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Are you struggling to find the right emotion to describe how you’re feeling?
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It’s so wild that even years after we campaigned to have Facebook remove the “feeling fat” emoji from their list of drop down emotions (and they finally did!) that we still have such a long way to go in removing fatphobic and diet culture language from our lexicon.
In the same way that “Afro” is not synonymous with “bad hair day,” “feeling fat” has become tied to a wide range of negative emotions.
And because children are taught to stifle their emotions instead of properly describe their anger, fears and hurt, we are left with the catch-all phrase of “Fat.”
And yet, 🗣🗣 “feeling fat” doesn’t actually exist!
Unless of course you’re literally touching your body to feel fat cells. But because of diet culture, this phrase has now come to mean anything from unloved, angry, sad, anxious, jealous or vulnerable, to a wide range of negative emotions.
Please teach your children that not only is fat OK, but it’s ALSO not a feeling! Give kids the tools to properly describe their pain, suffering and happiness. And remember, we must also practice what we preach ❤️
*Stupid is an ableist term. Please use Unknowledgeable or Confused instead. Thank you!
IGUALDAD EN LAS RELACIONES SEXUALES: SIN UN «SÍ» EXPRESO ES VIOLACIÓN
Ya sabéis que este año estoy menos activa en las redes y con mi blog; temas personales que me guardo para mí. ¿Y sobre qué se me ocure volver a escribir después de hace tanto tiempo? De la igualdad en las relaciones sexuales. De eso que ha dicho nuestra nueva vicepresidenta que sin un sí expreso es violación. Ahora que lo pienso… Igual es cierto que me llevan violando desde hace ya tantos años que ni recuerdo. No sé. Espero que con este escrito seáis capaces de ayudarme a dilucidarlo. Os dejo con él:
¿Sin un sí expreso es violación?
No soy feminista ni machista, ni de derechas ni de izquierdas, ni conservadora ni progresista… No he hallado en mis años de vida adulta ninguna ideología política o corriente social que se ajuste debidamente a mis reflexiones y percepción del mundo. Hasta hoy, que yo sepa, no ha habido una forma de gobierno que haya conseguido la verdadera igualdad y justicia para todos los seres humanos. Lógico, nuestra naturaleza imperfecta no puede dar como resultado un gobierno perfecto. Es por esto por lo que me aferro a las personas que se esfuerzan día a día por mejorar nuestro mundo dejando a un lado sus intereses individuales, aunque no lo consigan, sin importarme sus tendencias políticas o religiosas.
Dicho esto, voy al tema que me ha llevado a escribir este artículo después de tanto tiempo.
El otro día, de boca de la actual vicepresidenta, escuché con verdadero estupor esta frase: «Si una mujer no dice sí expresamente, todo lo demás es no». Como consecuencia, sin el expreso «sí» todo lo demás es violación.
SI QUERÉIS LEER EL ARTÍCULO COMPLETO OS INVITO A ENTRAR EN MI BLOG https://mercedespinto.wordpress.com/2018/07/15/igualdad-en-las-relaciones-sexuales-sin-un-si-expreso-es-violacion .
#feminism #femisnismo #feminismoradical #metoo #machismo #machismomata #noesno #igualdad #igualdaddegenero #sexism #sexismo #opinion #mercedespintomaldonado #escritora #escritorasespañolas #escritoresespañoles
Guys, if your doctor "legally" requires you to get your wife's permission for a vasectomy, see another doctor! There is no legal requirement for spousal consent in any of the United States.
Did you read that in full? You can swipe to see how the conversation started/what provoked this man to verbally abuse me. I know this person.. we dated 3 years ago. Since, he has contacted me in every way he can- through friends, making new dating profiles, different phone numbers, etc. He got me through #pof
Maybe you, like Mark the abuser, think #fat
women get no attention. Maybe you think we’re desperate. Maybe you think we haven’t gotten laid recently or we’re sad about existing as we are. Maybe you think we’re gonna jump at the first person who looks our way cause we can’t get someone on our own.
Fat people are allowed to tell you no. Fat people have preferences when it comes to #dating
and who they want in their space. I know!!! It’s crazy to think we have choices, but we do 💃🏻
Let’s think about the type of mindset and ego you have to have to do something like this. To approach someone, be denied and then to insult them. Men, stop doing this. Take the dub and keep it pushing.
Fat women don’t owe you a damn thing. Not the “yes” you think you deserve because you’re fit. Not the likes or attention. We don’t owe you conversation or sex. We don’t owe you a second look or glance, not the time of day.
Check your entitlement when it comes to your body and the bodies around you. You are not more worthy in a thin body than I am in a fat one. In addition to that, you do not have any rights to my body because you think mine is less valuable than yours. Your body does not make you any more or less worthy of love, respect and dignity. (This post could continue on and dissect the misogyny and sexism that Mark the abuser exhibits here, but I will soon run out of characters and energy).
#datingin2018 #datingwhilefat #plussize #beingfat #beingawoman #sexism
ЖЕНЩИНЫ И ОБРАЗОВАНИЕ
Изучая историю в школе, можно заметить, что на протяжении долгих веков право на образование имели только мужчины. Место женщины - кухня и только в качестве раба для еды, секса и выхаживание детей (я не сказала воспитание, ибо назначали воспитателей мужчины). Традиционно, девочек воспитывали мамы и гувернатки и учили их одному: надо быть хорошей рабой. Мальчики же по наставлению отца изучали разные науки, проводили опыты, учили языки. В общем, возможностей у мальчиков было больше и с женщинами они делиться не спешили.
Еще в сравнительно недалеком от нас 19-м веке в Европе социальное положение женщины определялось знаменитой немецкой формулой 3К: Kinder, Küche, Kirche — с нем.: церковь, кухня, дети. Вот это и были три незыблемых стенда, на которых должна строиться жизнь женщины.
Мы все прекрасно знаем, что чем выше образование у человека, чем больше прокачен его интеллектуальный уровень, тем больше он задаёт вопросов, тем больше он независим и непокорен. Патриархальное общество это прекрасно понимало, поэтому с огромным неуважением отзывалось о тех женщинах, кто решил пойти наперекор отцу, мужу, обществу и начать изучать не кулинарную книгу, а учебник по физике.
В современном мире, патриархальное общество уже изживает себя, но в некоторых, особенно мусульманских странах востока социальное положение женщины сегодня, такое как и столетия назад. Женщинам изменяют, избивают, делают обрезание(чаще всего, это делается в целях избавление от «запретного» удовольствия во время полового акт). Данную процедуру я рассмотрю как-нибудь в следующий раз более подробно.
В России же патриархат так же цветет пышным цветом. Конечно не в той запущенной мере, как в 19 веке, но каждая свободолюбивая женщина, думаю, не один раз почувствовала на себе гнёт мужской доминантности.
Даже сейчас в России масса профессий и учебных факультетов, где женщины либо не приветствуются, либо, того хуже, порицаются.
#Феминизм #feminism #сексизм
#равноправие #патриархат #свобода #сильныеженщины #дискриминация #блог #мысливслух #матриархат #sexism #summer #лето #борьба #женщины #девушки #woman #women #гендерноеравенство #бодипозитив #лгбт #толерантность
after a heartbreaking conversation i had with a Saudi woman, i got an urge to spread information about women’s situation in Saudi Arabia regarding their human rights and freedoms. this whole situation truly brought me to tears. we and women all around the world demand freedom for all women in Saudi Arabia. we also demand for all #maleguardianship
laws to end,, because no human should have the right over another humans’ health, body and well being. women are their own guardians. we demand women to be free to make their own choices, we demand women to not be treated like minors their whole life, we demand for #womenphobia
to end, we demand freedom for all saudi activists. enough talking, we need action. - S
all credits to: @world_citizens_for_saudi_women
. go follow them to support women’s rights in Saudi Arabia.
"Take all the rules away. How can we live if we don't change?" (Beyoncé)
Far too often, we believe the newspaper headlines around migrant ‘crises’. Looking at migrants, refugees and asylum seekers as the problem, establishes a problem. They are calling on us for help. Turning to huge westernised mothering economies for shelter, stability and understanding. And far too often, we turn our backs. We lack compassion and sympathy. Politicians, presidents and the media, convince us that their cohabitation in our society, is detrimental. That their existence is damaging. No one should have to justify their right to existence. No human life is illegal. Warsan Shire wrote an extremely touching poem, entitled ‘Home’. I want to single out and reiterate a few crucial lines (note: Shite doesn’t use any capitalisation throughout the poem - her words are quite literally stripped back to their minimal state):
‘no one leaves home unless home is the mouth of a shark’
‘you have to understand, that no one puts their children in a boat unless the and water is safer than the land’
Nobody chooses to seek asylum or to be a refugee and so, we need to stop acting as those these titles are choices, occupations and ways of life. When your country is crumbling around you, then asylum is likely to be your only option. Each and every person is entitled to this option and we shouldn’t shun people because of circumstances (purely by luck) are better than theirs. We should allow them to contribute to society, allow them to integrate and allow them the right to live. Link in bio. (wow - 3rd time uploading, hopefully no more mistakes, soz guys xo)
Celebrities are people. Fully fleshed, living and breathing human beings. We need to stop idolising them, placing them on a pedestal and worshipping them. Their fame and power shouldn’t allow us to overlook their damaging and derogatory behaviour. Abuse is abuse. The impacts of the act don’t change depending on the perpetrators, so neither should the consequences. Celebrities shouldn’t be protected from the wrath of the law and neither should their careers or reputation. Why do we so easily forget the past of the famous, when they release new music or feature in new films? Their power should not grant them protection. They shouldn’t be insulated from any repercussions. Celebrity culture should not evoke silence. Link in bio.
Late last year, CNN footage exposed that migrant slave markets were being hosted in Libya. Black lives were being sold as a commodity, auctioned on the market. Why in society do we accept all life, but black life, as invaluable? Why are migrants ultimately seen as a fraction of a human being? These people were stolen, stripped of their rights; used, abused and sold. Life is not dispensable and human beings are not merchandise. People argue that slavery is a thing of the past. That speaking about it, raises issues which as a society, we have moved on from. Slavery was, by record, abolished in the 1800s, but this has not prevented it’s occurrence in later years. This has not halted the exploitation of black lives. This happened in 2017. We have not progressed. Link to this poem is in my bio.
The phrase ‘treat them mean to keep them keen’ is thrown around too much in our society. It’s become a way of justifying degrading and damaging behaviours, and overlooking the subtle emergence of abuse. We shouldn’t allow boys to get away with any damage towards women, simply because the societal engrained myth encourages us to believe that this is a symbol of affection. Boys are not only mean to the girls they like. They’re mean to the girls they wish to control, dominate and mistreat. This shouldn’t be normalised or accepted. Us girls need to open our eyes and learn to differentiate between what may be a show of affection, i.e a harmless but cheeky joke, and what remains to be abusive. Sorry boys, but treating us mean, will most definitely not keep us keen. Link in my bio
I wrote this around Christmas time, after the terrible weather we were facing during winter. Day after day, I saw countless posts about finding shelter and food banks for homeless people and so, I thought my article was relevant. Now these posts have disappeared, the hashtags have stopped and our focus has shifted, and so I’d say this article is more relevant than before. The weather changed, but the situation didn’t. There are still masses of homeless people on the streets, but now the weather is warming up and other hashtags are trending, I’ve not seen anybody post about sheltering the homeless and this is exactly my point. Helping people shouldn’t be a trend. It shouldn’t be something you do, simply because you see others doing. Live authentically and help people because they demand your help, not because you saw a post about it in your news feed. #anythingbuthomeless
Link to this article is in my bio.
I am a feminist. This doesn’t mean that I hate men or that I want to see men do badly, whilst women progress. In fact, I stand for men, but equally I stand for women. I stand for equality. I’ve noticed that men are often criticised for outwardly displaying their emotions, whilst women are not. Ideally, I want all boys, from a young age, to be aware that it’s okay to be upset and more importantly, to ask for help and support when upset. I want to reach a stage of cultural understanding, where we recognise that one isn’t defined or limited by a projection of emotions. Holding everything inside is detrimental; crying is good for the soul and a source of healing. You can’t live in harmonious alignment through the restriction of emotions, whether that be depression or elation. Tears show pain, not weakness. Stop using the phrase ‘big boys don’t cry’ and teach your sons that it is okay to cry. Link to this article is in my bio.
Racism is real, alive and growing. Ignoring the problem, does not remove the root of the cause, it only strengthens the issue. Racism is institutional and white privilege manifests from this. I’m not blaming, targeting or attacking anyone for their privilege - it is not a choice, but how you use this power and privilege is. Use the power you have to speak out on issues and try to dismantle the system. Yes, issues like this are still occurring, but they should not be frequenting. Equally, the black community need to work together in unity to combat such issues, to rise above. Taking a back seat, will only coerce a move towards the past. Like Rosa Parks, march to the front and be heard. Stop waiting for others to change and implement this change. As Ghandi said, you must ‘be the change you wish to see in the world’. Link to this article is in my bio.
So this is what it’s all about. I started informally writing from a young age. I used to go to poetry slams and workshops, and competed at a few spoken word events. Writing, for me, acts as a form of escapism from the mundane and the insane. I hope that through this platform, I’m able to confront and hopefully even begin the process of combatting the long list of society’s issues. Society is a construct, a lie; and so, we must work together to deconstruct the unrealistic expectations and negative stigma, bound to certain groups trapped within the system. ‘Ethereal Truth’ link in bio (the above is my blog ‘about’ page)
Ethereal Truth. It took me ages to decide on a name for my platform, my blog and my brand. I wanted a name which was unique, but also honest. A name which encapsulates exactly what I’m expressing. ‘Ethereal’: ‘delicate...in a way which seems not of this world’. The topics which I am exploring, are very delicate and hard-hitting. Often we try to pretend that such fragile subjects, are not of ‘this world’. The word ‘Ethereal’ includes the phrase ‘the real’, which is what I want to serve: real, harsh truths. ‘Truth’: ‘the quality or state of being true’. In one of @rupikaur_
‘s poems, she wrote ‘never trade honesty for relatability’. I don’t write for agreement, acceptance or entertainment. I write to uncover the truth.
I am a writer. I am an artist. I am a poet. Words are my dearest form of expression. One of my main aspirations in life is quite simply, to write. To write on my own experiences, the experiences of others and my surroundings. I created a blog page (etherealtruth.com) with the hope of exposing the unsaid and the uncomfortable. I hope to open people’s eyes to society’s pragmatics. I hope to inspire.
Enjoy all that’s to come.