SUPER long share, and so many fears in the topic of this post... But that’s how we grow and expand our comfort zones... Right? Here goes:
Unless I’m being comical about being single with no children at the age of 29 in Utah, I’m not one to post about relationships when I’m not actually in one.
Referring to the “find you a man who:” or the “you deserve better” passive/ aggressive and entitled posts... Not my thing.
But I’ve found myself in strange places from time to time, and one where I’ve been questioning myself. It’s silly, but with this damn Utah stigma, I’ve felt inadequate at times for not being married or having children by now. When most people my age from high school were getting married at the age of 19-20, I couldn’t even fathom it. A good portion of them have 2-4 kids. And I still can’t fathom it, even at my age now.
It all started with a run-in with an old friend’s Mom, who asked me if I’d found a boyfriend up here yet, to which I replied, “nope, sure haven’t.” Her response was a pout, followed by, “I’m sorry” with real pain in her voice...
As if the only goal in life is to get ‘Wifed Up’ in order to find happiness?
This belief is shit and archaic.
But the questioning myself really took off with the news of my 5 years younger sister getting pregnant. “Why am I so behind? Is something wrong with me?
Am I’m gonna be single forever???” 🙄
It’s wild how the “norms” of society can suffocate someone and shake their confidence and beliefs...
I started to rethink where I’m at; my routine. “Maybe I need to start being more social. Should I go and endure painful small talk just to put myself in a position where I could possibly meet someone?”
‘Cause I’d rather drop a bowl of cereal on my favorite book and shove a pencil into my eardrum... To be honest...
And then I overheard a conversation between 2 friends. Eavesdropping, whatever. What really drew me in was the tone in her voice- the pain I immediately felt for her even before realizing what she was saying... Her husband had been talking to another woman... [continued in comments👇🏼]
Heading outside eventually leads within..💜
A few captures from the trip to @zionnps with my #weekendwarriors@zacventure@nattylife & @sidehit 🏕🏜🌵
Took a nosedive into a funk when I returned from this trip. On the drive back home to SLC, a painful regret washed over me. The regret was moving to SLC. I moved up for a number of reasons- some more personal that I haven’t disclosed, but mostly to be closer to my family in Moab, and to grow personally and financially (aka get a new job.) But I’m still at the same job I transferred up with. And for some reason, that’s all I could focus on. I kept telling myself I shouldn’t have left Stg because I’m still doing the same damn thing. And if I would have stayed, I’d at least still have Zion. And those were reoccurring thoughts for weeks...
I miss Zion. I miss it so much, it hurts deep in the pit of my chest and feels like a swift punch to the gut every time I think about it. I miss this time of year when the shuttles aren’t running and you can drive up the canyon at your own leisure. I miss the solitude and the silence and the sense of truly being one with #MotherNature when there isn’t a tit-load of tourists running around like chickens with their heads chopped off.
Mostly, I miss being a 40 minute drive away from certain serenity and an absolute soul-cleanse. I honestly don’t care if anyone ever gets sick of me writing about how much Zion means to me and how much I miss it. That place will forever be the love of my life and the home of my soul. I am an absolute romantic about things, places, and people that have literally saved my life. Mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically- Zion is at thee very top of that list. And I don’t think I’ll ever recover from losing the ability to run away to escape the mundane, soul-sucking, and the demise of my well-being caused by witnessing the decline of humanity and compassion in my daily life.
It wasn’t until I started noticing the rest of my life slip that I realized what my pity party thoughts were creating. Always going back to gratitude to turn things around... [continued in comments 👇🏼]
It's not every day you find a friend who loves to get out in the outdoors like you do, let alone one who geeks out on photography, camping breakfast beers, cat memes and overall love for nature. Glad I have this weirdo @nick.reedy as a buddy. He also just had a birthdaywhile in Havasupai last week. Check out his shots of the trip and send him a late birthday wish.. and here he is channeling his inner Tiger at the Wave, on the Utah/Arizona border. #Utahtravels#Arizona#Utah
Oops, we missed #napday , but couldn’t resist the chance to share these cozy napping areas.
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Peek-a-boo dog but not peekaboo canyon
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Colorful sunset over The Mittens and the buttes of Monument Valley 🏜
Funny story about this shot (not funny for me). Prior to arriving at Monument Valley, I had booked an Air BnB for my wife and I. I had done research of where would have a good view of sunset and have the buttes as silhouettes. We get checked in to our cute little cabin and I go outside for what was turning out to be a very promising sunset. •
As I’m snapping pictures and waiting for more colors to develop, I found out about a tiny little detail that our gracious AirBnB hosts left out of their ad posting. Apparently, along with people guests, they also rented out the property to an entire civilization of stray cats! Big cats, small cats, white cats, black cats, cats over here, cats over there, cats in a tree, cats rubbing against my knee. If you know me, you know I hate cats. Don’t trust em. I’m thrilled for people who do like cats, couldn’t be happier for you. But sorry not sorry, I’m not one of those people. •
So I’m trying to focus on this world class sunset, with what feels like the earth’s population of mangy stray cats inching towards me ever so slightly with each passing moment, hissing, fighting, trying to eat each other, and what I could only assume would be a situation of them eating me next. I’m fortunate I got out of there with my life! (And enjoyed the rest of the sunset from inside the house). I won’t even begin to tell you about the trauma I suffered as I tried to cook hot dogs over the campfire. •
So while I do love this picture, it will forever be tarnished by my memory of starring in a less musical version of ‘The Aristocats’. Pretty sunset though •
With nearly 180° of city lights for you to view from up here - not to mention the brilliance of the #saltlaketemple - it reminds us of Charles Dickens when he wrote, "There are dark shadows on the earth, but its lights are stronger in the contrast." www.roofmenu.com
Providing sound and music for Bandaloop @bandalooping while performing their “vertical dance” in the Summer of 2016 for the ASAE Opening night in #SaltLakeCity - Do not miss them if they perform in your city!
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Moab is a small town in the Utah known for outdoor adventure sports. That may not sound like you but there really is something for everyone. Below is a list of 10 activities for anyone from adventurers and adrenaline newbies.
1. Camping is a must in this beautiful scenery. There are some free BLM camp sites along the Colorado river but my recommendation is Sands Flat Recreational Area. Close to Moab with 150 remote sites surrounded by red rock.
2. Hiking is a given with two National Parks minutes away. Check out #itinerarylifenationalparks for guides to both.
3. The proximity to the Colorado River provides great river rafting opportunities. There are multiple companies that offer full or half day rafting trips ranging from class I to IV rapids.
4. Moab is known as a mountain biking mecca. Sand Flats Recreation Area contains most of the popular trails such as Slick Rock trail and other class 4 (out of 4) mountain biking trails.
5. You have to go skydiving once in your life, right? What better place than this adventure capital? We found a deal with Skydive Canyonlands and had a great time. -
6. Strolling down Moab’s Main Street you’ll find a variety of souvenir, book and art shops. Enjoy some window shopping and grab dinner.
7. Jeeping is a great group activity that involves driving straight up slick rock. Try your hand at a 4x4 trail or take a guided tour. -
8. Watching sunrise and sunset is enhanced by the blue skies and red rock. Catch sunrise at Dead Horse Point or Mesa Arch while sunset is great at Arches’ Delicate Arch or the Windows though we also enjoyed the sunsetting at our camp in Sands Flat.
9. Hole N' Rock seems to be your typical road trip, tourist trap. Whether you pay the $8 to take the 15 minute tour of the house completely carved out of rock or not, the trading post, random art sculptures and petting zoo provide plenty of entertainment.
10. Moab swimming options range from hotel swimming pools to the Colorado River. A popular place to visit is Left Hand. A short hike leads to a water fall and jumps from several different heights. This is a fun, easy way to cool off.
We hiked up in the dark, got lost a few times and wandered down unmarked trails. But man, the sunrise surely did not disappoint and we had this whole place to ourselves..
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Sunset at @canyonlandsnps a few days ago. 😍
We weren’t planning to stop here for sunset, but I’m so glad we did. The colors lit up the sky and @bertymandagie was like a kid in a candy store, stoked on life. 😂
Tell us, what was the most beautiful sunset you’ve seen?