This man been hiding his child from the world like drake #shame
Here is the beautiful portrait of our president ,his wife,daughter, of oh yeah & mistress #shame
Did you know that the #1
predictor of relationship failure is contempt?
(*Based on thousands of couples studied over a 30-year period in Dr. Gottman’s Love Lab).
Pride/arrogance can sometimes take root in our relationship when we don’t want to admit we messed up.
In other words, when we feel shame.
I was sitting in my women’s group last night and we were talking about this seemingly mysterious feeling.
I’m still (always) blown away by how much shame runs the show in our relationships.
We spoke about all the different ways we can respond to our unprocessed shame.
We all have different capacities of being with our own shame based on how well or parents comforted it.
When we have a low tolerance for our own shame, meaning, we can’t properly regulate ourselves, it can negatively affect our relationships.
How do you respond when your partner shares their pain with you?
How do you manage your own feelings when your partner is angry about something that YOU did?
Does your relationship make space for repairs?
Is an apology part of your regular routine?
Take note of this important relationship skill this week.
Notice if you really struggle to own and take responsibility for your mistakes.
It may be an indicator that you struggle with some shame.
And that’s okay if you do ... it’s a really hard feeling to be with.
The simple acknowledgement of our shame can start to break the shackles of it.
It can help our partner know it’s not personal when we struggle to be present for their pain.
We can begin to recognize if we avoiding feeling something.
We can begin putting words to it and labeling shame for what it is.
Terry Real perfectly stated ... that our relationship requires us to move UP from our shame, and DOWN from our arrogance.
Our relationship requires us to meet in that sacred middle space in order for love and intimacy to follow.
Can’t have a Shenandoah Valley Pride Festival without these weirdos showing up. Guess they won’t come in and see the awesome booths and vibrant community coming together. Just wanna sit on the sidelines and condemn all of us, welp #shame #MAGA #wrongsideofhistory
Athens' stories: Alexandros Iolas villa and art gallery.
"From 1951 until 1972, Iolas built a 1300 square meter villa on a 7000 square meter lot in Agia Paraskevi, a suburb of Athens There he stored and exhibited his art collection with the idea that one day it would become the "Alexander Iolas Museum".
When he died in 1987, his sister, Niki Stifel, and his previously deceased brother's daughter, Eleni Koutsoudi-Iola became the heirs to his estate. His villa was sold to a real estate developer, but construction plans were held up by the Ministry of Culture that marked it as a site of Greek cultural heritage. Plans to transform his collection into the envisioned museum never were acted upon by the Greek government. As a result the collection was looted and the villa has been vandalized extensively.
The present condition of the Villa Iolas has been a recurring issue in the Greek Parliament, the local Municipality and the Greek newspapers, but also a subject and study-case for artistic and architectural projects." (Source is Wikipedia)
Taking photos of our walls. We are having some rooms painted and I want to be able to remember how to put things back. 🌱
I like things neat and orderly. Safe and cozy. Predictable and tolerable. 🌱
I think I might be heading into a season of testing. How strong am I really? How much can I handle? What will it take to rattle me? 🌱
Sometimes it doesn’t take much to throw me off. Sometimes I surprise myself. 🌱
Keep in mind friend: You are strong. You can do big, scary things. Say it over and over in your mind until you believe it.
SEXUAL VIOLENCE: Sexual and gender violence are the result of (toxic) masculinity combined with outdated sex and gender-based cultural, social and religious norms. Shame is just another thread in this gigantic ball of fuckery yarn.
This cannot be said enough times; patriarchy cannot be dismantled without re-writing the rules of the gender relationship between ALL men, womxn and non-binary folx.
The luxury to ignore these issues is one I do not believe we have, I know I don't! We must keep talking and doing for things to change, all ACTION is required!
This also means questioning EVERYTHING you have been fed by the world around you. We need to take a raw look at the systems in place and do our part in shaping a society where sexual violence doesn't exist! Africa☇
📸 this summer I'll be flaunting my beautiful underarm hair to the discomfort of every mysoginistic asshole😚
Cast, crew, design team—ensemble—of ‘Julius Caesar.’ Very humbled and grateful to have this ‘home’ theatre to perform Shakespeare, under the guidance of Joseph Fuqua (dir.) and Louis Lotorto (verse coach). Brutus is more a challenge than I originally conceived, yet in my efforts I aim to serve the Bard—with every breath a new beginning! Three performances to go. Thanks for all the support, cheers.
Opening night, RTC 7.20.18
PC: Loren Haar