If there’s one message I’d like to communicate through my work, it is:
Language is explicitly and implicitly used as a foundation of the structure of our thoughts, actions and relationships— AND how we use POWER.
This comes back to “Be impeccable with your word”, one of @donmiguelruiz #fouragreements
Kindness based in the omission/avoidance of the truth is oppressive. 🌀In what ways do you see it as oppressive to the recipient of the message?
🌀In what ways do you see it as oppressive to the sender of the message themselves?
I have a lot of ideas about this, but am very curious about how you may have experienced this and/or what comes up for you around it.
Keep it real and honest. And remember just because you want it to be true, doesn’t make it true. Feet on the ground, self-empathize and know your truth before expressing.
No Shame Zone: I’ve done this, and am not perfect. Still becoming more aware of my blind spots and where I can uncover my truth. I’ve messed up and over-promised and under-delivered. I’ve expressed the most idealized version of what could-be. We are all working together, so I share everything with love and healing in mind.
Quote by💭 — Rachel Simmons
*past tense* because it didn’t happen differently. It happened.
You can recover. No matter how low you feel, how unknown the future may look... you can absolutely, little by little find your way through on the journey with self-empathy, self-love and self-respect.
Protecting and celebrating what works/vibes/nurtures/connects my signature self. Grounded in now➕volumes of experience➕intuitively sensing 🏄🏻♀️🏄🏻♀️🏄🏻♀️🏄🏻♀️🏄🏻♀️🏄🏻♀️🏄🏻♀️🏄🏻♀️
Learning that values inflict pain— and when that happens, I want to choose to be a student and hear my heart’s lessons. To be vigilant about seeking out and knocking on closed doors within me— to be trusting & safe to be trusted.
Using internal resistance and irritation to PAUSE and connect with the fact that this experience is FOR me. No matter what stimulated the feelings, I get to rest in knowing it certainly is for me to show up for and use my faculties for and bring kindness and compassion to. When I empathize with myself first, I can empathize with them, and then there’s nothing to forgive.
I’d like to think that the earth has a particular kind of order. Encoded within the seed is the 144 foot, 300 year old Willow tree. The caterpillar will one day have wings. We came to this earth with our final form inside of us. With our dreams to be the best version of ourselves possible in this lifetime. We will do that with the right nurturing. The acorn needs the soil and water. The caterpillar must nourish itself with enough leaves to sustain itself during its time spent in dormancy- stuck in what looks like suspension, a stillness, immobility, but is actually transformation. Trust that the final form you imagine is possible if you are willing to nourish the seeds. If you are willing to fill yourself with the right fuel for the periods of shifting form (even when to other people it may look like you have regressed). Hold close this knowing you have within you, that everything you dream yourself to be (not the dreams you’ve been conditioned into or the ones you’ve inherited from the pressures of others, but the one you came with, encoded in your cellular makeup) already is if you are willing to go where the light is. If you are willing to do the nourishing work. If you can withstand the tyranny of time.
aka use your spine.
Not being responsible for others’ feelings does not excuse me from the work of waking up to how my behavior is a message. The message I intend will not always be what is heard, but it does not invalidate the message or pain it may have stimulated.
I know when I am reactive & messy, albeit authentic, I can be received as dramatic and ‘emotional’😦😥. Those messages can be hard to hear and make the disconnection gap wider. 🚧🚧🚧 In those unconscious, empty cup moments, what is your reactivity pattern? When being presented with an opportunity to reflect on how someone experiences you in a way you did not intend: how would you like to respond?
My personal answer to that is: id like to get much more comfortable grieving alone, accepting the disconnection instead of resisting it out of fear. I think that would help me make clearer requests of what I’d like with a better energy. Same amount of emotion, different package 🎁
At the end of the day, the folks we may really want or expect to hold us may not be available in that time those needs are in the red 📈. Parents, partners... anyone we have formed attachments to that matter, they are the first ones we turn to to help us through our big emotions, EVEN when stimulated by BEING in relationship to them! Be gentle with one another, my friends. We don’t always step in time 🎶 🖤💬@tamararenaye
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“Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing.” -Helen Keller
Thank you, fears, for preparing me for adventure. Thank you, fears, for asking me to listen. Thank you, fears, for showing me where I can embrace life more fully. Thank you, fears, for helping me reach out for connection. .
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Remembering that only I am responsible for my feelings, and the wounded anxieties that can surface when the need for Belonging or To Matter are the roots that connect me back to Choice. To redirect the anxieties and woundedness, gently and patiently, toward the gift of awareness.
Abandonment & Rejection are very human experiences... let the sting of the grief be a call to action... answer the call with compassion. You’re never alone.
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In the spirit of Thanks-Giving, @sourcingourlight
is giving away an audio training in the voice of Marshall Rosenberg, the founder of educational services for the Center for Nonviolent Communication. Contents: 4 CDs/ Running time: 5 hours.
HOW TO ENTER:
🏄🏽♀️Tag 2 empathic people/groups you are grateful for in the comments below.
🏄🏽♀️Enter by 11:59 PM PST Thursday 11/22/18. *Bonus entries with additional tags. 🏄🏽♀️Winner to be announced Friday morning.
I’m so grateful for the practice of NVC, and am honored to share this approach to connection with others with this audiobook. @sourcingourlight
is a space to reflect, and reconnect with beauty & strength within. This #giveaway
is a celebration of the deep gratitude in my heart for those who transform violence in any small way. Even if you have already read Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life, this audio recording is a different training with a similar name in the wonderful voice of Marshall; it’s something literally anyone of any age can enjoy and learn from.
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