“When you want to treat your mum bad in the morning you get walked to the bus stop by dad in a pretty black dress,” Mr Blakeney wrote in a Facebook post on Friday.
Yet psychologist Barbara Greenberg told Yahoo Lifestyle that Mr Blakeney’s methods of shaming his son may not have worked. “You teach your children nothing by shaming them,” Ms Greenberg said. “In fact, what you do is you make them sad, and you make them more prone to engage in other kinds of problematic behavior.”
الأخصائية النفسية باربرا جرينبيرغ لا توافق الأب على هذا التصرف وتعتبره عقاب غير مناسب سيتسبب بمزيد من التمرد من قبل الإبن. احراج الأبناء هي وسيلة لا تحمل أي قيمة تربوية للأبناء. .
لو اضطررت تعاقب ابنك ماهي الوسيلة التربوية المناسبة؟ .
#Shame #Punish #Punishment #Punishments #Value #Values #teach #Teaching #Behavior #Behaviors #BehavioralHealth
#عقاب #حول_العالم #غرائب_وعجائب #فستان #مدرسة #أبناء #Kids #Children #تربية #تربية_الطفل #تربية
You become wounded or wise
I learned so much about shame from the brilliant Brené Brown. In her TED talk, she states: “Shame is highly, highly correlated with addiction, depression, violence, aggression, bullying, suicide, eating disorders”. ⍫
Guilt, on the other hand, “is inversely correlated with those things. The ability to hold something we've done, or failed to do, up against who we want to be is incredibly adaptive. It's uncomfortable, but it's adaptive”. ⍫
I definitely advise keeping an eye out for toxic guilt, i. e. absorbing guilt even though you know you did nothing wrong. This happens a lot more than we think, especially for empaths who tend to feel guilty whenever someone is upset. ⍫
A healthy sense of guilt is good for us, especially as an alternative to shame. It urges us to be better when we did actually do something that doesn’t align with our true values. Shame makes us wanna hide in a hole and never speak to the person we wronged again. ⍫
I invite you to look at the balance between shame & guilt in your life & see how it aligns with your integrity. ✨
Fun fact: I once had a weird dream about a semi-famous person on Instagram. I broke into her apartment just to hang out there & I was so ashamed I unfollowed her as soon as I woke up as a panic move. Now I don’t get to see her educational posts all because of silly shame. 😂🙈
This HALLOWEEN!!!!! Hmu for tickets and info. #SHAME
📣Гнев — отрицательно окрашенный аффект, направленный против испытываемой несправедливости, и сопровождающийся желанием устранить её.
Главные слова здесь несправедливость и аффект, если даже гнев направлен на несправедливость, одолев человека он носит взрывной характер (аффект). Какая бы не была несправедливость "взрыв" причиняет ещё больший ущерб, заставляя человека жалеть и стыдиться, когда пройдет гнев.
🛑#anger #shame #взрывэмоций #аффект #гнев #стыд
Its been a rough week going without therapy. During our last session, entirely new memories came up toward the end if the session. T took great care to make sure I was grounded before I left and encouraged me to email if I needed support while she was on vacation. Short of genuine emergency, I doubt I will ever take her up on her offer, partially because I feel its an invasion of her time and partially because I assume I’m “blowing things out of proportion” - like I’ve been lead to believe about myself my entire life - because I expressed completely normal human emotions. ————————————————————————————
Over the week, I took several moments to sketch my thoughts, feelings, and memories on a single page. The left side (primarily) represents my personal actions during my years enduring violence at the hands of men I loved. The right side represents the actions of those men. ————————————————————————————
While I drew most of the doodles, there were distinct moments Evie and Aerie came forward to express their terror, frustration, or rage. Evie marked her drawings (ev) - all of which are pretty child-like. Aerie wanted to blend in, but I see her work in the bold strokes and graphic images. My drawings are more meticulous and mindful - I am far more filtered and controlling. Even in my process doodles, I’m reminded that I gate-keep more than my younger selves do. Im the one whose nervous, embarrassed, and ashamed. They are tired and want to heal. Together, we’re coming to a perfect position of all being ready. ————————————————————————————
#cptsd #ptsd #osdd #bpd #gad #csa #trauma #anxiety #abuse #depression #psychotherapy #recovery #mentalhealth #survivor #ptsdrecovery #shame #neglect #abandonment #sexualabuse #triggered #arttherapy #narcissist #worthless #vulnerability #healing #incestsurvivor #doodles #arttherapy #selfcare #doodling
The PC social justice loons have completely made a great TV series a piece of crap!
The female Dr. Who blows!
And not even literally!
Now each epi has to address a social injustice. Whats next Colin Karpernick?
Story of every daughter and mother.. #shame
#benjaminmillepied #fakenews #fake #shame
It's a shame Benjamin. I am not famous, but I can always ask a lawyer to protect my public image. This is not just a matter of followers I have on instagram. I love you so much I can't be angry with you for so long, because after a while I miss you too much, and you remain a coward. You remain a person I really can't support right now. I am sorry, I don't like fake people.
I tell her
that God is the wind,
that God is whispering,
that God is dancing.
I tell her that our world is all beauty and all pain, that something got twisted,
that something got shamed.
I tell her to run from it, the shame, not the world.
I tell her to run toward who she knows she is, to hold herself, like I hold her.
#daughter #running #shame #poetsofinstagram #wind #wavyhair #Father
🎶 by @musojosh
Will this feeling come to an end or will stay with me forever?
I’m not sure but I’m a little bit scared of the day this feeling disappear because my thought will deep into the most terrified things again.
I’m tired of pretending and also facing to all sh** things.
You are an asshole, but you always think you are a gentleman. I dont know why you need to act like you still really care about me, and why you don’t say to me the truth. I feel shame on you. Please never say that “i’m always here with you even if what matters happen” :)
Sorry boy, but I don’t believe in you anymore.
You used to be my special one,
You used to be the one I want to stay forever,
But from now on,
You are nothing to me.
#stay #forever #truth #believe #nothing #special #happen #shame #here #gentleman #act #coffee #hot #winter #coming #tired #pretending #asshole #bullshit #deep #terrified #disappear #end #goodbye
: “I want you to know something about me. Taking up space in this world doesn’t come easy for me.
One of my earliest memories, I was 4-year-ish old, on stage at a pre-school recital. We were performing ‘I am a little teapot’ or something. I remember cowering in fear at all these eyes staring at me. So, I shielded myself from the attention by holding up my dress just beneath my eyes, covering most of my little face. I remember my mother, sitting in the crowd, frantically waving her hands, gesturing to drop my dress. I was wearing opaque white tights, so all was well. But even from that age, allowing myself to be seen, was a challenge.
I still get triggered today when I share my work with you. More specifically when I speak openly about sex. I want you to know that being this vulnerable is hard for me. I want you to know that I share these more sensual pictures and words as a way to be wholly authentic. I have always been a very openly sexual person but have mostly kept those intimate discussions for close friends and lovers. In a way, this is me testing my own boundaries, pushing myself beyond what I have been told and taught about expressing sexuality as a woman in this world.
I also do it because I believe there is tremendous value in speaking more openly about sex, and because I want to inspire women to feel more comfortable, more empowered with their own bodies and sexuality. There is so much shame, judgement, secrecy, implied conditions, and expectations surrounding sexuality. This applies to those who identify as men, women or some other gorgeous form of gender expression or none at all. Yet, at our core, we are all sexual beings. We are all born and created of this beautiful experience, of this union. Sometimes I feel a lot of the suffering in our world comes from this inability to have open, respectful, non-judgemental discussions about sex.
I have so much to say on this topic. And slowly, I will continue to drop my guard and share more with you. For now, thank you again for being here, all of you. For supporting and honouring my work with respect and kindness, whether you agree with it or not. It means the world to me.”
There is a biological (physical) impact of trauma that affects the nervous system. .
I never foresaw writing about orangutans on my feed but here goes.
Traumatized orangutans in Borneo and Sumatra have better trauma care than we do here in the US. .
Yes, we have wonderful tools and information from @drpeteralevine
, and @irenelyon
just to name a few.
For the traumatized orangutans, Their story is important. They start them at a nursery and feed them well. They go to jungle school where they learn how to survive in the wild. They do not get placed in the wild until they learn the basics for their survival. So much love and attention goes into the care and placement of these animals. .
I’m thankful for the resources available to the traumatized orangutans. It made me ask, where is the holistic trauma centers for people?
Are you an empath too?
Name: Brandon Isaac Sullivan
Alias(es): Mr. Sullivan, "The Man"
Race: Irish, German
Occupation: Business Executive
Sexual Orientation: N/A ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀ 𝐃𝐞𝐬𝐜𝐫𝐢𝐩𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧
Sullivan is a man with a very classy style, often wearing a nicely-fitted suit accompanied by a matching tie or a button-up tucked into a pair of dress pants. His hair is strawberry-blonde in color and trimmed, same with his scruff. As if his style wasn't enough to make someone feel weak at the knees, he's got the face only a real gentleman could have. A chiseled facial structure with angular cheekbones, a toothy, welcoming grin, and confidingly soft crystal-blue eyes. His smile is topped off with a somewhat thick irish accent, making both his voice & laugh very fruity. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ As for Brandon's body type, he's on the fine line between slim and muscular. Especially likes to jog or sprint in his freetime or when he needs a distraction. He's lean, most of his muscle mass being fairly distributed throughout his whole body. Exactly 6 feet tall, proportioned nicely with long arms and legs. Has some chest hair and a happy trail, trimmed. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 𝐏𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲
The way someone dresses themselves is an expression of their personality. Brandon is known to be a particularly serious man, like any businessman would be. He likes to get things done and do them well with no tolerance for pussyfooting. Outside of work, though, he's a lot more laid back and smiles a lot more often. He's extremely flirty, whether that be using his words or speaking with his eyes. Being charming is one of his talents. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What intrigues Brandon? He's very interested those who are very self-reliant yet able to let people in easily, probably because he himself finds doing this impossible. He cannot be honest with himself but expects the opposite from other people. Another obvious flaw of Brandon's is that he struggles with commitment. Although he wants to try getting serious eventually.
Second row, dead center, and so many rough hours but totally worth it. Finally getting to see the Arctic Monkeys was everything I ever wanted and more with all the other great artists I got to see ⚡️#ACLfest #ATX
Are you ready to put it all on the table???
No more secrets, no more regrets from this point on!!!! I believe we all have a calling on our life and to truly live out that calling we may need to let go of our past....forgive yourself for your mistakes and forgive others, live no longer in a space of guilt or shame, but instead joy, bliss, and enlightenment!!!
When you live in a space of high vibrational energy, you can create and achieve what you are called to do!!
This moment from @arianagrande
speaks for every woman.
Objectification is purely your perception of women as a whole.
Your disgust, mistrust, hatred for women makes no sense to me. Never had and never will.
It is so difficult to go out, wear a crop top, look sexy, pose for photos with out the second thought of someone elses opinion.
I still hate myself for going out to party, or taking a sexy photo or merely doing anything but staying home, quiet and alone - because that is the idea someone had drilled into my head .
I'm a whore, I'm not motivated, I MUST be a cheater, a liar, a full of shit, good for nothing but sucking d*** female .
Yeah, that's what a whole mess of you men (and women as well!) have lead me to believe.
And why do I believe it? Because no woman close to me has been brave enough to push through YOUR FEELINGS.
This isn't some new age, 2000, feminist rant:
Being objectified is a daily, (so far) life long struggle. It began when I was a child. When I started growing breasts and my family would 'joke' by telling me to "stop growing."
Making comments about me no longer being, 'their little girl.' Because my two piece bathing suite revealed too much.
Disgusting, isn't it?
As if my family knew any better. As if they or I knew that those comments later lead me to be ashamed of MY BODY.
That becoming a woman is shameful, taking away my youth and forcing me to become sexualized.
A woman? At 12 years old?
That's what you all think we are? I had big tits then and I have them now.
Whether I choose to be sexy or simply be should display a quite obvious difference. .
The respect i deserve does not come from my photos or my nights out or my 'sexual' behavior.
It comes from LITERALLY EVERYTHING ELSE.
Every thing else that I cannot begin to write down because I am a complex human being.
•I should not be ashamed to walk around my own home without a bra on.
•I should not convince a person I love that I CHOOSE to love him and if I choose to be 'sexy' that does not follow being 'sexual.'
•I should not lose dear friends because they are 'friendzoned.'
Jeeze, lawd. Help you all who just don't get it.
I fear for you.
Some people just need to mind their own fucking business bruh. I dont do shit at all!!! I rarely go out and when I do it's with my family or just with my son. I havent had sex in months and this year is almost done and I had sex with just one person and that was my dumbass ex and before that I was 9 months by my own. I dont go around, I dont fuck with different men, I dont jump from man to man and I dont even flirt with anyone at all. I can Express my damn sexuality and show how much I love and accent myself the way I am. Stop judging me and stop talking shit cuz none of u are paying my fucking bills!!!
#INeverLose #independent #independentwoman #Feminist #Equality #like #Follow #Lb #Cb #followme #fuckyou #Bi #Bisexual #lgbt #pride #whore #shame
🤦🏽♂️hmm mmm now I get it 🤔
El día venía bien. Comi fiambres, algo que no comía hace mucho. Comi pan blanco, que no está en mis permitidos mentales, pero aún así lo disfruté, estaba rico y no me sentí mal. A la hora del postre no me tentó ninguna torta, asi que no comí. Cuando me tocó merendar, el hambre fue muy fuerte y sentí que todo se fue a la mierda. Una taza de yogurt beebible con cereales se transformó en más cereales, galletitas dieteticas dulces y dos tostados de queso. Ahora son las 9 pm y estoy muy llena, así que no voy a cenar. Pero no solo no voy a cenar por estar llena, sino porque me duele el estómago y me siento asqueada (psicologica y físicamente). El malestar estomacal no ayuda a no sentirme mal por comer y no me gusta sentirme asi. Es frustrante y dispara los pensamientos de que por como comi hoy voy a engordar 10 kg. Tampoco ayuda a mi imagen corporal, ya que mentalmente ya está distorsionada.
#recovery #eatingdissorders #ana #mia #ttaa #tca #love #loveyourself #youareenough #food #shame #binge #anorexia #bulimia #ed #recoverywins #eat
◾Empieza cada día con un pensamiento positivo y termina haciendo algo nuevo y desafiante, verás los grandes cambios. [🔆]
◾Start each day with a positive thought and end up doing something new and challenging, you will see the great changes.
◾En algún lugar alguien está buscando exactamente lo que tienes que ofrecer. –Louise Hay. ••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••
◾Somewhere someone is looking for exactly what you have to offer. –Louise Hay. [🔆]