Ok so this point is something I haven't really seen anyone talk about or discuss at all, but I feel this is something that will eventually happen to people who go through some major medical crisis together and it is something that has the potential to totally shake up your family or closer relationahips foundation.
It is regret.
Regret has full potential to creep in at such times becauses things totally go haywire when a crisis hits, the normal becomes abnormal and the abnormal becomes nornal; your whole world becomes upside down. In this whirpool, the way your family operates totally changes, even how your closer circle of people operates and behaves changes - for better or for worse.
Now I'm going to choose to explain this point with reference to my mom, but really this can be the case with any of your close relations - siblings, spouse, mamos, khalas, best friends - anyone you hold dear and rely on for support and thereby have expectations attached with.
So let's begin with my story.
How many of us feel negected or sad if our parents, especially mothers, are not able to give us attention or time, pamper or console us in hard times? I'm sure almost all desi kids will have felt this way at some point in their lives and had serious issues with parents for not "doing" enough, haina?
Somehow desi mothers (of my moms generation particularly) have this superwoman power to just pamper the crap out of their kids - and really it is an amazing quality to always be available and willing to provide support to your kids - but it also does produce somewhat unrealistic expectations
My moms always been a very hands-on, fully involved and available in all her childerns life type- you could pretty much say she lives for us kids and so we all really occupy like 99% of her time and mind - be it physical or emotional.
Kuch samajh nahi aa raha?...Mama
Rouna aa raha hai?....Mama
Guppien marni hai?....Mama
Apni pasand ka khana chahiye?....Mama
Aur baqi ki kahani agle post mein ..stay tuned!
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