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One of the hardest things that we will ever do is allow ourselves to be #vulnerable
after someone else has #hurt
us. We don't give our #trust
easily a second time. Any creature that learns that humans are not #safe
will become #afraid
of them. As much as we want love and connection, we just know that it's safer not to love, not to trust, not to care. So we pull away, shut down our #feelings
and put up our walls. We try to #isolate
our heart in order to #insulate
it from this cold world.
Our primary need in order to open our heart is to feel emotionally safe. That means that we need to be very careful who we choose to share our heart with. If we've been deeply hurt in the past, would it make sense to trust our heart with someone who cannot #empathize
with our pain, who's never dealt with their own emotional wounds or runs away or lashes out with anger?
No, what we need is greater #compassion
; someone who feels our pain in their heart and acts out of love — who shows us that not all people are the same or want to hurt us.
All we really need is one person in this world who gets us, accepts us and makes it easier for us to love our self. One person who can teach us how to open our heart again and not regret it.
There's no way to completely avoid pain in life, but being with someone who holds us tight, keeps us warm and comforts us through it, can help us endure almost anything.
Be the reason why someone is able to love and trust again. Be that safe place for someone to lay their head down and close their eyes because they know that you are watching over them. Be the person who helps someone else find their #courage
, to #love
of being themselves again. -Joel Clemons • Love, Life & Relationship Coach @the.gentleman.wolf