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I frequent this question because we grow daily. I know what served me then with regard to my beliefs, words and actions may not serve me now. .
I don’t hold it against me. I don’t hold it against them. My focus is to always allow myself the space and freedom to expand with new awareness into what now feels best and what no longer does.
That space is something us humans struggle with. #Freedom
is what we crave but we fear with regard to relationships. .
Allow me to redefine ‘freedom’ for you. It doesn’t mean not being committed or loyal or in love. It doesn’t mean walking out on somebody. It means accepting and acknowledging the healthy growth in and around you; in each other; allowing that growth in others too and not depending on a condition of any kind to be the comfort within you.
You and your thought direction are your safety and security. You in your body knowing you’re of value even if things come and go around you.
Freedom to grow can be a flowy process when you don’t judge it. It’s that judgment that this is ‘wrong’ or ‘right’ that shows you your own resistance to the growth. .
There’s no right or wrong. There’s what feels right for you and what doesn’t and that’s vastly different for everybody in this world. .
So when you find yourself feeling stuck or something feels hard and heavy; if you find yourself being frustrated, annoyed or feeling used or taken advantage of...THIS is the first question to begin with. Does this serve me? .
Then #ask #yourself
Does this feel good to me?
Is this what I am wanting more of in my reality?
Have I outgrown these tendencies and beliefs? .
And then move into this powerful one: WHAT am I wanting more of in this situation? .
For more #empowering
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Day 18. Get rid of that negative self-talk! Speak to yourself the way you would speak to a child. Would you ever tell a child that they’re ugly, fat, worthless, a failure, etc? My hope is not! The next time you say something negative about yourself, pause and reframe it, thinking about what you would say to a child and then say that back to yourself. .
We can also shift this pattern by how we talk to others. Have you ever heard a friend talking badly about themselves? Would you ever speak to them the way they speak to themselves? My guess is, probably not. Any time you hear someone you care about talking down to themselves, call them out and say “Hey, please apologize to my dear friend, it’s very rude what you just said.” Sometimes people in our life don’t realize how hurtful they are to themselves, and I’m sure you know how detrimental that can be. Call out your friends and family out when you hear negative self-talk today, or make an effort to compliment someone else (or yourself!) today. #selfkindness #bodykindness #positivebodytalk
Throw back Tuesday🤪
You were ALWAYS your own best nutritionist. Don’t let diet culture lead you astray this holiday.
Just leaving this here for anyone who needs it today. ❤️
It’s OK not to be OK.
Obligations and duties usually take up most of our time, so make sure you are taking short breaks throughout the day to do something fun and refreshing!
Being quiet when the world is spinning around you, is not something that comes naturally. It can, however, be cultivated through diligent practice. The fruit of that practice is to be vibrantly alive.
When it feels like the world is always running at full speed it’s easy to get caught up in the idea of wanting everything to happen instantly. In reality good things take groundwork and time and practice to happen. Whether you’re looking for a new home or a different job or trying to learn a new skill, these things can’t just happen overnight. With social media it’s easy to constantly feel you need to “keep up” with your peers and do everything they’re doing at the same time - but you’re on your own path and timeline. Maybe your friends have a baby or a house or have travelled more or are further up their career ladder - that has nothing to do with YOUR path and YOUR timeline. It’s not a race to the finish line - because there is no finish line! Don’t chase a life you don’t really want in order to “keep up.” Trust me no path is right for everyone and there is no time limit to achieve anything by in order to be a success. Patience can be tedious but if you keep going for what you want, don’t give up or get distracted by what other people are doing and with temporary solutions - the good things are coming and they’re worth the wait! ⏰📅
T H A N K Y O U
This Friday marks my 50th Remicade infusion, so I would like to say thank you to Remicade for:
• saving my life
• saving me from losing my rectum and needing a stoma
• closing up my bazillion complex fistulae - it was really scary in there! It was a combination of Remicade, 6MP and setons that did the trick!
• keeping my Crohn’s in remission for most of the last 7-and-a-half years
• not completely wiping out my immune system
• keeping my immune system controlled enough to only ever have mild Crohn’s flares
• not giving me any major side effects (other than fatigue and a few hiccups in my first 3 months)
• giving me an option for treatment that means I don’t have to remember to take 457 pills per day
• giving me an option for treatment that means I can have a nice nap every 8 weeks
As scary as it was when I first started taking it, I’m glad I decided to give it a chance. Yes, it’s part of “big pharma” which has strong ethical implications and, if I had the choice to stay drug free and have quality of life, I’d choose not to take any medication. But my reality means that this is my only real option right now.
I know that not everyone who uses Remicade is as lucky as me, which makes me even more grateful for it! I’m also incredibly grateful that I live in Australia, and my taxes pay for my treatment in its entirety, thanks to our chemotherapy and specialised medications legislation, and Medicare.
Who else is on Remicade, or has been on it in the past? How much success have you had with it?
#inflammatribe #invisibleillnessawareness #chronicillnessawareness #chronicillnesswarrior #autoimmunedisease #endometriosisawareness #endowarriors #oneinten #ibs #ibdawareness #ulcerativecolitisawareness #ibdwarrior #crohnsawareness #crohnsdisease #remicade #infliximab #crohnswarrior #remicadeinfusion #chronicpainwarrior #personaldevelopmentjunkie #selfdevelopmentjourney #selfcareisntselfish #personalgrowthjourney #wellnessjourney #selfkindness #keeplearningkeepgrowing #powerofpositivethinking #thankyoutuesday #gratitudeistheattitude
Self Care Advent
Day 18 (cycle day 15)
The kind of practice that nourish the soul as well as the body, that still the mind and the nervous system. The practices of yoga that release tension with dignity and grace, without pushing or force. Restorative Yoga is a sacred stillness that the body craves though it may still be twitching with excitement, and the mind doesn't always enjoy, but once it learns it is safe and supported, amazing things happen... We LET GO!
post ovulation for me is my tricky part of my cycle, it is like a big come down, the party is over and the moment before you are resided to clean up and go home, you drag your poor body and mind 'for one more drink' it never ends well. I AM LEARNINGTO GO HOME! go home to my body, go home to my mind, go home to my Womb and true self. Only when I have gone home, can the real premenstrual/autumn clean up happen. #selfcareadvent2018 #selfcareadvent #selfcare #selfkindness #selfcareonlinecourse #selfacceptance #kindness #womankind #ilovemyself #ichooselove #selfcare #wellness #graitude #love #awareness #menstrualcycleawareness #cycleawareness #postovulation #endofsummer #stillness #restorativeyoga #innerautumn #gohome #restore #letgo #releasetension #wombyoga #comehometoyourself #ipreview @preview.app.
Image today of my favourite restorative yoga teacher's book @judithlasater #judithhansonlasater
What are you grateful for today?
Met deze fantastische fotografe en vriendin werkte ik vorige week aan de foto’s voor de zelfcompassie challenge die 14 januari van start gaat! ⠀
Zelfcompassie betekent vriendelijk, niet veroordelend naar jezelf kijken, juist op momenten dat je het moeilijk hebt of blundert. “De meeste mensen zijn nu eenmaal strenger voor zichzelf dan voor anderen.”⠀
Ken jij het dat je streng bent voor jezelf? Veel piekert? Of dat je veel aan zelf-veroordeling doet? Zelfkritiek kan een echte sluipmoordenaar zijn. Op vele vlakken.⠀
Op 14 januari, gaan we van start. Nieuw begin. Op Insta en FB is de challenge te zien. Deel gerust mee! ⠀
#compassion #selflove #meprojectchangeyourstory #commonhumanity #awareness #mindfulness #selfkindness #fun #studiopaperplane
It is paramount to believe in the inherent goodness of people and treat them as if that is all you see.
However, to propose that is the totality of what proper perspective should be would be grossly naive and perhaps the most blatant form of spiritual bypassing.
True personal evolution is being able to witness the dynamic at work in every single moment of this dance of humanity.
The choices we make day to day may not always be a corollary to the purity in resides inside, just as well as the homage we desire to leave behind will be forever to interpretation and not ours to decide.
That is why it also pertinent to seek to understand the motivation behind any deviancy from that goodness rather then repeatedly turning a blind eye to that which we’d rather not entertain consciously.
Life reminds us of this in subtle ways all the time if we’re in the habit of noticing...with a peek inside the events leading up to someone lashing out or with a glimpse of the trigger that set an unspeakable transgression into motion.
And sometimes it shows up as a jarring surprise...like nearly falling over a deer carcass while hiking a steep embankment in a protected wildlife sanctuary.
We are human and therefore we are flawed. Mistakes are quickest way to know our own strength. A moment of sincere introspection can bridge any distance between what could have happened and what actually did.
All this to say that I spent tonight’s sunset with another causality of our collective frailty.
Everything and anything that happens, or doesn’t, is the reflection of a process that will forever play out in the infinitude of possibilities.
This sweet being did not die of natural causes, he was slaughtered in a place that represented refuge during this season of massacre.
What made bearing witness to this even more heart-breaking for me however was what had obviously happened in the aftermath of this innocent life being taken.
Whomever did this has so not from a place of need or utility, but out of entirely senseless greed and lapsed integrity.
This shameless hunter took the time to saw the antlers off this beautiful creature while...
Self compassion is the ultimate self care - and perhaps the best (only?) way to both honour ourselves and provide truly balanced care to the ones we love most. 💕
But we don’t always perceive it that way, even if we know it intellectually, and we rarely include ourselves in our daily “care expenditure”. Generations of social conditioning certainly doesn’t help. 😢
Time to unite in revolution. 💪
For me, radical, self empowering, self care started slow, small and somewhat skeptically. But it quickly snowballed into what became a whole of life transformation, in which I learned to truly love, acknowledge and accept all parts of myself - both the light and dark.💗
I began to know, trust and follow my intuition, allowing its place over familiar foes, rumination and self doubt. Instead, I welcomed joy, connection, love, ease and flow into my experience. Yes! It was still just normal life that looked very similar from the outside! Yet nothing felt the same.🌟
But consistency has always been my struggle. So, over time, as my self care practice waxed and waned, I understood the relationship between self care, self empowerment and self love and I deepened awareness around the felt experience of power vs force. 💝
Self care helped me to discover my purpose and the motivation, vulnerability and self belief to truly self love. And these days, practising committed self care builds and maintains my “self love muscle” to stay true to myself while caring for ones and things which matter most. 💞
In a way that is compassionate, authentic, connected and sustainable. And of course there is always room for improvement, but now that is also part of the fun.✨
If this sounds like something you’ve been waiting to be a part of, I’d love for you to join my free Facebook group “The Self Care Syndicate” - just see link in my bio to check it out!😘 #sparklefromtheheart
Today I found out a thing. A very exciting and important thing. I am officially legal to massage Texas mamas! (and dads and aunts and sisters and anyone who needs bodywork) I will be unpacking the table and sheets and warming up my hands and elbows in early 2019. SPREAD. THE. WORD.
I’ve released this week’s new podcast episode early celebrating my 100th episode! WAHOO!
Want to help me celebrate? One very SUPPORTIVE thing you can do is write me a review of my podcast in iTunes. That would mean so much to me. 🎉
Another way to celebrate is to share my podcast with your friends and on social media. I love seeing my listeners post screenshots of themselves listening to the episodes. It makes my day, and helps me reach more people 😊
I appreciate your support, and all of you who listen. Today’s new episode is all about Confidence & Self-Judgment. Such an important one especially this time of year.
CLICK THE LINK IN MY BIO TO LISTEN TO MY LATEST 🎧
Or, listen in iTunes! Enjoy, my feminist loves 💋🎉
Last winter, I launched my 6 Week Self Care Bootcamp, and it’s remained one of my favorite projects. .
As we are closing the curtain on 2018, this is a perfect opportunity to work on what’s next for you in terms of goal setting, self sabotage, and inner narrative. So, I wanted to tell you who I am, and what you can expect! .
My name is Nicole, and I’m an RRCA certified running coach, certified holistic health coach, STOTT Pilates instructor, and researcher. I have a masters in education, and I spent many years teaching intensive creative writing workshops. Around Boston, I teach Pilates reformer and mat classes, and hold workshops on goal setting and self care. I also own Heart & Sole Running. Through my business, I develop individual running training plans, and nutrition plans. .
My path to fitness, wellness, and better self care hasn’t been straight forward. On IG, I talk about my journey. .
My self care bootcamp design draws from my background and interests. .
Each week, participants are sent a document with questions, writing prompts, a meditation, and actions, to tie everything together. And so you’re not going it alone, there’s a 30 minute 1:1 call with me, and we strategize next steps. .
These questions serve to help you further drill down your goals, desired feelings, sabotage behaviors, as well as work on being kinder and more compassionate to yourself. .
I feel so strongly aligned with this work. I love this program. I love working with others on their goals. I love the transformative process of writing, meditation, reflection, and ACTION. .
Link in profile, or drop me a message if you want to know more. 🙏🏻💜🔮#selfcare #selfcarebootcamp #jumpin #goalchaser #selfkindness #compassion #creativewriting #meditation
We’re getting there, buddy. Our holiday cookie baking season has started! Holiday eating can be very triggering for body shame and eating issues. Tips to decrease shame and increase food enjoyment:
1️⃣No food is off limits.
2️⃣Enjoy what tastes good.
3️⃣Practice mindful eating by describing what you observe with all of your senses.
4️⃣Moderation is key.
5️⃣Deprivation leads to the cycle of binging, guilt, and compensatory behaviors, and shame.
6️⃣Ditch “cheat” language because it leads to guilt that fuels the binge-guilt-compensatory cycle.
7️⃣Ask yourself if you’re hungry. If you’re not hungry, get curious about what you’re emotionally hungry for. Decide on how you want to meet your emotional hunger. Physical hunger and emotional hunger are not the same.
8️⃣ Intentional effective emotional eating is okay in moderation. The key is to stop once it’s met a need or craving. After that, it’s not effective and leads to the “ G” word, guilt.
9️⃣ Eat when you’re hungry and 🛑 when you’re full. 🔟 Most importantly -Practice self-compassion. If you have a behavior, struggle or have a misstep, remember that you’re human, progress is not a straight line, you’re trying, and you can try again. 💕😍🙂
Check out my post, “Food is Fuel”, and grab tips on healthy eating and food attitudes that are applicable to both children and adults. Link is in profile. 💕 Kerry ⠀⠀
#healthyeatingattitudes #foodisfuel #eatingdisorders #bingeeating #foodattitudes #anorexianervosa #bulimianervosa #nocheatlanguage #holidayeating #mindfulness #mindfuleating #eatingdisordersrecovery #selfkindness #compassion #mondaymotivation
We are all too quick to point out our flaws, but what if we looked for possibilities instead?
Mind is powerful, it can convince you of things that are not true or useful. Take time to sit quietly and examine your mind and listen closely to your heart.
You see me..... but do you TRULY see me???!!!
"In a world where everyone wears masks, it's a privilege to see a soul".
This struggle is real. Even if you aren’t feeling your own self love right now, you will one day soon. 🙌 ❤️