There is an adopted mindset that your partner needs to be your constant form of pleasure. They are the ones that need to service and stimulate you in every way — emotionally, mentally, sexually, physically, spiritually — how much unnecessary pressure is that? It’s like treating our lovers and partners like a drug, not a human being. And not tuning into our own power to heal, help, and honor ourselves. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Tell me if this sounds familiar: You enter in a relationship, the sex is phenomenal for the first few months, maybe a year. Then it gets more dull, redundant, just another means to an end. Many great relationships end because of this. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
As my teacher Layla Martin says, this sets the basis for codependency, or the idea that you are not a sovereign force. It says that another person is the only way you get to feel vibrant, pleasure-filled, worthy of excitement and love. Well, imagine if you were your source of pleasure? If you were responsible for your own sexual needs, you wouldn’t have to rely on anyone to “make” you feel good, or need someone else to tell you that you are worthy of pleasure. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
So this Valentine’s Day, I challenge you to create your own self-love and pleasure practice. To explore your body and needs deeply and wholeheartedly, the way you would with a partner when you are madly in love with them.
The way we see sex is warped, as a means to an end, as something you can be “good” at, and people think there are moves that they can pull out that all one gender loves. Well, let’s put those ideas to rest now.
It is something to be present in. It is a dance, a flow, and whether it is a one-night-stand or a long-term partner — sex becomes a cosmic experience that can bond, heal, energize, and empower both of you. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
This Valentine's Day, let us all celebrate empowered love, sex, and sovereignty in relationships. We are free and whole. We are all worthy of pleasure - alone and in relationship.
That’s amoré ❤️ .
I hope everyone had a wonderful Valentine’s Day full of love, love and “amoré” LOVE ❤️ .
There are so many different kinds of love out there. My world is full of it! I am so incredibly grateful for my family and friends that I hold so near and dear to my heart. ♥️ #Blessed
People often message me and ask me if I’m single. Or because I don’t post photos with a boyfriend, WHY I’m single. I’m a pretty open person, but I think there are some things I need to keep to myself. So on that note, I leave you with the Bible verse below and the 411 that my life is full of love and I choose to live by sera sera ✨💫🌟 My word, after all, this year is FLOW 🙌🏻😉 Wishing everyone a beautiful weekend full of LOVE and #serasera
moments💛😌 xo .
“Love is patient, Love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always hopes, always perseveres. LOVE NEVER FAILS.” - #1Corinthians13
4-8 #Bible #GodsWord
👙: Photoshoot for #Obscür
Intimates 😍 #ComingSoon @irinakap
🇫🇷 Yep, c'est bien une galette des rois en forme de slip. 🤷
J'avais un reste de pâte feuilletée et un reste de frangipane. Donc j'ai décidé évidemment de faire une mini galette. Ceux qui connaissent mon mari ne seront pas étonnés qu'il m'a demandé si je pouvais la faire en forme de slip. (Il m'a même fait une maquette, que j'ai tâché de suivre au plus près.)
#mangetonslip #miam #cestmeilleurenformedeslip
🇺🇸 Yup, this is King's Cake shaped like underpants. 💯
I had a bit of leftover puff pastry and frangipane in the fridge. So obviously I decided to make a king's cake. And those of you who know my husband won't be surprised that he asked me if I could make it underpants-shaped. (He even drew me a picture, which I attempted to accurately replicate.)