends... WE NEED AND DESERVE IT."
-Ciara 25, 🇨🇦 🇰🇳 🇯🇲
I strongly believe this. Children follow our examples and what message does it send when you don’t acknowledge when you’re wrong? How will you teach your children to own up to their mistakes and apologize if you won’t do it? Apologizing will not make you a weak parent.
Guys, kids are expensive! AD After my 3rd baby had more sensitive skin and the cloth diapers weren't working for her, we switched fully to disposable diapers. I got into the rhythm of disposable diapers for my 4th and never looked back! The convenience won me over and I am so happy about that.
When I focus on saving money, I think about three things: 1. What am I spending money on that I don't really need? 2. Where can I buy something for a better price? 3. What product swap can I make that will save us money?
Even though spending just seems to increase with more kids, I've been implementing some key strategies that help us to save money. Bonus for you - within the post is a link to get free #SignatureCareDiapers
Link to the new post is in my profile, friends!
#SignatureCareDiapers #savingstips #raisingkids @Safeway
How do you begin your homeschooling day? When we started our homeschooling journey a few weeks ago we decided to begin our sessions with circle time. We will place our favourite mat on the floor and we would begin with a prayer, then greeting each other. Afterwards, we will recite the date, sing the days of the week and months of the year. There would be dancing, yoga, singing and reading which includes superheroes from the Bible. So far, this rhythm is working for us and from time to time this little sunshine is just in the middle of everything keeping us entertained! #homeschoolwiththesaints
Up bright and early, coffee in hand and I’m ready to spend my day editing this beautiful session with bubba Armani ❤️ lately I’ve been starting my day reading lady boss quotes on Pinterest, so motivating! What gets you motivated? ☕️ #ladyboss #lifestylephotographer
Involving children in things that they learn from, not only make them smart, but build their self confidence and self esteem👌
It may take longer to get the job done, but well worth it;)
“Don’t worry that your children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you”
Taking all the snuggles while I can. These even happened IN PUBLIC y’all! 🤗
We’ve sort of hit a good groove this school year so far. The kids are very different in the way that they learn so the approach has to be adjusted for each. In the past I tried to make one way work for both kids and it just wasn’t as productive in all subjects, leaving me feeling burnt out and frustrated. I’m sure the kids shared similar feelings. 😬 Zion’s an energetic 8 yr. old boy so while Hannah can sit all day and read or write long, detailed, descriptive stories...that’s a hard pass for him. We’ve had to come up with strategies to make reading and writing more enjoyable for him. It requires more patience and one on one time but it’s time well spent where we both walk away feeling satisfied and confident. Now, math is a different story. He’s doing the same 5th grade curriculum as his sister and can hang all day. He’s much for of a critical thinker and Hannah, a creative thinker. I asked a simple question...What’s your favorite part of writing a story?
Hannah: “Coming up with characters and the world they live in”
Zion: “Typing it out” .
🤣😂🤣 NO JOKE!!! She loves the creative process...he just want facts, to be done, and move on. I’m so grateful for this time of homeschooling to figure things like this out, and to find the best ways for them the receive and retain information. Sometimes just a tiny bit of knowledge about how your kid is wired can make a huge impact in how they perform in school. Challenges may only require a tweak in the way you come alongside to help. Spoiler Alert 🚨 Apparently, all kids aren’t the same even when they’re living under the same roof. #theymakemebetter #homechoolmama #mysonshine #mothersonlove
“It’s not our job to toughen our children to face a cruel and heartless world. It’s our job to raise children who will make the world a little less cruel and heartless.” Put your phone down.
Don’t just watch them play, get down and play, engage.
Love them hard parents, they grow so fast.
A wise friend shared this thought with me on forgiveness the other day. He reminded me of the Crucifixion story of Jesus— “While they were nailing his hands & feet to the cross, or a little later, when they were putting up the cross, Jesus cried out, “Father, forgive them for they do not know what they are doing.” (Luke 23:34) ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
He emphasized IF people REALLY knew what they were doing— how their actions would devastate lives, destroy homes, & break down relationships— they wouldn’t do it. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I think this is so true. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀It got me to thinking— could the same be true for GOOD things? What if we fill the world with invisible ripples of wonder & grace every time we choose forgiveness in place of bitterness, choose to give even when we are in need, choose to love inspite of rejection, choose to laugh when the shadows of sadness try to lengthen— I like to think these simple actions produce a harvest of unseen goodness. What do you think? 📷: @mumfordandsisterphotography
THIS!!! This is my number 1 quote for raising our boys. I am a strong believer in lifting children up and not down. I believe in positive reinforcement and if we tell are children they are great then they will have the confidence to be great. Remember your words replay in their heads... so if you tell them you love them, they will feel loved. If you tell them they are doing great, or “I like that your trying” instead of “your doing it wrong” then they will more likely succeed in that area. If you tell a child they are bad then they are going to label themselves as “bad”. On a personal parent level I always strive to give my boys positive words and uplift them everyday. If they make a mistake then I label it as a mistake and we talk about it. I always make sure they know that mistakes happen but we are honest in our family and at the end of the day they are great boys and very loved! ❤️ #thoughts #raisingourfuture #raisingkids #positivereinforcement #good #tellthemyoulovethem #wednesdayreads
Wouldn’t it be boring if we were all the same? 🤗
I started telling B the story of the Ugly duckling from a young age. 🦆
Not only was it my favourite as a kid but I think it’s a great opportunity to teach her that it’s okay to be different. For those who don’t know, B has ptosis in her left eye. 👁 This means her left eyelid doesn’t fully open so, to make sure her sight develops correctly, she needs to wear an eye patch for a few hours a day. This has been the case she she was about 1, so roughly 2 years. She’s been at the same school since she was 6 months old and has the same school friends so they only know her with her patch! So for them, she’s not different, it’s just who she is, her accessory!
This lesson of diversity doesn’t just apply to gender and race. It’s about looking for the best in people, not mocking their differences... 💗💗
Realising my part of raising a good kid has taught me great lessons in life, and I’m thankful for how B’s “difference” has made me different. It’s made me better and in turn more accepting and understanding of others! It’s come full circle! ❤️
📸 by @tinycottons
#tinycottons #respectfordiversity #letthembelittle #honestmotherhood #thisismotherhood #parentingtips #unitedinmotherhood #motherhoodunited #candidmotherhood #kidsstuff #proudmother #raisingkids #raisethemright #themaquette
because she’s an awesome mom and amazing Woman of God. Not everyone is called to be the CEO of a Fortune 500 company or speak in a boardroom. Some are simply called to be the help meet in the home and take on the responsibility of raising beautiful children in the ways of Christ in a very tumultuous society. That takes courage and plenty of sacrifice!Cheers 🥂 to the stay at home moms holding it down in the homes, tending to your spouses, raising the next Presidents, doctors and lawyers, cooking and cleaning the house, putting yourselves last, all while making it look easy. You’re a boss in your own right!!! We see you #queens
Love you Cousin!!! #stayathomemom #babies #marriage #wife #kids #sacrifice #live #love #selfless #raisingkids
The topic of child burnout is worthy of consideration by parents. As with adults, there needs to be a balance between work, play and self care.
I have noticed that some parents seem to feel pressure to fully occupy their children with sports, music, dance, languages, coaching, art etc. Although usually well intentioned, too many activities can contribute to individual & familial stress. Particularly, if combined with inadequate sleep or a poor diet. Further, some teachers (even in Primary) place excessive workload expectations on children, adding to their stress, feelings of helplessness and acting out behaviour.
As parents, it is pivotal to reflect upon what your child REALLY needs and consider their wants, psychological health and preferences. Over scheduling or forcing children to do activities that they hate can cause children to feel exhausted, anxious, depressed and unheard. Sadly, this contributes to the growth of mental health problems in children & adolescents, leading to adult psychological issues.
Balance is pivotal for wellbeing, as are opportunities for new experiences, mastery & stimulation. As parents, we need have to remember that kids rely on us to guide them in this way, so that they can develop healthy self esteem, good self care habits and confidence. We also need to set strong boundaries if teachers or other well meaning adults are applying too much pressure.
Photo: Childrens choir at Town Hall, 2017
June Gay Psychologist #psychologistchatswood #psychologydemystified #consciousparenting #balancedlife #extracurricular #mindfulparenting #emotioncoaching #raisingkids #dailyparenting #parentingadvice #instaparenting #parenthood #mentalhealth #psychology #kidsmatter #lifebalance #raisingkids #healthymind #selfesteem #positiveparenting #familydynamics #parentingtip #parentingteens #mindfulparenting #childhealth #teenhealth #teenstress #burnout #mentalhealthresource #mentalhealth #stressmanagement #tigerparents #tigerparenting
BENEFITS OF PLAY
This beautiful mural by Maikki Rantala in Finland provokes thoughts of the joy of children playing with abandon. The mindful way in which children play can be inspiring and beautiful to observe.
As parents, we necessarily instruct and impose rules on kids. However, the focus can at times become predominantly authoritative, scolding and tense at times. Kids need rules and boundaries, but healthy relationships also need positive interactions.
It is important for you and your kids/teens to have FUN and play together age appropriately. Relax, have fun and enjoy something spontaneous, creative, silly, sporty or a shared interest.
Play — or free, unstructured time in the case of older children and adolescents — is essential to the cognitive, physical, social, and emotional well-being of children and youth. Play as a family weaves the ties of love and connection that bind family members together.
The benefits of play include: 😁 Play stimulates healthy brain development
👧Pretend play stimulates your child’s imagination and creativity.
🙆♂️Play develops the brain’s executive function
👨🍳Play develops a child’s “theory of mind - the ability to walk in another’s shoes.
👨👧👦Family fun creates positive memories and bonds between family members
💕It releases happy endorphins which helps with mood
💗We feel loved and special when we receive positive attention
Encourage and join in the play with your kids. Time well spent for the development of good communication, bonding and mutual enjoyment. After all, is there anything more important?
June Gay Psychologist #psychologistchatswood #psychologydemystified
#childhood #childsplay #childhoodunplugged #kidsunplugged #creativity #familyvalues #familydynamics #attunement #parentingskills #playtime #braindevelopment #parentingtips #parentingteens #parentinggoals #inthemoment #kidsmatter #raisingkids #consciousparenting #kidsmatter #playmatters #benefitsofplay #qualitytime #mindfulparenting #respectfulparenting #parentingdoneright #joiedevivre #joyoflife #play