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Andy Zaremba

▪️@float_house - Co-Founder ▪️@mindful_mass - Organizer ▪️@mantalks - City Director ▪️@vancouverrealtv - Host 📍Vancouver, BC ⬇️ Connect ⬇️

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Just your typically Tuesday night hanging out with a clairaudient channeler. Huge thanks to @paul.selig for interview. He’ll be running a workshop in Vancouver on Feb. 23rd and 24th. Once we release the episode i’ll include the link to the event page. #paulselig #thebookoffreedom #clairaudient #channeler
I have linked a Gofundme campaign in my bio for Don Howard Lawler to help him cover the expenses required for his upcoming travel to get him the treatment he needs. Here’s your chance to support the man who has helped so many others. And if you have ever wanted to dive into the world of plant medicine, he’s by far my most trusted source and the only one I would confidently recommend to people. #donhowardlawler #donhoward #spiritquestsanctuary #paraelbiendetodos
Last night’s @mantalks was lit! 🔥🔥🔥 Huge thanks to everyone who showed up. And a special thanks to the men ( @alexander.rabu , @michael.tranmer , @mooseangermanagement and @stevecurtis007 ) who took the stage to bared their souls in front of 100 people! Also, big thanks to @saxxunderwear for sponsoring the night and providing all of the attendees with a free pair of underwear. Thank you to @lisa.zaremba.love and @ericapang.art for the support! Stay tuned for our next event on January 16th, 2019. @nickjohnsol , @steeltoeseverywhere , @sherrystrong1 and @kieronsweeney are going to rock the house in the new year! #mantalks #manitforward #vancouver
“If you think you’re enlightened go spend a week with your family.” ~ @babaramdass. Once I heard Ram Das describing “the work” that he had to do while he was with his family.  He said that all he wanted to do was hide away in his room and read the Bhagavad Gita.  But that wasn’t his work.  His work was to eat ham burgers and play cards with this family.  Apparently, his father even used to call him Ram Dumb! We sometimes forget that the work isn’t doing meditation, Float Tanks, Ceremony, Yoga Class, personal development seminars, self help books or our next online guru… For me, “the work” is going fishing with my Dad, keeping my cool while my daughter has a meltdown in public and not eating/drinking myself into a comma (which I succeeded in🤗). The work is what happens moment to moment.  How you respond to every situation you find yourself in.  And, finally, the work is remembering that you’re human and are going to make mistakes.  The work is forgiving yourself.  The work is loving yourself, fully… the glorious mess that you are. Keep going my friends.  And remember; “we’re all just walking each other home…” ~ RD. What’s your work? #ramdass #thework #paraelbiendetodos
▪️Taking Space ▪️ I picked up the term taking space from my old friend @philip_mckernan . Essentially, it means to get away and reflect - at least that’s how I understand it. I find it to be an absolutely critical part of the creation process. Sometimes it helps generate new ideas (which I’m blessed to have many); but mostly for me right now, it helps me course correct. It helps me insure I’m moving in the right direction (as fas as I can tell). Many people don’t take action because of a lack of ideas. Or, sometimes, it uncertainty about their ideas. And that’s a smart approach. Any time we move into unexplored territory the risk of failure is high. And it is possible to fail so hard that it take years to recover. Sometimes, people don’t recover. So to be uncertain and apprehensive is the correct mode of being. However, as the adage goes, “Ships are safe in the harbour, but that’s not what ships are made for.” Humans are antifragile - Antifragility is a property of systems that increase in capability, resilience, or robustness as a result of stressors, shocks, volatility, noise, mistakes, faults, attacks, or failures. So, really, you have two options: Risk getting hurt by staying safe (withering and hating yourself for not taking the opportunities that present themselves to you). Or, risk getting hurt by moving out into the world. So, I say, just start. Then take stock and make sure you’re moving in the right direction. Then course correct as necessary. #takingspace #antifragile
One thing I love about @mantalks is that it always attracts high caliber people. Here are the highlights from our previous event ”The Power of Trust.” Stay tuned for our next event ”Overcoming Adversity” on Nov. 26th! 🚪@lisa.zaremba.live & @ericapang.art 🙏 🎼 @atribecalledred 🎥 @floatingyogi #Mantalks #Menswork #Mensgroup
Last night’s @mantalks was ridiculous! @mattchan77 , Satyen Raja and @angus_reid64 brought the house down! These guys were some of the most powerful speakers I’ve seen in person. Huge thanks to everyone who showed up!!! Big thanks to @lisa.zaremba.love , @ericapang.art and @floatingyogi for the support. Thanks to @connor.beaton and @malina.parmar for trusting me with it. And I’m stoked for the next one on Nov. 26th featuring @mooseangermanagement , @stevecurtis007 , @alexander.rabu and @michael.tranmer ! Stay tuned for the event launch. #Mantalks #menswork #mensgroup #vancouver
It took a long time for me to be in a place where I felt like I was ready for marriage. Luckily, I found a woman that was willing work through all the hard stuff and was strong enough to grow with me to make that possible. I look forward to a life of continued growth, support and love with @lisa.hau.love. ❤️ #marriage
// Trust is the theme of our next @mantalks event // Trust is the critical element that’s completely integral for any functional relationship to persist.  Trust influences practically every aspect of our everyday lives when it comes to learning, romance, business and our behaviors.  Yet, many, if not all of us, have struggled with it. The reasons for this are quite obvious; once we’ve had our trust violated it’s equivalent to receiving a wound.  We become defensive (sometimes for good reason). It’s actually just as risky to trust ourselves as it is to trust others.  We’re all influenced by our individual biases and we make mistakes all the time.  And it’s tough to get around that (one way is having really honest friends – they’ll at least tell you what they really think instead of just doting to your every thought). Our minds are always balancing opportunities for short-term selfish gains, with longer-term goals that would be more beneficial which influences our desire to be trustworthy. There’s plenty of evolutionary reason as to why we trust.  In certain experiments, even monkeys get upset and throw bananas at researchers when they feel like their trust has been violated.  So why do we trust?  Despite being risky, trusting others can bring great rewards.  And, frankly, we have to!  In tribal society, we reaped huge benefits when the group cooperated. Today, we have to trust that others will produce resources that we can’t.  We trust that our children are being properly educated.  We have to trust that the government is acting in our best interests [I know, that’s a tough one (however, one indicator might be that our country does function well)]. Through being in management positions for most of my working life, I’ve learned that trust generally lets the organization function much more smoothly.  Why?  I think mostly because of the unspoken code that people want you to believe that they are competent and want to maintain that reputation.  And, when you empower people to make their own decisions, they tend to make good ones – not always, but often.  To trust is to take a risk.  And that’s why I consider trust another human superpower.  #trustissues
A short clip about how we define ourselves from our upcoming release with ex @bclions_official great, @angus_reid64 on @vancouverrealtv. #Vancouverreal #podcast #BCLions
I had a conversation with a friend about how to really make an impact in the world.  How could we create real change that wouldn’t mess up all of the good things our culture has bestowed upon us?  We actually live in one of the best times in history.  Poverty is decreasing at an astonishing rate –we’re more likely to die from obesity than starvation.  We’ve eradicated many terrible diseases. Life expectancy is at its highest level world wide.  We live in the least violent time in history (despite what the media reports). We have more human rights than ever. Even human caused environmental catastrophes are decreasing.  Sure, there’s still a ton of problems that need to be solved:  Environmental concerns - specifically global warming and environmental toxicity.  And the human proclivity towards tribalism.  The bigger problems on my radar.  Fortunately, there’s positive headway being made on both of those fronts.  Through a process called ‘dematerialisation’ (where technological advancements replace unnecessary technologies) – the greatest contributor to global warming is industry, followed by buildings and, fossil fuels.  With human rights on the rise and violence decreasing, we’re making great progress on the tribalism front.  Solutions might lie in regulations, but, since I consider myself a pragmatist; what can we do in the in term to make things a little better?  One practice I’ve adopted is the transmutation of negative emotional energy –  or, creating a “culture of kindness.” How?  Instead of internalizing negative energy that has been directed at you; simply sit with the feeling, recognize it, look at it from different perspectives, then let it go or even transmute it into positive energy.  Realizing that when someone directs that energy towards you, it’s probably more about them than you – That’s transmutation.  The next step is to transmit genuine positivity as frequently as possible within your daily interactions. Practice it with anyone – say something kind, lend a helping hand or even just acknowledgement.  Kindness can be spread virally and in this way we can create a culture of kindness that will help lift everyone up, instead spreading negativity.
Last night four inspiring men bared their souls in front of a packed house. Big thanks to everyone who came out, this wouldn't be possible without you! Huge thanks to the speakers: @ben_weir , @dave_weale , @vancitylifecoach and @liem_mybnblife And thanks for all the support form the @mantalks team @malina.parmar and @connor.beaton. Our next event on is on Oct. 22nd and will be announced soon. #mantalks #entrepreneurs
// Viewpoint diversity // One human characteristic that has great utility but can also have grave consequences is our proclivity towards group identification. Tribalism is a great source of strength and is one reason groups bond and are willing to work together towards a common goal.  But it also has a potentially terrible downside; it turns anyone outside the group into “the other.” Once we draw circles around people based on shared qualities or belief systems, we run the risk as seeing them as outside the group.  They then become easy to demonize.  It’s true in that for a group to operate smoothly that it generally has to have a shared belief system, mission or purpose.  A shared belief system (one role that religion/nationalism/teams etc. play) creates trust within a group.  How?  If two people belonged to a group with a shared belief system, they could each assume that the other person has at least some shared values which would allow them to trust each other more freely, adding a common understanding that makes working together easier.  Personally, I’ve been part of several communities that have had a shared belief system - we all have.  Because I’m low in personality trait agreeableness, I tend to less afraid to point out flaws within the groups ideology, which can be meet with hostility.  Here in lies the danger.  Once a group shuts down viewpoint diversity, it becomes unhealthy.  Here in lies the antidote.  Viewpoint diversity (or you could call it free speech, or thought freedom) is a mark of a healthy group.  Meaning they allow room or even have it built in to their sets of shared values.  Viewpoint diversity creates a self-correcting mechanism that allows unhealthy or untrue ideas to be identified and then changed. This is generally hard for people because once an idea has been internalized, it can become part of their identity.  Which means if the idea is proven wrong or flawed they take it personally, instead of just an adjustment to their idea.  How do we not take corrections as a personal hit?  It starts by being OK with being corrected (reducing fear/shame about being wrong) or, being less identified with our ego. #tribalism #viewpointdiversity
The other day I brought E to her first day of school. I’d been mentally preparing her for weeks, but, when we arrived at her school, she started crying.  It was gut-wrenching. I held her hand and told her that I understand; I hated going back to school and always felt anxiety.  I told her that she has to be brave and I took her by the hand and we walked in.  She avoided going into her class for about 10 mins. But, eventually, she mustered up the courage.  As difficult as it is, I believe fear has a bad rap. Do any of these sound familiar? “That person acted out of fear when they did that.” “Fear holds me back from reaching my goals.” “Greed wouldn’t exist without the fear of scarcity.” Here’s the reframe: What if fear is existence calling you forward?  It indicates what you should be paying attention to.  Acutely, fear can keep you safe.  Chronically, it tells you if you don’t face that ongoing problem you’re going to suffer the consequences. It tells you to pay attention to the things you’re avoiding; the more you ignore them, the louder they get.  Humans are hard-wired to react to fear (the fight or flight response happens faster than the conscious mind can recognize it). We’re constantly assessing threat.  We constantly look for what’s wrong with the situation – hence our negativity bias. It’s how we’ve survived as a species.  When we detected a threat we have two options; protect ourselves, or, hunt it down. The phrase ”everything you’re searching for is just outside of your comfort zone, ” is true.  Fear is the resistance you feel before you break through.  It points to an opportunity.  An opportunity to be brave.  The best way to overcome any fear is to expose yourself to it.  When you do, a remarkable thing happens; you realize that you’re strong enough to deal with it.  After repeated exposers you’ll start becoming habituated.  And, eventually, the fear will diminish. The truth is you’re ALL IN in life whether you like it or not – A fact none of us had a choice in but all have to contend with.  Wait for your fear.  Watch for it.  When it arises, be grateful.  Listen and pay attention. #fear #bravery #courage #reframe #resistance #atypical
▪️Memento Mori▪️Reflecting on my own mortality has been one of the most powerful motivators I’ve drawn on for the past 10 years or so.  I believe it’s good to tap into multiple forms of motivation – imagining your worst and best case scenarios is the equivalent to the “carrot and the stick” methods of motivation.  Thinking about these potential outcomes helps you attempt to move away from what you don’t want, and gets you moving closer to the things you do.  I honestly believe that fear is your friend (despite it’s bad rap). You can reframe it as awareness telling you what to pay attention.  Sure, we can all get high-jacked by our emotions; but it’s an ongoing calibration process.  Think about your emotions as nothing more than a barometer letting you know how close you are to getting/being what you want.  Having a future aim is equally important.  However, that aim will shift as you move closer.  Being reminded of your worst and best case scenarios helps you make decisions.  Ask yourself: is my present action going to move me further away from what I don’t want or closer to what I do want?  However, despite our efforts, eventually, we’ll all plunge through the thin ice we walk on.  We’ll be thrown into a world of chaos.  The worst part; chaos is infinite, ever changing and will consume you.  Eventually, mother nature will devour us all.  This is why I love symbols like the Ouroboros.  The snake eating its own tail is the perfect depiction of mother nature.  She gives us life, then takes it away.  These symbols help me remember that ever single person is contending with this fact.  Again, I’m reminded of one of my core beliefs: EVERYONE is doing the best they can with what they have.  When you see people from that perspective, compassion becomes easy.  And that includes compassion for yourself.  If you need a reminder, pick up a few mementos that remind you of this idea and create a daily practise of checking with them (I picked up a few stone skulls from the Shipibo tribe during my last journey in Peru). This practice has helped me immensely  Photo: @pierreturtaut #mementomori #paraelbiendetodos #dailymotivation #compassion
▪️Humility as a Superpower▪️Having humility maximizes your chances of success by allowing you to fail often.  Beginning any new venture, at first, you have to be OK with not knowing what you’re doing.  This means accepting your incompetence at the new thing.  Don’t worry, you’ll learn.  You can apply this idea to anything: a new business, artistic endeavour, a healthier lifestyle or even expressing new ideas.  People have an aversion to failure and tend to procrastinate out of fear.  But really, the fear of failure is the fear of judgement.  This is why humility is one of the highest moral virtues.  It’s not because you’re supposed to be fine with looking like a fool.  It’s because the willingness to look like a fool is what allows you to ‘play’ many different ‘games.’ By doing this you’re actually learning a metagame - bigger than one game.  The metagame is learning and being able to play as many games as possible. The more you play, the better your chances of winning.  And the more you win, the more you’ll be invited to play.  Then, it starts to snowball.  This is how people can become hyper successful.  The reason success is a moral virtue is because more successful you become, the more you’re contributing to society.  If you weren’t contributing to society, you wouldn’t be rewarded for your efforts; because, of course, society or the market rewards people for supplying them with what they need/want.  This is why people admire heart.  Having the willingness to get up after a loss and try again.  But it all starts with the willingness to fail.  Over and over. The easiest way to get there is to not identify with the outcome.  A loss doesn’t have to be a hit on your ego; don’t take it so personally.  Losing doesn’t have to detract from your sense of self worth.  In fact, it can add to it.  You can be proud of the fact that you took a chance.  People will admire you for it.  This mentality allows you to be more fluid.  Once you get there, you’ll be able to play as many games as you want. Think of the metagame as one big game that runs over the course of your entire life. It starts with humility and being willing to fail. #humility #entrepreneur #entrepreneurlife
▪️Commitment▪️Next week I’ll be making a big commitment.  @lisa.hau.love and I are getting married!  She’s made a big commitment to me, now it’s time to solidify our relationship.  To say that fear hasn’t crept in would be a lie.  Of course, many of us have fears around commitment.  We fear being stuck in something we don’t want, we fear loss of freedom or making a mistake.  A common fear we all face is social judgement. When we publically state “I’m all in,” we risk the potential of being proven wrong and damaging our credibility.  When we’re committed, there’s a very good chance we’re opening ourselves up to a world of pain.  Not only our pain, but the pain of others, too.  Essentially, commitment is risky.  No wonder so many of us have commitment issues.  The most powerful lessens I’ve learn about commitment came with another word.  I came to this discovery during a 10-day personal development emersion where the exercise required 100 % commitment to complete, and that’s it.  It didn’t matter if I did it right.  What mattered is that I saw it through, all the way to the end.  After the experience, we had to write down the different stages (states of being) we went through.  I only had two words on my list: Commitment and Acceptance.  Acceptance came to be just as important as commitment.  Meaning, that once I committed, I also accept everything that comes along with it.  Sure, it sounds daunting.  But, usually, something remarkable happens when we commit fully.  When I face tough decisions, I’m always reminded of this phrase: “Fate loves the fearless.” (not to say that fear isn’t there; it just means that I do it anyways). More often then not, when we go “all in,” something good will come of it.  Sure, there’s risk.  Inherently, risk is risky.  However, it’s also risky to not take a risk!  So, when the time comes for you to commit, assess all the factors you can, then, take a chance!  It’s all we can do.  Then accept the consequences of your decision.  Just know, that if the choice you make is done in good faith, people are generally forgiving.  Which makes commitment a bit less scary. #commitment #acceptance #marriage 📸: @iliaphotocinema
▪️Make the best of it▪️ When resistance to whatever ’is’ creeps in, I’m reminded of this quote - ”I wish it need not have happened in my time," said Frodo. "So do I," said Gandalf, "and so do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.” #bcfires #resistance #towhateveris #gandalf
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